Everyone is familiar with the story of the race between the tortoise and the hare. Every time this story is finished, parents should warn their children that they should learn from the tortoise and succeed step by step. Don't be arrogant like a rabbit and lead to failure. But if I were that child, I might ask, why does the tortoise race with the rabbit?

As we all know, the tortoise can't outrun the rabbit. If the tortoise and the rabbit race a hundred times, even if the rabbit loses this time, the remaining 99 rabbits will easily win. The tortoise's victory can only be hoped for the carelessness of the rabbit and other unpredictable small probability events (such as the rabbit twisting its foot), which is much smaller than winning the lottery. If your child is a tortoise, you will only get countless failures and great blows if you let him race with other rabbits.

So the tortoise is really so useless? Of course not. Turtles have some advantages over rabbits. In another way, your turtle may shine. For example, compared with the endurance of rabbits, regardless of distance, whoever runs for a long time is likely to be defeated; Or simply don't run, see who has strong combat capability and strength. These are all things that turtles are good at. It may only be a matter of minutes to shoot rabbits.

In life, we will meet all kinds of extremely anxious parents. When they see others playing the piano well, they will give their children piano lessons. Seeing other children swim fast, let them take swimming lessons; Seeing that their children have learned a lot of knowledge, they will give their children early education classes. Like a poor turtle, dragging children and rabbits to race again and again, and suffering from failure again and again.

In fact, every child has its own unique highlights. What parents need to do is to carefully observe and care for these bright spots, instead of forcing their children to fall in love or engage in what they require according to their own preferences. This is the homework that every parent should do. This kind of work is not easy. According to scientists' research, children's talent can be judged by some external manifestations, such as being particularly fond of certain things, being particularly sensitive to certain things, or being full of great research enthusiasm for certain things, which need parents to discover through daily observation. Of course, these are just the seeds of talent. Parents should help their children develop their talents through correct guidance and education.

Parents should constantly fight against their narcissism, endure their children's seemingly deviant practices, constantly act as a shield for their children and resist malicious or well-intentioned persuasion in society. This requires more effort than following the crowd and asking children to learn this. But when their children grow up, I think every parent who has experienced these things will be sincerely gratified by the original hard work, because they will get better and more.