When I get married, I laugh at you and cry.
When I were you, I would know why I cried and why I laughed. ...
The annual Mother's Day is coming, and my mother is one year older, with more silver hair and many deeper wrinkles. My mother is in her early fifties, but she is still elegant, elegant and loves to dress up, but the traces of time have been verified on her face. When I became a mother, I can more and more realize how deeply my mother cares for us, selfless love, asking for nothing in return. I just hope we can live better and better.
Recently, I listened to the book A Good Mother Is Better than a Good Teacher written by Yin Jianli. I want to be a good mother, how to educate my daughter and how to improve myself to be a qualified mother at the moment when I have children. As long as I like books and articles on parenting and how to accompany my baby at home with high quality, I start playing games with my children and keep punching in every day. I hope my children will become excellent and grow up happily in my heart, but when my daughter is over one year old, I will make trouble.
Remember to attend Mr. Fan Deng's lecture. If you feel tired when you get along with children, there must be something wrong with your education. How to live in harmony with children and how to achieve high-quality companionship should start from the little things in life.
For example, the book points out that many parents will accompany their children to do their homework. In view of this common phenomenon, Yin Jianli pointed out that it is wrong to accompany them. Because you don't do homework with your child, you can really cultivate your child's consciousness. With this awareness, children can regard learning as their own career. In this way, children will not study in order to "complete the task", and learning has changed from compulsory obligation to their own "work". It can be seen how important it is to cultivate children's self-awareness. Only by understanding the meaning of learning can we develop the ability of self-control more subjectively. Long-term companionship and supervision will make children rely too much on their parents. If children are unconscious, they will try their best to be lazy and will not take the initiative to learn. Learning has become the biggest burden for children, which is very harmful to long-term development.
The book also points out: three correct attitudes towards children, absolute trust, full freedom and perceived love.
First of all, we must maintain trust in our children. Trust means avoiding controlling children. The control of children comes from fear and distrust. I believe that children's nature is beautiful. What we have to do is to understand, understand and trust children from their perspective. As a mother, give more guidance when necessary, and can't always interfere with every detail. The so-called control is not love, but imposing one's expectations on children. Only when mutual trust is generated can children be more willing to talk to each other. A healthy parent-child relationship begins with trust.
Secondly, give children full freedom. Children naturally yearn for freedom, and this nature should not be bound. As a mother, giving children more freedom means giving them full choices, listening to their ideas, communicating and coordinating more, and realizing parent-child harmony. Giving children the right to choose and establishing their own rules is often easier to implement.
The last and most important attitude is love. Parents love their children, but more importantly, let them feel your love. Love should be shown, spoken out, so that children feel that they have always been loved. When children can't perceive love, they will fall into loss, self-blame, or pain, which will lead to rebellious psychology. Children are waiting for love, positive language, don't label children at will, the right words can make children fully perceive love.
It is not easy to educate children, pay attention to small things, start from small things, start from the side, cultivate children's good habits, correct children's small problems, and take care of their small lives, but children grow up only once and are worth paying. Especially the early enlightenment education, knowing its importance requires us to keep learning and making progress. Everyone can be a good mother and every mother can be the best teacher for her children. As a mother. My thinking and cognition are limited. How to grasp the education of a child with infinite possibilities requires continuous learning, improving one's education level, and influencing children through words and deeds in small things in life.
On Mother's Day, as a mother, I expect that I can pass. Three years of family-style early education needs the company of parents, especially mothers. Parents' language will affect children's future vocabulary and learning ability, and even affect their moral quality. And my mother has a profound and far-reaching influence on me. Children who grow up in the original ecological family will have the shadow of their parents. How to put an end to their bad educational cognition needs to start with their own self-cultivation. For me at present, I should first seize the three years of early education. Motherly love can't be expressed in words. She is delicate, warm and safe. My mother's selfless love for me will continue to my daughter, and my filial piety to my mother will also be reflected in my daughter and affect her. Can you go home often and see if you can be your mother's little cotton-padded jacket? In the future, I will rely on my mother to find a home like a child, feed back my mother's hard work like an adult, and know what my mother needs. At that time, I will be in my thirties. After all, filial piety is the best example.