However, even after reading so many experience stickers and listening to the experience of so many predecessors, you will still encounter some problems when choosing picture books.
1, weak water 3000, only one spoon.
I wonder if there are any parents of loving children like me. Every time, she carefully selects a series of picture books for her, roughly determines the cover and main content, and only chooses one of them. No matter how you seduce her: other books are just as good-looking, and the ones behind are more exciting. She only trusts the one who fell in love at first sight.
A year ago, I started a series of "Pet Cats", with ten themes such as surfing, dressing and sandwiches. As a result, my daughter likes cat surfing best, and she talks to me 2~3 times a day, and doesn't touch books on other topics at all.
The results are as follows: first, other books have become furnishings; Secondly, maybe I need to read the same book several times a day for the next period of time until I lose patience.
It is said that this is a world famous book. Why not?
There are many kinds of children's picture books, domestic, foreign, Chinese and English, which often make us choose. We often choose to look at the recommendation and evaluation of netizens before making a decision. Every time we see the words "children's picture books must be selected" and "children's picture books TOP 10", we will be moved and set off at once. We thought to ourselves: with the personal verification of so many precious mothers and the positive feedback from so many children, we don't believe that you don't like it.
My daughter is 3 years old. When I entered kindergarten, I chose David to go to school! The series of picture books is intended to make her feel the problems that David encountered in the famous works and learn how to deal with group life. You can also contact your school life, which should be more substitutive and convincing.
When I was excited to get the book and was eager to give a lecture to my child, I found that she was not interested at all and told me bluntly, "Mom, I don't want to listen." I added, "Many children like to watch it. Do you want to listen first? " The child still turned me down mercilessly.
Child's voice: Don't think about it, I want to think about it.
3. Mom is too anxious.
I don't know if there is too much competition in modern society, or if we are used to instilling knowledge into our children in advance. When we choose picture books, we will unconsciously fall into an arrogant cycle. When the child is 2 years old, he should be able to read books at the age of 3. When a child is 3 years old, it should not be difficult to think of a 4-year-old book. Therefore, we will unconsciously buy books beyond children's understanding. When children don't like it, they are too picky and difficult to serve.
When my daughter was two and a half years old, she browsed a series of picture books introducing the geography of China. Because she felt that the child needed to know, she bought a set for the child without hesitation. However, when I wanted to tell my children about picture books, I found that many contents exceeded their basic cognition. For example, the picture book introduces Teng Wangge, but the child has not yet established knowledge about other places and places of interest, and she will not understand how to explain it.
Child's voice: Mom, don't worry, please wait for me to grow up slowly.
4. love me, love my dog
Find the same doll: My daughter likes cats, rabbits, monkeys and pigs, so she only likes to read picture books about cats, rabbits, monkeys and pigs. If the cover or theme of the picture book is about ducks, elephants, geese and other animals that don't catch a cold, she refuses to read the book. I don't think it's far-fetched to describe children's naive idea of "love me, love my dog".
Last month, I thought it was time to expose my daughter to some financial concepts. So I chose a set of picture books for her to be trained by petty financial experts and financial businessmen, with eight themes, namely, aunt Xiong bargaining, piggy driving injury (insurance), stingy grandma herding sheep (savings), Mother's Day gift (barter), greedy mice visiting the supermarket, and small housekeeper (cat bookkeeping). Unsurprisingly, my daughter likes the series of Piggy (Insurance) Injured by Driving, Kid in Charge (Cat Bookkeeping), Piggy's piggy bank, Rabbit Breeding, etc.
This preference may lead to the limitation of parents' book selection, and children's favorite animals must be taken into account. Some picture books with good content can't get into children's eyes because the protagonist is not their favorite type.
In recent years, I have accumulated some experience in buying picture books. In view of the above problems, I want to sum up the coping strategies with several key words: buy one get one free, second eye beauty, temporarily press the bottom of the box, self-package, and put it down when it is time to put it down.
1, buy one get one free
Whether children love only one book in a series or some picture books with the theme of small animals, we can adopt this method. Before talking about picture books, we make a good match in advance, grouping books that one child is interested in with books that another child is not interested in. Then make a good rule: children need to listen to the matching books before they can listen to her favorite books.
In this way, we will find that children will listen to books that they are not interested in. Sometimes, we will have other gains, and children are likely to be attracted by books that they are not interested in. Gradually, they will also realize that whether the content of a book is interesting or not depends not only on the cover and the protagonist of the story.
2, the second eye beauty
When we show our children a book with a theme at an inappropriate time, it may arouse their disgust. It means it happened at the wrong time, or they didn't make eye contact for the time being. At this time, don't force children to read, but temporarily collect them and wait for the opportunity to reopen.
For example, when children enter kindergarten for the first time, they may be experiencing separation anxiety, and hearing the words school, teacher, classmate, etc. may be very contradictory. So if you have to tell her the picture book in kindergarten at this time, they will be very resistant. You can talk about this kind of picture book when they are relaxed or have a good impression on something in kindergarten.
The first time my daughter saw a dinosaur-related book, she didn't catch a cold at all, and she was even a little scared because she was ugly. Later, I came into contact with Piggy Peggy. Because George liked dinosaurs very much, my daughter was relieved at once. Later, after she liked the flash, she became more interested in dinosaurs. I thought of taking out that old set of books about dinosaurs again, and sure enough, the children showed great interest.
If you can't fall in love at first sight, it's not bad to try to be a second-eye beauty.
3. Bottom of temporary pressure box
If you accidentally buy a book beyond your child's understanding, you must be willing to put it away. We don't need to pull out the seedlings to encourage them. When the child's intelligence develops to a certain extent, we will go to see a picture book suitable for her. For children aged 0~6, it is more important to cultivate reading interest and reading habits than to acquire knowledge. Deliberately raising the height may bring troubles to children and affect their reading interest, which we don't want to see.
However, putting it away does not mean that it will be a permanent bottom. You must remember to organize picture books regularly and let your children accompany you to organize them. They will pick out what they are interested in. At the same time, you can also put away books that your child hasn't read recently. In this way, every once in a while, new blood will be injected into children's bookshelves, constantly giving them a sense of freshness.
4. Self-packaging
I think many parents can't escape a difficult problem, that is, telling a story over and over again until they collapse. Do you always say the same thing? At the beginning, I also like to talk about the same content every time, for fear that every time it is different, the children will say that they are wrong.
Later, I wanted to try to change my mind. Children's thinking should not be so simple. When I tell Chinese stories, I will intersperse English to give children a sense of freshness. I will also think of an anime plot when telling a story and interact with children. In a word, I hope to add something new every time. Of course, I will also encourage my children to talk to me, so that they will not be too bored.
5. Let go when it's time to let go
If a picture book has experienced "three in and three out" and still can't win the favor of children, it means that it really has no fate with children, or that the content of the book is really not attractive enough for children. At this time, don't be a pity, give it to others, and put it down when it's time to put it down!
For children, the significance of cultivating reading interest and reading habits is far greater than acquiring knowledge. We all attach great importance to choosing high-quality picture books for our children, but we also need to put our minds right. Not every book can win the favor of children at the beginning of reading. To maximize their own value, parents need to be patient. The above is my personal experience sharing, hoping to help my dear Bao Dad Ma Bao.
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