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A netizen asked questions on social platforms:

Other netizens immediately replied: My first formal contact with English was in a small class in a three-year-old kindergarten, where I taught simple English. Later, at the age of four, I entered the first English remedial class. I should have learned it long ago, but I still can't bear to say it now.

I know I'm a loser in this respect, but it's too early for the subject to let his children start learning English at the age of two and a half. Early education can be provided, but early education for the sake of early education is unnecessary.

Literally speaking, advanced education refers to providing children with education that is not suitable for their age. It is obvious that this parent is rushing to let his two-and-a-half-year-old child learn English.

In fact, there are not a few such parents. Why do they give their children "advanced education"?

Modern society, for many adults, has bid farewell to the competition on the material level, and then "sublimate" the education of children for competition. Parents develop their children's intelligence prematurely, and even force them to master a lot of knowledge and skills that they can't deeply understand or experience, just to make their children look better than other children's children.

What is hidden behind advanced education is the so-called parents' excessive oppression and selfish utilitarianism. On the surface, parents want their children to get a better education, but in fact they just want to satisfy their own ostentation and extravagance.

Children should not pay for their parents' selfish ideas. Parents' education methods and children's growth environment will determine their sprint posture on the road of life. Parents should stop keeping up with the joneses and pay more attention to their children, so as to avoid the adverse effects of advanced education on themselves and their children.

1. For parents,

If parents push their children to the outside world too early, children may learn to be independent ahead of time, but at the same time they lose time to play with their parents, making them feel insecure.

Parents who force themselves to study will have resistance, and the distance between parents and children will become far away, which is something that all parents do not want to see.

On the other hand, the cost of education in modern society is very high, and parents' investment in education may bring a burden to families and affect normal life.

2. For children

When children are not in primary school, their understanding ability is limited, and they are more engaged in rote learning than really mastering knowledge.

Therefore, after entering primary school, because children have mastered the knowledge in books in advance, they will not spend too much time and energy to consolidate and further study after class.

Senior one and senior two are an important period to cultivate children's way of thinking. Children's achievements at this stage should not be underestimated, but parents should know that it is more important to cultivate their study habits, which will affect their independent learning ability in the future.

In addition, studying in advance obviously violates the law of children's physical and mental development, which will make children lose their enthusiasm and interest in learning.

Parents should stop this kind of lose-lose practice in time, so as not to damage children's mental health development and affect their normal study. You know, finding the right way to educate children is the way to really let children win at the starting line.

1. Cultivate children's interest

Interest is the best teacher, and good habits are the basis for children to carry out autonomous learning reasonably. For most people, learning is a boring process. Without the promotion of interest, they will feel like a perpetual motion machine, repeating meaningless operations.

In fact, no one is born with a lack of curiosity. Therefore, when children are young, they always ask "why" around their parents. They will be emotionally curious about many things, which is actually a manifestation of curiosity.

And learning is the process of satisfying this thirst for knowledge. Therefore, cultivating children's interest in learning is of great benefit to parents' meetings.

2. Pay attention to study habits

Good habits will accompany the child's life and even change the child's life. To some extent, having good study habits means winning at the "starting line".

Good habits can make children study and rest regularly, do things in an orderly way, and be more lively and active. At the same time, they will also make children more independent, learn more actively, and even finally achieve the goal of self-education.

It can be said that the formation of habits is the foundation of everything. Of course, it is necessary to cultivate good study habits step by step, and parents' correct guidance and proper supervision are needed. This is a process that is repeated and finally solidified.

3. Appropriate early education

In principle, parents can judge according to their children's acceptance. As long as children can accept and understand, they can learn knowledge beyond their age appropriately.

Let children learn knowledge suitable for the current age, don't force them to instill it, leave some space for their independent thinking and exploration, and improve their observation and independent thinking ability.

Everyone has heard the story of pulling out the seedlings to encourage them. Parents should not let their children become seedlings to be pulled out, but let them grow up step by step. Education is to give children more choices in the future, not a way for parents to compete. Let's be rational parents together, give our children a free land, and let him run to his castle freely.