Traditional intelligence evaluation is mostly carried out in a single intelligent way. The theory of multiple intelligences put forward by Professor howard gardner of Harvard University in the United States confirms that children's intelligence exhibitions now include: language, logical mathematics, space, music, kinesthetics, interpersonal communication, introspection, natural observation and other fields of different intelligences. However, in today's competitive society, we really need diversified talents, and everyone has different intelligence.
There are two most important factors affecting children's development: one is heredity and the other is environment. Inheritance is beyond the control of parents' genes, but it needs to be coordinated at the right time and in the right environment to show the true ability of children. Dr. Montessori, an Italian educator, believes that children don't need the instruction of their parents. What parents need to do is to prepare a correct environment for their children. Everything in this environment, such as spatial layout, parents and toys, will have a key impact on children's development. Here, we will put forward 35 methods and suggestions for parents to help them cultivate top-notch children with high quality, and also let them get a better future with the help of parents who are full of love and patience.
Every child has his own talent 1, give your child a chance to explore his interests.
The traditional teaching method of exam-oriented education puts too much emphasis on one-way learning, which makes most children accustomed to passively accepting knowledge and unable to find their own interests from learning. But life is more than exams, study and work. If you can cultivate one or two hobbies from an early age, it will bring a lot of fun to your child's later life. Therefore, parents should provide a rich environment for their children to learn and explore in their own way and rhythm.
In addition, while cultivating children's interest, parents should avoid the adverse effects of forced learning and pressure learning, try to create a pleasant learning environment, help children get interesting and fun experiences from it, and first stimulate their motivation to learn, so as to find out the real interest.
2. expose children to various types of activities to stimulate potential talents.
Provide opportunities for children to get in touch with different kinds of activities, such as music, art appreciation, caring for animals and plants, exploring astronomy and geology, and exercising body rhythm. Instead of presupposing how much children should learn, parents can observe children's natural potential in different areas of learning activities, give more environment in these directions, and stimulate children to play their potential. For example, when listening to music, a child who is particularly responsive to melody rhythm may represent his potential in music. Children who often squat on the side of the road to observe insect activities may be particularly keen on animal research. Parents can understand the advantages of their children by observing the small details and small moves in their lives.
Cultivate children's ability to judge correctly and think independently. 3. Allow your child to make mistakes.
Children are often unable to make correct judgments because of lack of knowledge and immature logical thinking ability. But with the growth of body and mind and the increase of knowledge, children can also have the ability to make correct decisions. In this process, the accumulation of experience is very important, that is, children must have the opportunity to practice how to make decisions.
In the process of practicing how to make correct judgments, children are bound to make wrong judgments. For example, in the cold winter, they choose to wear short-sleeved clothes, but they should eat first, but he wants to play games and so on. At this time, parents should give appropriate guidance, cultivate children's thinking logic on how to make choices, and understand why he made such a decision, instead of directly scolding them for doing something wrong, because these small and scattered wrong experiences are an important basis for helping children make correct decisions one day.
4. Always ask your child open-ended questions.
Asking questions can arouse children's curiosity about their surroundings and make them think. But the way you ask questions is important. Questions with only right and wrong answers can't really help children think. The best way to ask questions is to use open-ended questions, such as? what do you think? Is there any way to solve it? Why are there rainbows and so on? Open-ended questioning can tell whether the child really understands the meaning of the question and help him think.
5. Plan a special family project
Using festivals or special days or thinking of a theme that everyone is interested in, the whole family designs an activity, such as storytelling, role exchange day and so on. Share the creativity of the whole family, on the other hand, awaken and develop the potential of children.
Establish a pleasant learning experience. Don't force children to study.
Modern parents expect their children to be better than others and help them arrange various after-school tutoring and talent learning every day. But I didn't ask my children if they had the will to learn. Active and willing learning can help children develop concentration, which is an important condition for learning. Being threatened and forced to participate in various courses will not only help children, but may also have unpleasant experiences, which will affect their future study. Therefore, what parents should do is not to force but to encourage, to stimulate their children's interest in learning and then to take the initiative to learn.
7. You can expect something from your children, but it must be reasonable.
After the child is born, both parents hope that the child will become a talent and that the child will have superior performance and achievements, so it is easy to have too high expectations for the child. Giving children too much expectation is actually a kind of pressure. Many children even feel that they are useless because they can't meet their parents' expectations and lose the motivation to continue studying hard. Therefore, parents can have expectations for their children, but they must wait until the children reach the first goal within their own strength, so that they can have confidence and gradually improve their abilities.
8. Share your work with your children
In many cities in the United States, there is Father's Day or Mother's Day. On this day, employees of the enterprise can take their children to work together, so that children have the opportunity to understand the content and hardships of their parents' work. Such activities are of great help to the parent-child relationship, and parents' serious work attitude will become an example for their children. Of course, because children visit their parents' working environment, they have some concepts about their work, which is of course more conducive to the diversification of parent-child chat topics.
9. Provide an emotional environment for children.
0-4 years old is the most acute stage of baby's sensory development, and it needs all kinds of sensory stimulation to help its concept development. Therefore, parents can provide their children with opportunities to explore the environment with various senses at home, including sight, hearing, touch, taste and smell. For example: graphic or colorful wallpaper that causes visual exploration, floors or walls made of different materials that can be touched, toys, teaching AIDS and daily utensils that can be operated by hands, and various sounds that can be heard. Rich sensory stimulation experience is an indispensable and important foundation for the baby to develop abstract concepts in the future.
10, keep your enthusiasm for learning, and children will be influenced by you.
Many parents remind their children to study hard all day, but it doesn't necessarily work. In fact, the best way is to influence your children by setting an example. If parents can always maintain their enthusiasm for learning and desire to explore new knowledge, they will profoundly influence their children's learning attitude through role models.
Encourage children to stimulate creativity and imagination 1 1 Don't set limits for children.
Preschool is a critical period for children's self-concept development. Children who have not established their self-concept are easily influenced by others. Therefore, don't set restrictions on children casually. For example, parents often use things that children don't understand? You are young, but you will understand when you grow up. ? In this case, it's simply utilitarianism, and it's easy for children to be limited in their ability and development by perfunctory answers because of their troublesome questions. Therefore, parents should adopt a more active and open attitude, encourage their children to find more problems, solve more problems, and don't set too many restrictions on their children.
12, the whole family often plays games together.
For children, life is a game. On the contrary, life can be experienced from games. Children are born with the ability to play games. Through games, children can show their abilities and learn. In the process of participating in children's games, parents can observe and understand their children's abilities and provide counseling for those in need.
13, parent-child reading
Good reading habits must be cultivated from an early age. A study shows that children who often have the opportunity to sit on their parents' knees and read stories in early childhood are more likely to have good reading habits when they grow up, which is also conducive to the development of language ability. Therefore, in addition to giving children a better material life, parents must not forget that it is more important for children to spend some time playing with them and reading with them than to have more toys and beautiful clothes. In addition, using some humor, jokes and interesting stories to inspire children is also very helpful to the development of imagination and creativity.
14, don't be too picky and judgmental about what children do.
When children share their works with you, expect your affirmation, and never judge and accuse them with their parents' high standards. Preschool children have not yet stepped out of the self-centered stage, and any criticism from parents may cause serious harm to children. For example, when you see a child's painting homework in kindergarten, parents should learn to praise the child with words that can convey positive information, such as? You used many colors, including red, blue and yellow. What rich colors! ? At the same time, we should minimize the use of negative language, such as? Why are you painting so messy? Too many colors. ? Statement. Because positive information can encourage children to continue to behave well and enhance their good behavior, while negative information will make children stagnate and retreat.
15. Help children learn to use computer equipment at home, school and public library.
In this era of technological progress, if we can make good use of media technology, we can know what is happening in the world even if we don't go out. Therefore, parents should never be afraid that their children will only play games after learning the computer, and they are unwilling to let their children touch the computer too early. Instead, they should take a more positive attitude. It is believed that they can use advanced technology and network to expand their children's horizons and increase their wisdom after contacting computers.
Cultivate a sense of responsibility * * * Create parent-child chat time 16, talk with children and learn to listen.
It is important to spend some time chatting with children every day. Because this short period of time is a critical moment for parents to understand their children's thoughts and needs. In this process, parents need to learn listening skills, and don't rush to correct their children's wrong ideas before they finish speaking. This impatient and critical behavior will hurt the child's self-esteem and make him unwilling to share her thoughts with you. Over time, it is easy to lead to the gap between parents and children. Mom and dad should understand that although children are young, they also have their own ideas. He is willing to share his experiences with his parents. We should be attentive listeners like children's friends and have a good chat with them.
17, children finish housework and give affirmation.
Children aged 2-4 like to imitate their parents' behavior, so they become interested in housework. If parents can prepare suitable tools for their children, such as small-sized brooms, handles, vacuum cleaners, etc., they can let their children do housework easily and give them a proper scope of work, such as the desktop of a small coffee table and the corner of their own games. All these can be done by children's ability, and they can gradually cultivate a sense of responsibility from housework.
18, the whole family went out to visit new places together.
Going on holiday for the whole family can not only enhance the parent-child relationship with a pleasant atmosphere, but also broaden children's horizons and enrich their knowledge through what they see and hear during the trip. In order to make every trip full of children's gains, parents are advised to let their children participate in the travel plan from the beginning, and the whole family will collect information together, discuss the travel route and get to know the local culture in advance. During the trip, parents should also encourage their children to observe and compare with their senses, look for similarities and differences, and cultivate their logical thinking ability.
19, providing toys for children.
When giving toys to children, we should appropriately increase the types of toys, such as dolls, stuffed animals, kitchen utensils, tools, all kinds of clothes, etc., because children can learn social behavior and understand the real face of society by playing the role in the game. Mom and dad can set up a game area for their children in a corner of the house, and just make a simple partition with a low cabinet, so that mom and dad can observe the situation of their children playing games and give them a semi-independent space to play freely. In addition, parents should be reminded that the toys and props provided to their children should be familiar items in life and should not be too far away from their usual home life, so that children can learn and imitate social behavior by observing their parents' actions.
Give children free time to daydream and fantasize.
Giving children answers that exceed their parents' expectations is one of the keys to stimulating creativity. Adults' answers to right and wrong are often fixed and rigid. For children who are not restricted, life is colorful and has unlimited possibilities. Therefore, giving children some free imagination space and time will probably be an important source of their future work creativity and creativity.
Share successful experiences and establish correct values 2 1. Share inspirational stories of successful people with children.
The characteristics of children's absorptive thinking make children easily influenced by the environment, and the sharing of successful stories provided by the environment will unconsciously start to affect children's thinking mode and behavior performance. Therefore, parents should read inspirational stories of successful people with their children and provide them with good learning examples.
22. Don't bribe children with rewards.
Children need encouragement to promote good behavior. Encouragement can take many different forms. Among them, it is even more inappropriate to encourage children with materials. Children are always rewarded with gifts, pocket money and delicious food. This way is easy to make them have wrong values, and it is easy to cause children's growing desire for material things.
23. Suggest the child to join the small group he is interested in.
Group life can help children get rid of the concept of self-centeredness, adjust their attitudes and show behaviors that meet social expectations. Parents can help their children choose a group, such as a children's music class or a parent-child interaction group established by the community. Through group interaction, children will gradually develop social life skills and realize socialization.
24. Discuss news with your child to stimulate his interest.
Discussing news and current affairs with him in a way suitable for children can help children integrate into social life and understand that they are also a member of the national society. A variety of news content can arouse children's attention to society, but while guiding children to care about society, parents should also pay attention to some unprocessed news pictures and themes that are not suitable for children. Therefore, before discussing news with children, parents should first screen out the content that is not suitable for children, so as not to cause mental pollution and harm.
25. Don't have stereotyped gender images.
With the development and progress of society, many jobs that used to be done by men can now be done by women, and many jobs that girls can now be done by boys, such as nurses. Therefore, parents can provide their children with toys and games without overemphasizing rigid gender roles, so as not to fail to achieve what their children see in real life, and at the same time, let their children develop correct gender relations.
Respect children's personality, cultivate self-confidence and build self-confidence.
26. Avoid comparing children with others.
Every child is an independent individual with unique abilities and personalities. Therefore, no set of standards can be applied to all children, and parents should not compare their children with other children, but should respect the individual differences of each child. In fact, if they want their children to be better, their parents just need to help them compare their past behaviors.
27. Be a principled parent.
Children are unfamiliar with the environment, and they only need some simple and clear rules to follow, especially the establishment of routines. Whether children can clearly understand the rules, distinguish between right and wrong, and abide by the rules is actually closely related to whether parents can adhere to the principles set by themselves.
28. Buy some gifts for children that reflect their advantages.
Gifts that can reflect the advantages of children, such as a flute for a child who loves music on his birthday and a small football for a child who loves sports. These? Do what you want? Gifts can promote children's persistence in interest and learning, and also enhance their self-confidence.
29. Encourage children to think about his future.
Although the future is far away, there is still some time to grow up and be independent, parents can still inspire their children to think from an early age and let them imagine what they want to do in the future and what preparations they should make now to achieve the above goals. However, when parents encourage their children to think about his future, they should avoid imposing their expectations on them. You should know that the development of children is infinite. We hope that they will think about the future in order to cultivate their independent thinking ability, instead of asking their children to follow their parents' plans.
Make good use of family opportunities, educate and accept everything about children. 30. Turn home into a place to study.
Children's intellectual development must be learned through practice. Therefore, we should make good use of opportunities in daily life to help children learn effectively. For example, the kitchen can be a good place to study math and science, and you can learn the concepts of floating and sinking when you take a bath. Caring for animals can help children understand the structure and habits of animals.
3 1. Teach children to trust their intuition and ability.
In daily life, parents should praise their children and affirm their abilities. When children know that they are a capable person, they will be full of confidence.
32. Give children the right to choose.
To cultivate children's decision-making ability, parents can provide him with problems and solutions to choose from, and at the same time, don't choose too many projects, because too many options easily make children don't know how to make decisions. When a child makes a wrong decision, which leads to bad results, the child will learn the skills of how to make a correct decision from the experience of failure.
33. Set up a corner for children's works at home.
The fixed exhibition area allows children to learn to express their abilities generously, discuss their works with others, and increase opportunities for interaction with others and language learning.
Encourage the child to deal with the difficulties he meets. Help him learn how to solve the difficulties he meets.
Most children will directly ask their parents for help when they encounter problems. Parents who are too good at helping their children deal with problems often teach children who are very dependent. Parents should not underestimate their children's abilities, and they can also deal with some less complicated problems by themselves. So parents should help their children learn to solve problems by themselves.
35, can accept everything about children, including advantages and disadvantages.
Pay attention to the individual differences of children, respect the differences of each child, and learn to appreciate the advantages of each child. For example, although Lily does not do well in memory, she does well in understanding. Parents should pay more attention to their children's advantages and spend some time thinking about whether they must improve their children's shortcomings. Sometimes, if they think from another angle, they will find that these shortcomings are not as serious as they thought.