14-year-old daughter is in Grade 2 of a school in Xicheng. When I was a child, Ms. Liu and her wife had just stayed in Beijing. They were busy with their work and left their children at their grandmother's house in Tai 'an, Shandong. I didn't come to Beijing until I was going to primary school. "At first, we only focused on children's learning. Children are not particularly close to us. They have only been a little bit in recent years, but after we had a second child last year, we began to agree. Maybe she has entered puberty. We don't understand many ideas. " Ms. Liu scratched her head when she mentioned it.
In a chat, my daughter solemnly told her mother to transfer her grandmother's three-bedroom apartment to her own name, while her grandmother's two-bedroom apartment was transferred to her younger brother's name. This not only shocked the mother of the child.
There was a boy 18 years old before. Because his mother gave birth to a second child, he insisted that his parents transfer, otherwise he would not give birth to a second child. As a result, his parents didn't have a second child.
Selfish children care too much about themselves, only pay attention to their own happiness and happiness, rarely consider others, and everything is mainly to satisfy themselves. Why are children selfish? Many parents will be puzzled. In fact, from the perspective of human development, infancy is a self-centered period. This is an instinctive reaction to survival in the process of animal evolution.
On the one hand, children are naturally selfish. When children's psychological development has not yet reached the mature stage, children often simply determine that "I am the world". Although this self-centeredness has gradually turned to accepting others and reducing selfish behavior with the passage of time and experience, children are still stubborn and cannot accept fair and correct opinions.
Although selfishness is not a big problem, it is difficult for a person who is unwilling to share anything with others and has a strong sense of monopoly to form good interpersonal relationships with others. Therefore, it is very important to overcome children's selfishness and cultivate children's awareness of sharing with others.
To this end, mom and dad should do the following:
(1) Don't spoil your child. Children don't want to share it with others, which has a lot to do with parents' doting.
(2) Children are not allowed to engage in specialization and form a certain "fair" environment in family life, which is undoubtedly of positive significance to prevent children from developing the sense of "exclusive enjoyment".
(3) Let children understand that sharing is not a loss, but mutual benefit. The reason why children don't want to share with others is because they think sharing is a loss.
(4) Children can be trained in sharing behavior from infancy, such as children holding mirrors, parents holding keys, parents gently and happily handing the keys to children, and then taking the mirrors away from him. Through this kind of repeated communication, children learn reciprocity and trust.
(5) Practical opportunities shared with children often allow children to carry out lively and interesting activities with them.
(6) Set an example for children. Mom and dad should be role models to share with others and always take the initiative to care for and help others.