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I am a person who is afraid of trouble.
I once thought that if I didn't travel and get married in the future, I would invite everyone to dinner in the future. Marriage is a matter for two people, so why bother! The wedding is just a show for everyone to see. It's thankless and exhausting, and almost all my savings are spent. Not worth it!
Some people say that the wedding is to tell everyone that we are married and get everyone's blessing.
In my opinion, it is far-fetched to say that marriage is true and blessed.
In reality, only the closest relatives will bless you, others just spend money to eat a big meal and watch a performance.
They are more concerned about when to serve than the touching moment on the stage. Afterwards, the discussion is more about whether the appetite is enough, which food is better, which groomsman is handsome and which bridesmaid is beautiful ... (On the other hand, I actually thought so when I attended other people's weddings)
There are also those bad marriage customs that make people vomit, but they have to be executed like puppets. What's more, they have to keep smiling at all times.
Maybe I am too extreme to demonize the wedding, or maybe I am afraid of the infinite pressure after the wedding.
But I am more afraid of family disappointment, and I am afraid that my loved ones will be dragged down by themselves and pointed at by others.
"I heard that his son didn't even have a wedding when he got married. What a shame! "
"At first glance, he is a poor boy. He can't even afford a wedding! "
"There is no wedding, is married. After marrying this family, you will definitely have no good life! "
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My mind is a mess, and I have been doing complicated psychological struggles inside.
I asked three hot moms.
This time, I want to hear their opinions!
In my opinion, the wedding is of course a must!
Both of them are registered, why do they care about the wedding? Just like giving birth to a child, you are already lying on the delivery bed. A little harder and you can have a baby. Are you still afraid of the last pain?
The sense of ceremony is too important for girls (many big articles have said it, so I won't go into details here). Moreover, I believe that 99% of girls have been longing for weddings since they were girls, and they all hope to have their own wedding that will never be forgotten.
Most people who consider not having a wedding are boys. And their reasons are nothing more than that: the wedding is too red tape and annoying, the wedding configuration is just a formality, and the wedding doesn't have to be just a show for others.
Those who are afraid of trouble and money can keep everything simple and have a warm little wedding! Those who are afraid to show off are actually afraid to make a promise to their lover in front of everyone. If you are afraid of commitment, why did you marry her? Since you say you love her, why can't you abandon those childish ideas and give her a simple and grand ceremony?
Getting married is a happy event. Of course, it should be aboveboard and made public, so that everyone can know how lucky and happy you are. Not having a wedding feels like stealing chickens and dogs, and getting married feels like not getting married. Life is dull and boring, and memories of future weddings are blank. Don't you feel pity and lack?
Although the wedding is complicated and sometimes troublesome, it is a unique love movie, which is worth collecting and replaying. E began to watch our wedding video when she was two years old, and she could also feel the happiness and sweetness of her parents.
Many early education coffees don't say that love is very important for children's growth. Isn't this a good way of early education?
Many people say that the wedding is a form, a once-in-a-century DVD, from PS to wedding photos that your mother can't recognize. Zipa said that Zhong Feifei even hit the nail on the head and pointed out that "the wedding is a big event! Awkward! Ridiculous! Contradiction! Self-satisfied A privately held temple fair! "
Although I laugh my stomach hurts, I think the wedding will still be held! Those who oppose holding a wedding are actually tired of the routine wedding and the wedding custom that can never be reconciled.
A sense of ceremony is the most precious thing in a wedding.
Marriage is really for living. Every girl must become an ordinary housewife after the wedding.
In her long life, there are not many days when she can be the protagonist and confidently accept everyone's attention. Just like the entrance ceremony (although it doesn't matter whether you can graduate or not, how you live in school or how many points you graduate), doesn't ordinary life need the ornament of ceremony? It is also needed.
Weddings are more important to families than individuals. They don't want to save face, but only when they see your wedding can they feel at ease, complete their life mission and send you to happiness by themselves.
This topic is a bit interesting. I heard that the topic of "seven tyrants" is very hot, and everyone has different opinions.
Among all sentient beings, I still think: the wedding is really necessary!
Wedding is a ceremony for new people; For the guests, it is a witness; For the man's parents, it is "marrying a wife" and for the woman's parents, it is "marrying a daughter". This once-in-a-lifetime historical moment must be memorable.
In ancient China, weddings were more grand and exquisite than now.
The bride needs a crown to get married, and the man needs to carry a big sedan chair to get married. Worship heaven and earth, worship Gaotang, and respect each other. The luck of being born in the world, the kindness raised by parents and the touch of the other half to start a new life are all expressed silently in these three kinds of worship. Lift the red hijab, the husband and wife make cups, tie their hair and get married. Every moment is sacred and real.