20 12 On June 28th, the 66th United Nations General Assembly announced that the pursuit of happiness is a basic goal of mankind, and happiness is a universal goal and expectation of human life all over the world, and decided to designate March 20th every year as "International Happiness Day".
Each of us yearns for happiness, seeks happiness and pursues happiness all our lives.
When we were young, we thought that happiness meant growing up.
When we grow up, we feel that happiness is originally in childhood. It's so painful now
When we are in love, we feel that if we get that person, we will be happy with him.
After getting married, we found that only those who leave this person can be happy. Otherwise, it is pain!
When we have a child, we pray for the child's health when we are pregnant, and that is happiness.
Immediately after birth, I thought of what early education class to give him. When I study, I must make my unrealized dreams come true by my children and make them become people. I think this is happiness.
If it's just health, then this child is too mediocre and painful!
When children are young, they should manage their diet every day. He believes that children can be independent when they are older, and making money is happiness.
When a child grows up and has his world, he feels happy to have him around every day when he was a child. It's so painful now
When I am not in society, I feel happy when I make money.
When you really need to work hard to make money, you find that when you have less money, you suffer, and when you have more money, you also suffer.
Around money every day, living for money all day, what about happiness? Farther and farther away. It really hurts!
Middle-aged people should be the harvest season of life, and theoretically they should be happy.
But what about reality? The pressure of unemployment, the pressure of economy, the pressure of marriage, the pressure of old people and children, the pressure of children ... where is happiness? It is all pain
We fantasize that the people we love are getting old slowly, thinking that that is the specimen of happiness.
When the real day comes, I find that aging is so fast and cruel.
Imagine someone who should be rocking slowly in a rocking chair, sitting in a wheelchair, wiping his ass with his hands and taking out a stool.
What's more frightening is that that person doesn't know you, hits you, scolds you and spits on you. What a painful thing it is.
I have reached the last moment of my life. Looking back on this life, are you happy? Once happiness has become an illusion.
What is in front of me is painful. Where are you going? The interpretation of this life is coming to an end, as if it were a failed role, so painful. But there is no time to play.
Why do we strive for happiness all our lives, but in the end there is only pain?
Because we pursue happiness in the wrong way.
The happiness we pursue is temporary and constantly changing. In the words of Buddhism, it is short-lived.
It happened that this day was also the day when Sakyamuni Buddha became a monk. The eighth day of the second lunar month.
Siddhartha, the son of King Sudoku, saw the sufferings of human beings just because he left the palace, and then thought about his beautiful wife. All this will be the ultimate decline. He wanted to pursue his own happiness, so he gave up love, left the dust, purified Sanskrit, developed a unique bodhicitta, and finally obtained Buddha's fruit.
It can be said that Sakyamuni Buddha is a teacher of happiness. He told us the truth about life in the universe and showed us a way. He and Qian Qian never pursue temporary happiness, which is the way all happy people go.
If we go along this road, we can also mention the fruits of happiness to them.
The so-called happiness that we people pursue is temporary and impermanent, and can turn into pain in the blink of an eye. Our illusory happiness is like a white spot on the blue cloth, but it is not the final background color.
Why? Because our hearts are wrong. All our pursuit of happiness is based on me. Not altruism.
When I was a child, I thought I would be happy when I grew up. Because I have an idea. I want to be happy. This is a kind of self-persistence.
I think happiness is within reach, but I have never thought about what I want to do. When I grow up, I can't accept the reality, so I feel painful.
Hold yourself as something real, but ask, which one is you, eyebrows, eyes, nose, mouth, ears, body limbs, hair and skin?
Love is because I love him and want him, so it is better to say that I fell in love with the feeling of liking him. If you fall in love, you will get his illusion. So there will be temporary happiness.
After getting married, I found that family life needs dedication, which is for the benefit of him and his family. This kind of effort is always reluctant, even sometimes unilateral, without results and returns, and sometimes there will be betrayal, which is too painful. Because I am too persistent about love and the people I love.
Treat your lover as your own, but don't know that he is just your partner. Cause is consistent, cause is born and died. I don't know how to cherish the present karma. I cherish it and leave it. This is what goes around comes around.
When you have a baby, you just want it to be healthy. The older a child is, the more expectations he has. Because I think he is my child, I have given so much for him, so I want him to grow into what I want. That is happiness.
If not, then he is a bad boy and he is suffering. Treat the child as your own, think it is your own accessory or product, but don't respect and love him as an independent person.
Whether it is a lover or a child, we usually love them in the way we think is right. I don't know that to really love someone is to give him what he wants. He feels good.
We pursue happiness in order to be together. Including the lover. Children should have fun under their knees. I can't accept that my lover has his own space and ideas, including his own private money. My children will eventually have their own lives when they grow up.
Our love is overbearing, like conjoined twins, and it is extremely horrible.
A father who is very popular on the Internet recently. Take care of the children at home full time. But this child chose to end his life in America.
Force the child to speak in English before the age of three, otherwise he will not answer. You must write in English after you are three years old, otherwise you won't communicate. When I was eight years old, I asked my children to cook for fans, and crowdfunding paid for it. Cooking meals for children every day is never the same, but the dishes must be made into English letters. Later, I even made the children's bit by bit into a museum.
Another terrible thing is that it is stipulated that children can't take the first place in the exam because they are afraid that children will gain the pride of being the first because they have learned the first place. If you pass the exam, you will be punished for eating McDonald's. Originally, children liked it very much, but after being punished once, they couldn't eat any more.
In middle school, children are allowed to come first. Later, children were the first in the school, the first in the district, and the best in the city and province until the university. Along the way, I don't know what it's like to be with children.
In order to train children and let them experience the survival in the wild, they are cooking food with fire. My father is facing it and eating his normal food. In order to train children to make money, let them pick up waste products and sell them when they visit their classmates' homes. All kinds of educational methods were unacceptable at that time, but they were regarded as anecdotes.
As a psychological counselor, I am very responsible to say that the children trained in this way will definitely have psychological problems. What's more, there has been trauma from a family with divorced parents. And the shock of the death of a good friend. I should have been sent to see a counselor a long time ago.
But his father has been living in his own world. This smug parenting style often ends badly. Other children did not commit suicide, but refused to contact their parents.
Why? Parents' love has done them too much harm. These parents have strong egoism. I don't know that the truly successful education is to make children become healthy, independent, happy and independent individuals.
You are so persistent in branding your children. Where's the baby? If children can't live, they can leave, such as going to other places or going abroad. Or death.
In fact, in the process of children's growth, thinking about death has been revealed. Like the funeral label in the song list. For example, the tattoo logo on your body commemorates your dead friend. For example, his philosophy major. Such a child, more and more should let him communicate more and give him more vitality.
Happiness is always more important than success. Although many parents will say that I only want my children to be happy, I do it for their happiness. But what you do is to make the child unhappy.
What I hold, what I hold, hurts children and parents. When children hate their parents, when children are far away from their parents, even if children are successful again, their parents' happiness will be long gone.
That's it. Growing up, no one told us that happiness is more important than success, and no one told us how to get closer to happiness.
Others believe that happiness is higher than senses, such as physical contact, pleasant sounds and beautiful objects. Admittedly, these are the origins of happiness, but the happiness obtained in this way is also very superficial. Some people even take drugs to get such pleasure, thinking that this is happiness.
How can we get closer to happiness?
In fact, true happiness comes from the heart. If people want to be happy from suffering, they must start from the heart.
From an early age, we feel that no matter how good our academic performance is, we can't bring real happiness, and no matter how much money we earn, we can't bring happiness.
In modern society, many people leave their homes in order to make money, some people do whatever it takes to make money, some people overdraw their lives, some people take bribes and bend the law, and finally only get pain.
Why? Because the beginning is wrong, the seed is wrong and the heart is wrong. We study to make our parents happy or outstanding, and we earn money to honor our ancestors for our own benefit. When we study, we hope that others do worse than ourselves, and when we make money, we hope that we earn more than others.
These are precisely the causes of trouble. Seeds of pain. When someone learns more than us, they can't accept it and get a big blow. When someone earns more money than they do, we get jealous and angry. But there are always some people who surpass us. We and our families are caught in a strange circle and can't be happy.
If parents know how to appreciate their children, they should blossom as soon as possible, and the results will be fruitful, neither urging nor comparing. I don't say that the color of the flowers is bad and the long fruit is too small. Appreciate, admire and satisfy.
Don't change your attitude towards children because of your grades, don't be sad and happy because of outsiders' comments, educate your children to be kind to others from an early age, and hope others will bless you.
Tell your child that no matter how good your grades are and how much money you earn, your parents' love for you will not change. We just accompany you, grow up with you, and accompany some happiness and unhappiness in your life. When you are unhappy, we are willing to support you and listen to you. Of course, you can say nothing. That's your freedom. Yes, you are free. Live the life you want in this life. Son, what do you want to live?
Many children don't know what they want to be when they grow up. Because their parents have never given them such rights and freedoms.
Happiness needs altruism. To help others. Even the smallest thing. Can bring happiness to yourself. The source of happiness lies in the heart. Not in the outside world.
Only a broad-minded person can experience happiness. How big your heart is, how happy you are.
When we let go of our children and bless them, we are happy now. When we are blessed children, we are also happy.
Letting go, or letting go, is the secret of happiness. Bless the past, bless the present and bless the future. Although the heart of the past is the heart of the present and the heart of the future cannot be obtained, the blessing is always right. This is the origin of happiness.
Please give yourself enough sincere wishes.
Of course, it doesn't mean that we have enough blessings to be happy forever. The sun also has sunrises and sunsets, flowers bloom and fall, and the fate between people also has life and death. Even people themselves are just passers-by in this world. Say goodbye to the world one day.
At that time, I will leave happily. This is one thing. Some people feel sad and don't want to leave their relatives and friends and lose their lives. Some people feel that they have had everything in their lives, and they are perfect and can't let go. This is natural, just like falling leaves return to their roots.
Gains and losses come from fate, and the heart does not increase or decrease. But you can live to death and even smile. Quiet beauty, like autumn leaves, is not another kind of happiness? Then, in the soil and in spring, there will be new leaves and new life.
If relatives and lovers are old and don't know themselves. Even if you beat and scold yourself, you should feel that at least he is still alive, which is a good memory in the future.
Seeing someone recording her senile dementia mother on the video website now, talking to her mother always seems to be telling others, and sometimes she doesn't even know him. But he still recorded the process, and the recorded moment was happy, and looking back later was also happy.
Satisfaction is an eternal feast. Happiness is a kind of inner abundance and satisfaction.
Live in the moment. Happiness is a kind of serenity and wisdom.
Are you happy on International Happiness Day? Be happy from today.
After many years, every day is a happy day.