Children's moods often fluctuate. What does it matter? How can parents help their children solve such problems? Parents should pay special attention to the subtle changes in children's psychology and feel the reasons why children will have such emotional instability. Expression 1: Feeling of "fear" or "shyness" Jie Jie, a freshman in kindergarten, is very cheerful and active, and gets along well with children. She is a very adaptable child. But when communicating with the teacher, he changed completely: when the teacher talked to him, he looked like he had done something wrong, immediately lowered his head and didn't dare to look at the teacher at all; The little hand kept changing positions and looked nervous. When the teacher asked a question, it was obvious that he had just spoken the answer loudly with his partner, but as long as the teacher asked him to answer alone, he immediately blushed, stuttered and spoke in a low voice like a mosquito. Why is this happening? In fact, he just lacks a sense of security and a sense of security from the teacher. Therefore, he is not confident in front of the teacher, and he is always cautious and obedient to Nuo Nuo for fear of doing anything wrong. Guiding principle: caressing communication When he has the above-mentioned nervous performance when communicating with the teacher, first I pretend not to know what it is. Just use body language or expressions such as "touch his head, squat down and look at him kindly and smile at him kindly" to respond to his nervous performance, and indirectly convey the signal that "the teacher is very friendly" to "dilute" his anxiety. At this time, if we show great concern, or directly intervene and ask with "language", it will make them more nervous and uncomfortable. When doing this for the first time, J.J.' s reaction was "alert"; And when I sent him such a friendly signal for the second time and the third time, he finally accepted it with a grain of salt, and he began to respond to the teacher with a smile. When psychological counseling asked him to answer questions, he walked up to him and constantly encouraged him with his eyes, language and body movements. Of course, this kind of encouragement should include the sincerity that children can feel. No matter what he said is right or wrong, the teacher tries to find a bright spot to affirm him. Let him further appreciate the "authenticity" of the teacher's praise. Shortly after preschool education, J.J.' s nervousness was relieved in front of the teacher. Answering questions gradually transits from "stuttering" to "complete narration", and then to "raise your hand to answer" and "speak loudly and completely". Sometimes, J.J. will run to the teacher: smile at the teacher or pat the teacher and walk away. Although he didn't speak, this little detail is enough to show J.J.' s full trust in the teacher. Performance 2: tough appearance, fragile heart. Kaikai's children often have conflicts with their children. As long as he doesn't do what he wants, he must win with his fist. If the teacher points out his mistakes, he often protests or directly "attacks" the teacher. Why are children so stubborn and extreme? This kind of children, often the family atmosphere is not harmonious, or the parents' attitude is rude, and the education method should not affect the children. Make children have the psychology of guarding against and resisting everything, thus reflecting this psychology in action. Often its tough appearance proves its inner sensitivity and fragility, which also creates the external appearance of children's "cynicism". Guiding principle: to create a harmonious family atmosphere, indeed, due to lack of security, it will lead to a series of external manifestations of psychological problems such as timidity, timidity, sensitivity, introversion, extreme and stubbornness. Therefore, for such children, parents are advised to start from themselves: gradually change from authoritative parents to democratic parents, gradually create a harmonious, democratic and reasonable family atmosphere, give full play to their role as role models, and gradually guide children to develop a peaceful and friendly character and communication habits. Early education performance 3: My mother is very dependent on her children in our class, whether she is in a "big change" or not. At home: I'm fine with the nanny. Once my mother comes back, I will stick to my mother. When I was sent to the garden, the nanny came to the garden in a good mood, but as long as it was sent by her mother, Xiao Yan had to cry in a big mess: "I want my mother, I want my mother, and my mother won't leave ..." When there was no mother, Xiao Yan was sensible and reasonable; Once her mother is around, Xiaoyu is quite headstrong, unreasonable and even crying loudly. Why is Xiaoyu completely different from her mother? The reason is the lack of security caused by the "maternal love" that children can't get. In our daily life, there are many babies like Xiaoyu. With the acceleration of social rhythm and the improvement of living standards, the proportion of children with this phenomenon is increasing. Many parents often leave their children with grandparents, grandparents or nannies because of their busy work. Although children lack everything in material conditions, for preschool children, maternal love, the most critical link, is often not guaranteed. Guiding principle of early education: Full maternal love Although a large number of snack toys and beautiful clothes are used by parents as a way to convey or compensate "maternal love", it is precisely the most important point that has been ignored: meticulous emotional stimulation from the mother is the basis for children's sense of security satisfaction; Various spiritual exchanges with children are the premise for children to obtain spiritual pleasure. The "symptom" of light rain is obvious "lack of maternal love". Because of the lack of direct parent-child communication, children's emotional dissatisfaction leads to children's insecurity. As a result, children can't form correct and normal personality and emotions, which seriously affects the development of children's emotional intelligence. Giving meticulous emotional stimulation to the skin is the basis for the baby's sense of security and peace of mind. At the same time, the mother gives the baby all kinds of spiritual communication, which is also the capital for the baby to be happy and face life with a smile. Buying new clothes and toys for children is secondary. The key is to leave enough time for children, play with them more, meet their emotional needs and enhance the affection between parents and children. That's all that matters. Conclusion: Parents should always pay attention to their children's psychological changes and help them solve some psychological problems correctly when re-educating their children. Children's lack of security will make them have no confidence in doing things. Parents can enhance their children's sense of security through the above contents.