When a child enters adolescence, which "hidden rules" are taught to him as soon as possible, so you can avoid detours? Don't talk nonsense, don't want to be a microphone. Kiki complained to another classmate in front of several classmates the other day. Unexpectedly, as soon as she turned around, she was known by the defendant. The defendant immediately asked Kiki why she gossiped about him behind his back, which embarrassed Kiki. I didn't expect to be gossiped by others after only mentioning one sentence, which made me angry. Adolescent children, different types of personality characteristics are more obvious, all have their own inner feelings. They are not as pure as the basic education stage. Frankly speaking, the campus has actually become a small social development.

The first rule of living in this small society is to clarify the truth that "good words don't go out, gossip spreads to Wan Li". Don't, don't, don't cultivate the habit of bad mouth, don't speak ill of others behind their backs, and don't cultivate the bad habit of taking words. Don't talk about your personal privacy, and don't let others know about your family; Don't gossip about classmates, just say the advantages and good things of others; Don't be a microphone, and don't tell others secretly. You should know that "talking too much will lose", not only in colleges and universities, but also in the future.

Don't force yourself to unite. After Yang Yang entered the second grade of junior high school, he found that many boys in his class knew how to smoke. In order to make you look united, Yang Yang gradually learned to smoke quietly, and even skipped classes and was promoted by his friends. Adolescent children are very concerned about the recognition of their peers and are worried that they will be contradicted. Once you realize that you are different from others, you will feel very strange. There is a word in psychology called "peer work pressure", which means that children give up their feelings for fear of being run by their peers and make choices suitable for others in order to gain the acceptance of their peers.

As adults, we also manage ourselves and forbid ourselves to do things we don't want to do, which is very difficult for adolescent children. Especially for boys, in order to combine with others, they may learn to smoke, learn to drink and even skip classes, go to Internet cafes and play games. After children enter adolescence, they must be told "don't force themselves to combine", especially knowing that they are on the wrong road and need to force themselves to combine, which will only make themselves more miserable in the future. Therefore, it is necessary to pay attention to shaping the child's strong heart, accurate cognition and creating personal hobbies. When faced with the problem of withdrawn personality, children can remain rational, adjust their emotions and make appropriate rational choices.