With the increase of age, the respiratory function of the elderly will decline to some extent. So when sleeping at night, the elderly need to inhale more fresh air to get oxygen and exhale more carbon dioxide.
Therefore, when the baby sleeps with the elderly, it will inhale more carbon dioxide, resulting in insufficient oxygen intake for the baby and affecting brain development.
Many mothers are busy with their babies' brain development, eating imported formula and attending world early education classes. However, I never thought that the baby's brain development would be affected by sleeping with the wrong person.
Excessive care of the elderly has seriously affected the baby's sleep quality;
Most old people spoil their children, especially when they sleep with their babies at night. Even if the baby is asleep now, they are always worried about whether the baby will kick the quilt, whether it will be hot and so on.
★ The old man worries too much.
Cover the baby with a quilt for a while, touch the back and sweat for a while, maybe touch the baby's limbs to see if it is cool ... unconsciously disturb the baby's deep sleep and affect the baby's sleep quality.
★ The old man can't listen to the child's crying.
As long as the child cries, maybe he wants to wake up and chirp, the old man immediately hugs him to sleep or feeds him quickly.
The baby's deep sleep is frequently changed, and if the shallow sleep is over-coaxed immediately, it will rob the baby of the opportunity to try to sleep again. Over time, babies will wake up more frequently at night and need more coaxing and feeding from adults to fall asleep again.
It was possible that the mother's pat would give the baby a minute to adjust the sleep state and then go to sleep, which became a bad habit of not holding, not breastfeeding and not sleeping.
Sleeping with the baby is harmful to the elderly, especially to the baby.
Compared with the past, young people now have more children than 10 years later, and old people are almost 60 years old when they have grandchildren.
Many old people look healthy, but they don't know that all their functions are declining. If you are too focused on taking care of your children and don't pay attention to rest, you will get sick because you are too tired to take care of your grandchildren.
Old people tend to get sick, and children are more likely to get sick.
I can't sleep well with my children at night, and my hometown has low immunity. Getting sick is very simple, and it is also very simple to infect the baby.
★ I am too tired at night and don't like to take my baby out during the day.
If you can't get useful sleep at night, you will have no energy to take your baby out for a walk during the day. This greatly reduces the baby's outdoor activities, which is extremely unfavorable to the baby's physical development.
★ Lack of energy, simple accident
I can't sleep well at night and have no energy during the day. Taking a nap while taking care of the baby is simple and unexpected.
Who sleeps with you at night, the baby will kiss who;
Many mothers will devote themselves to their homework soon after giving birth to their babies. Do homework during the day and take care of the baby when you go home at night. If I am old, I will love you and consciously take care of the baby at night.
Many "too busy" and "too tired" mothers let the elderly accompany their babies to sleep naturally. I especially want to inform such a mother that you are weakening your happiness with the baby.
Babies and the elderly will establish a misplaced attachment relationship, often closer to the elderly. Mothers of office workers spend less time with their babies during the day and don't make compensation at night, so it is difficult to establish close attachment and raise them.
Kathy's mother thinks it is very important for babies to have their own cribs. When the mother is away, the old man can put the baby to sleep and put it in his crib. Even if the cot is beside the old man's bed, it doesn't affect each other.
You are the mother of the child.
Absence during the day, no excuse at night.
It is precisely because I am busy with my homework during the day that I can't accompany my baby, so I should pay more attention to compensation at night. Take advantage of ta's current needs. At night, ta wakes up, cries, makes trouble, and is hungry. You should stay with ta.
Otherwise, when ta grows up and flies away, you want to provide your care, and the children don't need it.
I always think the baby is very considerate. Every little thing you do for ta, ta can feel your attention and concern for ta.
The hug you gave ta when you were crying, the short story you told when you were asleep, and the kiss you gave when you came home from work ... are inextricably linked with your future parent-child relationship.
When sleeping with the baby, it is necessary to bring dad.
"Parent-child contact" cannot be higher than "husband-wife contact"
Some inquiries show that the divorce rate of couples is the highest in the first year after the child is born! Apart from the interference of small family matters after the birth of a child and the inadaptability of social figures after the change, the most direct element of divorce is sleeping in bed.
After giving birth to the baby, let dad sleep on the sofa for the baby. This sleeping method ignores dad's psychological feelings. Dad is marginalized by the family, but the intimate contact between husband and wife is most conducive to the growth of the baby.
In China's family relationship, it is very common that parent-child relationship is superior to husband-wife relationship. My mother tried her best to crowd out my dad, not at ease, not letting him go, and not letting him participate in parenting.
However, in this misplaced family structure, dad lacks his due position in the family and cannot play the role of dad. This kind of contact between husband and wife is also the most risky.
The best way to sleep is for mom and dad to sleep in a big bed and the baby to sleep in a small bed, but close to mom.
In this way, mom and dad love each other and their children deeply; Children love their parents separately. Dad really returned to the family, not a member isolated and marginalized by his mother and children.
How should babies of different ages sleep in separate beds?
? Before the age of 2: You can sleep with your parents so that your mother can take care of your baby.
? 2-3 years old: sleep in your own crib, connected to the big bed.
? 3-4 years old: the small bed and the big bed are separated at appropriate intervals, and independent sleep is gradually cultivated.
? 4-5 years old: gradually sleep in another room, but don't be too far away from mom and dad's bedroom, and don't combine the two bedrooms into one, so that the baby can gradually adapt to an independent room.