My colleague Meimei asked me, "Xiaomi, seeing you every day is full of energy and passion. But besides work, I have to write at night. Aren't you tired? "

"For writing, my working time is rest; In order to work, my writing time is rest. So, I have been resting. " I answered her.

I work at least 10 hours every day, and this 10 hour is productive, not just killing time. These are conservative statements. I sometimes work longer hours. Recently, I have received several consultations, all of which are people who are confused at work.

They all have one thing in common, that is, they are too busy. They often work overtime until eight or nine o'clock in the evening, even in the early hours of the morning, and have no time to themselves. They have physical problems and are about to collapse.

After I understand it, I think their workload is not very heavy, but there is something wrong with their methods.

They also mentioned the problem that the plans they made in the morning were often not completed at the end of the day. I've encountered these problems before, and I'm devastated. It was not until later that I found a solution to this problem.

I have never advocated a kind of training, that is, increasing the intensity a little bit, because unlike in school now, there is not much time for us to grow up slowly. So I prefer to get busy in one step, even in stages.

For example, when a friend of mine took the CET-4 exam, he memorized CET-6 words and did CET-6 real questions. I got 608 points in the final CET-4. When he took CET-6, he memorized TOEFL vocabulary and did TOEFL test questions. He got 602 points in CET-6.

I also have a friend who takes care of the baby full-time at home and takes some early education courses. She takes care of the baby full time. There is no nanny at home and no parents around. She only works hourly twice a week to help her clean. Her two children, a 5-year-old and a 3-year-old, can switch between English and Chinese freely.

Once I went to see her, I was shocked and asked her how she managed these two little guys. She said that at work, she gave herself many challenges, was able to do more work and exercised her fighting capacity. Taking care of children is a little more difficult than working, but it is not a problem.

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Why do I insist on doing something else after work now? Such as writing, lecture sharing, etc. First, I like it myself. Secondly, I want to have more skills and be able to do more things.

Two years later, when I am going to have a baby, I may really give up my job, take care of the baby at home full-time and write part-time

Of course, the future has changed a lot, but at least I have left more energy for myself. When life requires me to make a balance, I can still live well by giving up any of them. If you only engage in simple work when you are young, you will be flustered when you are old and need to bear heavier responsibilities.

Under this premise, it is necessary for us to discuss the following issues-

How can I do more work without getting tired?

I will share some of my methods with you.

Why can't we make so many plans? Many times, not only because of procrastination, but because I don't have a correct understanding of myself.

I always thought I could write quickly, about 1 hour, and I could write an article. For example, on Saturday's holiday, I made a rule for myself to write five articles today, and on Saturday night, I found it good to write two. An article takes at least 3-4 hours from conception, material collection, writing and revision. Besides, I am not always inspired, and my works are not always the best.

How did I realize these problems?

"Time recording method"-I used to arrange my time like this, fill up the plan for the day and then carry it out. Now, according to the needs of work and life, I arrange what I want to do in one day. Before going to bed at night, I recalled what I did that day and recorded it. I don't judge myself, just be a recorder.

Through this method, I find that sometimes I overestimate my efficiency and sometimes I underestimate myself. Overestimating yourself leads to the busyness and frustration of completing the plan; If you underestimate yourself, you will find that there is a lot of time left, and you will not know what to do for a while.

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Every night, I carefully record what I have done at each stage and have a better understanding of my work and life. When I cooperate with other departments, I can tell each other exactly how long this task will take me.

I also know exactly that I can do a lot of things every day, and I will arrange more on this basis. I may finish ahead of schedule, or I may need to work overtime for a while, but I can control it myself. When doing things like this, I am in a good mood. Once people are in a good mood, the effect of doing things will be high. This is a virtuous circle.

Another advantage of this method is that when you recall what you did one day at night, if you find that you didn't do anything, you will generally feel guilty and unconsciously want to make some changes the next day. Besides, if things don't go well, you will find the reason.

My job requires dealing with various departments. At first, I found that when I told others what to do, the final result was often disappointing. At this time, I found that the problem lies in communication. For example, I asked the designer to design something and describe what I want to her. She looked blank and asked me what you really wanted.

I said I just want a warm feeling, so you can design it according to your understanding. I'm definitely not satisfied with this result, and then letting the designer modify it will increase her workload a lot.

After I find this problem, when I communicate again, I will find some pictures of my feelings for her, and she will know what kind of pictures to look for, and I will prepare them for her in advance. When assigning tasks, I will explain in detail and confirm with her, so that there will be no situation where poor communication will reduce work efficiency and everyone will be unhappy.

Therefore, in communication, we should avoid being self-righteous and think that we have made it clear that the other party can understand us.

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Time recording can help me understand myself correctly, and at the same time find problems in my work and life, prompting me to find out the reasons. After a long time, this way of thinking will be automated. When you encounter problems, you will find ways to solve them, and there won't be too many negative emotions.

In addition to the time recording method, I think it is also very important-when doing something, it is a thing, not thinking about B. I think about work when I work, not that I didn't write today's article. What should I do?

I used to like to study everywhere and mix circles. Every time I take photos, take notes and even record. I didn't take it seriously when I was listening to the lecture. I think I'd better go back and digest it slowly. The truth of the matter, there are many pictures in my computer, and there are 4-5 in my notebook. The recording takes up a lot of memory in my computer, but I found that I have never seen it again.

My behavior touched myself to some extent, and I will comfort myself. "You see how hard you work, how hard you work, and you don't rest and study on weekends." But after listening to so many things, I found that they were not my own.

At this time, I realized that I didn't study hard at that time, didn't absorb knowledge well, and there was no chance in the future. From this year on, I won't take any training courses easily. Once I go, I will devote myself wholeheartedly. When I went to study, I followed the teacher in class and listened carefully to other people's questions. How should I answer them? If you are inspired, write it down next to your notebook. After the course, I will apply what I have learned.

At work, too, problems that can be solved on the spot are solved on the spot, not until tomorrow or the day after tomorrow. Every company has many meetings, some of which seem boring. When you listen to your opinions wholeheartedly, you will know what your real needs are. How can I solve this problem? Every time I have a meeting, I feel that I have learned a lot.

In the past, when our classmates got together, I often thought about studying and told my good friends that the party was boring. I wanted to go home and read. She scolded me. "Small-Yang Mi, what are you melodramatic? Be busy or don't come. Come and play and learn. "

She woke me up. After that, whether attending parties or group activities, I devoted myself to other things. I found that I gained a lot every time. When we devote ourselves wholeheartedly to one thing, we will become happy and efficient.

Why am I so busy and not tired? This is my secret.