It is certainly ok for a woman to stay at home and be a full-time mother when she is not at work, as long as she wants. Your wife may not want to miss every child's growth, her toddler, her babbling, and her first call to mom and dad.
On the other hand, if a woman doesn't go to work, she has no financial resources. Maybe you will say, I will ask my husband for living expenses. He is responsible for supporting the family and I am responsible for taking care of the baby. This is not a contradiction. I think the biggest problem is that you have lost the opportunity to contact this society. Did your parents send you to school with great pains just to get married and bring up children? Live by attaching to men and become a yellow-faced woman who is bossed around by men?
Independent, forever. No matter, feelings or money. I think the most important thing is a person's knowledge. The ancients said: "If you don't know, you will worry more. Taking care of the baby at home has lost the opportunity to broaden your horizons. How can we grow and find ourselves better?
Even if a woman is married, she is an independent individual. Don't give up her thirst for knowledge and have higher requirements for herself. The rice cake mother with millions of fans has been a full-time mother from the beginning, but through her own efforts, she shared her experience with fans to make money and realize her life value.
2. Home is a gentle haven and an excuse to paralyze yourself from facing others.
Women stay at home with their children for a long time, as busy as dogs who are too lazy to tidy up and don't wear makeup. All they have to do is wash their faces every day, because a baby's crying will upset all your plans and be available at any time.
Taking care of children makes women develop an inertia, too lazy to socialize, and indulge in the ups and downs of taking care of children behind closed doors, saying to themselves: I take care of children, I don't need to dress up, I don't need to dress up for anyone, I don't need to make money, and the baby is still young.
These are all excuses. I have two children of my own. People often tell me: If you take good care of them, you will succeed. Is a woman's success reflected in bringing a baby? It is also said that a woman's greatest success is to marry a good man. I'm depressed. When a woman goes out to make money, she has her own "career". Is it impossible to take care of your family and children?
3. Women's career is not a great career, but love and persistence.
A few years ago, I accidentally paid attention to a Beijing girl in Weibo. She is in London, majoring in animation. Her husband is an architect named old R. Her name is. When I paid attention to her, there were only a few thousand fans, and now it has reached tens of thousands 100. She gave birth to two lovely daughters after marriage. In the process of taking full-time care of the baby, she taught herself Montessori early education and taught her children early education. At present, she has tried to write "Notes on Su Qi and SULA's Early Education Games (0-3 years old)". This is her love and persistence. Xiao An has his own official WeChat account and insists on writing more. She is also the headline writer.
Keigo Higashino said in the book "Transformation": "Without solid things, spiritual and material support cannot be formed".
What we need is not a great cause, but a love and persistence. If you have a dream in your heart, don't be afraid to realize it. If you dare to do it, it will find you one day.