Interest is the best teacher, and children have a strong interest and love for something, which is a kind of nature, indicating that children have potential and advantages that others do not have in some way. As parents, they should support their children to learn, explore and study what they are interested in, instead of interfering rudely. If the child's interest is music, you force the child to study law; Children like painting, but you think learning computer is promising. What will happen if you don't respect your child's own choices and treat your child's interests well? Children are not in the mood to learn things that they are not interested in, and their potential is buried. What we lack is not Picasso, but his parents.
Second, the spirit of independence is the foundation of all excellent qualities.
Jews respect the spirit of individual independence. In their view, the spirit of independence is the basis for a person to have all excellent qualities. Therefore, cultivating children's independent spirit is the top priority of Jewish family education. Third, it is more important to cultivate a person with perfect personality than to cultivate a high flyer.
Jews attach importance to education and regard investing in education as an unshirkable responsibility and obligation. However, in education, knowledge is by no means pushed to the supreme position. Bavi, a Jewish educator, once said: "It is more important to cultivate a person with perfect personality than to cultivate a high flyer." This is actually a Jewish educational concept.
Among the Nobel Prize winners, 17% are Jews! Among American millionaires, 1/3 is Jewish!
Cognitive neuroscience is a brand-new discipline, which holds that the development of brain is not only a simple expansion of gene map, but also individual experience and environmental factors participate in the regulation and development of nervous system.
What is the secret of Jewish "cultivating genius"? It lies in "early education" and in effectively guiding children to "optimize and refine the neural structure"!
Emotional quotient: reciting in childhood, laying the foundation of humanistic personality
1, comparison of educational views
(1) self-study:
(2) For the study of "giving":
Jewish education view: A complete person should be a person who cares about others and knows how to "give". "Giving" is the way people should live. Learning knowledge is not for yourself, but for "giving".
Jewish Education Law: Recite Classics! Teach a child to recite the Bible when he is just talking. This is an unchangeable education method from generation to generation, which lays a solid humanistic foundation for children's life development by instilling classics representing the highest wisdom of the nation.
At the age of seven, Gates could recite more than 30,000 words of the Gospel of Matthew, which is equivalent to the sum of the words in six Lao Zi.
2. Mechanism
Repeated reciting, even if not deliberately understood, will be branded in the subconscious, and the clever use of the subconscious lies in that it can directly, silently and naturally influence people's thinking and behavior without the operation of will. Gates said that reciting classics deeply inspired him in his later years.
3. Take turns singing to the children.
Jewish parents often talk to their babies every day, or play music for them to enjoy, or parents take turns singing to them.
They often hang a lot of pictures around the baby's cradle or bedside, so that the baby can watch and change them frequently to stimulate the baby's cognitive ability.
2 IQ: memory learning, developing the acquired potential of the brain
1, comparison of learning styles
The brain is divided into left and right brains, the left brain pursues memory and understanding, and the right brain is called "image brain".
(1) emphasizes left brain learning:
The common educational methods in the world are "remembering the simple first, but remembering the difficult later" and "understanding first, then remembering". This model is analytical and adult-oriented, which imposes the adult's way of thinking on children. Because 0-6 years old is a period of rapid brain development, the school age is generally set at 7 years old.
Some parents who attach importance to early education in our country apply the primary education model mechanically to early childhood, just like letting children carry the burden of adults, which may be harmful to brain development.
(2) Emphasis on right brain learning:
Jews believe that the earlier education begins, the better. Children are generally required to recite from the age of one and a half, that is, to consciously accept "memory training."
Reciting is not reciting, but reciting catchy classic articles, which has a strong sense of rhythm like singing. Because "classics" concentrate many aspects of "knowledge crystallization" such as "humanities" and "natural science", children subconsciously store a wealth of wisdom in the process of reciting.
At the age of three or four, I began to study in a private school and continued to "learn by memory", that is, "refer to classic reading". In the process of reciting, words are taken as a whole and naturally carved into my mind as pictures. It is easy to read words and phrases.
The method of reciting a lot is the real way to cultivate genius. When Ba Jin was a child, he recited more than 200 anthologies of prose, such as Ancient Prose. He said that at that time, he could only say that he was puzzled. He just kept the articles in his mind, slowly realized their benefits, slowly touched the tone of the articles, and understood what the so-called "articles" were about.
2. Mechanism
The "finger reading" of Jewish children is similar to chanting. Seeing words with eyes stimulates the right brain through visual effects; The melody of chanting also activated the right brain. The cognitive way of the right brain is to accept information in a similar way and recognize and remember the information as a whole picture. This memory method without understanding is the right brain education method.
The memory of the right brain is amazing, so "reciting memory" is the most natural way for children to learn.
Research shows that 3 years old is the period with the strongest overall recognition and natural memory ability. At this time, children are good at remembering complicated things and memorizing them if they don't understand them.
After the age of 3, the efficiency of image memory gradually decreases. If you miss this period, you will miss the best memory period of your life.
Chinese characters are pictographs with freehand brushwork at the same time. Every word is like a picture, which is most suitable for children to recite. If you miss the best period of brain development, it will take 6 to 7 times more time to learn the same content.
3. Opening wisdom comes from asking questions.
Children in Jewish families begin to think completely at the age of 4. At that time, adults will tell children that there is no such thing as a right answer. Don't stick to one idea, because there are many other ways of thinking.
3 financial quotient: making money is not just for adults.
1, comparison of money view
(1) No matter how poor you are, you can't be poor.
(2) No matter how rich you are, you can't have rich children.
Case: Bill Gates, the richest man in the world, once said that no matter how rich you are, you can't have money and children. You would rather donate money to society than give more to children.
2. Financial quotient should be cultivated from an early age.
How do Jews cultivate their children's financial quotient?
(1) Ideas 1: Cultivate children's ideas of delaying enjoyment.
The so-called delayed enjoyment means "delaying the satisfaction of one's own desires in pursuit of greater returns in the future".
Jews often say to children, "If you like to play, you need to earn your free time, which requires good education and academic performance." . Then you can find a good job and earn a lot of money. After earning money, you can play longer and play more expensive toys. If you make a mistake, the whole system will not work normally, and you can only play for a short time. The end result is that you have some cheap toys that are easy to break, and then you have to work hard all your life, without toys and happiness. "
(2) Idea 2: Learn to earn money from an early age.
Jews never think that making money is an activity that needs to be carried out at a certain age. They always think that "making money with dolls" is the best way of education.
The first stage: Jews will issue stocks to children who have just turned one year old; When children are still babbling, parents will teach them about coins and paper money and make them realize that "money can buy anything they want."
The second stage: After having the initial concept and interest in money, the subsequent financial education of Jewish parents is to deepen the financial management concept of "money can be exchanged for things". In Jewish families, children have no free food and care, and everything has a price. Every child must learn to make money (such as washing dishes at home and mowing the grass for his neighbors) in order to get everything he needs. After puberty, children will be told "how money is earned by honesty and wisdom", trained to see through the illusion of advertisements, learn to implement expenditure plans, and even practice how to make good use of every penny in their hands to earn more money.
Take a Jewish family as an example: the father distributed a pitiful pocket money to his children. His rules are: 30 cents a week for children aged seven or eight, 111USD for children aged two, and1USD for children aged two. When using pocket money, parents must agree, and daily account expenditures should be truthfully recorded. If you manage your money properly and satisfy your father, your pocket money will increase by $65,438+00 next week.
In addition to giving extremely limited pocket money, the Jewish father also asked his children to make a budget in advance, remember the purpose of each expenditure, and let him check it when he receives the money next time.
This is the "oil king" Rockefeller's family education law.
Jews are used to the secret of early education.
For decades, the proportion of Jews among Nobel Prize winners was much higher than that of other nationalities. The advantage of Jews in intellectual orientation activities is recognized all over the world, so the excellent secret of Jewish wisdom has been shrouded in a mysterious veil. In fact, after careful study, we will find that their intelligence has a great relationship with family education besides heredity, because they attach great importance to early education, and the secret of early education lies in the living habits of this nation.
The ceremony of kissing sweet books
In Jewish families, when the baby is a little sensible, mommy will open the Bible, drop a little honey on it, and then let the baby kiss the honey in the Bible. The purpose of this ceremony is to tell the baby that books are sweet, so that the baby will leave a very good impression when he first comes into contact with books, and he will like books all his life. Jewish families also have a habit passed down from generation to generation, that is, bookcases should be placed at the bedside. If you put it at the end of the bed, it will be considered disrespectful to the book. The habits of these nationalities make them a nation that loves books.
Enlightenment to people:
Apart from genetic factors, wisdom sometimes comes from a good habit. What habit can increase people's knowledge, arouse people's thinking and enhance people's wisdom more than reading? Jews grasped the key point of early education.
Jewish proverb
There is a Jewish saying "Don't be a donkey with many books on its back". Jews attach great importance not only to knowledge, but also to talent. They call people who have only knowledge but no talent "donkeys with many books on their backs". They think that general learning is just a kind of imitation, without any innovation, and learning should be based on thinking. Thinking consists of doubts and answers; Learning is to doubt and ask questions at any time. Doubt is the gateway to wisdom. The more you know, the more you doubt and the more questions you have, so asking questions will make people progress.
Enlightenment to people:
The first is to guide the baby to read more books, and the second is to avoid bookworm-like learning methods. It seems that wisdom = knowledge+application of knowledge is the eternal truth.
I have the habit of chanting scriptures since I was a child
In Jewish families, it has become an unchangeable law that babies recite classics from a very young age. Here, the purpose of Jews is not to make babies understand the meaning of scripture, but to make them recite it mechanically. Jews believe that such a large amount of recitation is a way to cultivate a good memory. If you can't give your baby a good memory, it will be difficult to learn other things in the future. In addition, Jews have a special way of reading the Bible. In addition to cadence reading, we should swing from side to side according to a certain rhythm. While pressing the scriptures with their hands, they used all the body organs they could think of and put themselves in exactly according to the meaning of the scriptures. They think that using reading, listening, speaking and moving at the same time is several times more efficient than the general silent reading learning method, and this habit will last for a lifetime.
Enlightenment to people:
After reading the Jewish habits passed down from generation to generation, I thought of Tian, a doctor of education studying in Japan and an internationally renowned right brain development expert. He pointed out that listening and reciting beyond our traditional vision and understanding is an effective way to get through the right brain circuit and easily enter deep memory. Reading a lot will enhance people's memory. At the same time, I also thought that in ancient China, I had to recite scriptures and poems, which probably made sense.
Remember the harm of history.
For Jews, history is not just a school curriculum, but a story deeply imprinted in every family and passed down from generation to generation like a genealogy. History is connected with their growth, experience, family, friends and hometown and becomes an inseparable part. They will also learn history by experience, such as discussion and hypothesis. They are recalling and thinking about history.
Enlightenment to people:
Because Jews in history were persecuted, their property was plundered, their houses were burned, and their people were expelled and slaughtered, the pursuit of knowledge and wisdom became the Jewish defense mechanism.
Pay attention to rest days
In ancient times, only Jews had one day off every week, which was very strange in other countries at that time. Moreover, Jews do not advocate traveling on rest days, and they are exhausted when they get home. They feel that rest days should achieve the purpose of rest, relax nervous nerves and muscles, and purify impetuous hearts, so as to better restore good working conditions.
They think that if they don't adjust their state on the rest day, it will be difficult to achieve real physical and mental improvement. People's consciousness is continuous. If they don't have a good rest, the subconscious will still be full of the previous "radio waves". Therefore, we must liberate ourselves from secular work on the rest day and completely immerse ourselves in another world. In this world, Jews have gained the source of their thoughts and inspiration.
It is important to adjust the body and mind and cultivate the brain through proper relaxation. No wonder they always keep such exuberant energy and clever minds.
On Early Education of Jews
When Jewish children reach the age of three, they will be taken to private schools and other places to learn Hebrew. After they became literate, they began to teach them how to write in Hebrew.
Next, they will ask the children to recite prayers such as Prajna Sutra. They don't ask him to understand the meaning of the article, but teach him to read for the purpose of reciting.
Jews believe that if the foundation of memory is not established at this time, there is no way to learn other knowledge in the future.
At the age of five, they began to recite the Bible and the law of Moses.
Before the age of seven, they must recite Genesis, Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers and Deuteronomy in the Five Books of Moses, and they will repeat them hundreds of times with the melody.
At the age of seven, he studied the Old Testament and the rest of the Talmud. Jews knew how to recite the most basic knowledge before they accepted the adult code at the age of thirteen.
The Book of Jewish Prayer in the Morning is about 150 pages, which must be read every morning. You can recite it during reading.
Incredibly, once the large-capacity memory system of the brain is built, it is easy to absorb all kinds of knowledge, just like a high-performance computer.
As mentioned above, Jews remembered all the important knowledge in this way.
On one occasion, Mr. Heichel borrowed a very precious book from his disciples. Two or three days later, he politely replied, "Thank you very much. I memorized it." He didn't copy the book, and it only took him two or three days to recite it.
Where did the excellent primitive thinking of Jews come from? The richer the information sources, the more excellent inventions and original ideas can be produced. Excellent inventions or discoveries can only come from excellent knowledge stored in the mind.
The greater the capacity of memory, the easier it is to produce new inventions and discoveries. All the talents of Jews are because Jews are a people who make good use of memory.
Jews value knowledge and talent.
Books are sweet.
In Jewish families, when the children are a little more sensible, the mother will open the Bible, drop a little honey on it, and then let the children kiss the honey in the Bible. The intention of this ceremony is that books are sweet. There is also a tradition passed down from generation to generation in Jewish families, that is, bookcases should be placed at the bedside. If you put it at the end of the bed, it will be considered disrespectful to the book. A survey conducted by UNESCO in 1988 shows that in Israel, where Jews are the main population, people over 14 read a book on average every month; Judging from the per capita number of books and publishing houses and the per capita annual reading, Israel has surpassed any country in the world and is the highest in the world.
Knowledge is wisdom.
Almost all children in Jewish families have to answer such a puzzle: "If one day your house is burned down and your property is robbed, what will you take to escape?" If the child answers money or property, the mother will further ask, "There is a kind of baby that has no shape, color or smell. Do you know what it is? " If the child can't answer, the mother will say, "Son, what you want to take away is not money or property, but wisdom." Because no one can take away wisdom. As long as you live, wisdom will always follow you.
Attach importance to talents
Jews value knowledge and talent. In their view, general learning is only imitation, without any innovation. Learning should be based on thinking, and thinking is composed of doubts and questions. Learning is to doubt and ask questions at any time. Doubt is the gateway to wisdom. The more you know, the more doubts you have and the more questions you have, so asking questions will make people progress. Therefore, Jewish families pay special attention to the exchange of ideas with children. Children can talk and discuss problems with adults, and occasionally adults will pester them endlessly in order to guide them into study and research. From the above points, we can get a glimpse of the Jewish "education-oriented" strategy of rejuvenating the country, and its unique family education concept is worth exploring.
Jewish families advocate innovation, thinking that learning without innovation is only imitation, learning should be based on thinking, dare to doubt and ask questions at any time. Doubt is the key to wisdom. The more you know, the more doubts you have, and the more questions you have. So many Jewish families meet their children after school, and the first sentence is "Did you ask questions again?" Some people say that the Jewish people are a nation of philosophers who try to reveal the secrets of nature and mankind. Like to think about macro and deep-seated problems, like abstraction, like logic, and have an eternal mentality to explore, which has become the core of Jewish family education.
A Book of Early Education —— A Pillow Book for Jewish Children
Everyone must know the cleverness of Jews. The most important reason why Jews have reached the world stage with extraordinary wisdom is that the fine traditions of the Jewish nation in seeking knowledge, making friends, dealing with the world and cultivating self-cultivation have enabled them to have outstanding cultural literacy. The Jewish people regard knowledge and skills as a supplement that they can really master, and they have a religious and pious spirit of seeking knowledge and learning. They are not only strict with themselves, but also teach their children the essence of study, life and life. This spirit makes the Jewish nation dazzling in all fields of the world, and Jews are among the best in science and technology, culture, ideology, commerce, politics and other fields.
The following is a brief introduction to all aspects of Jewish early education in this book, for the reference of mothers who have no time to read.
First, the spirit of diligent knowledge.
1. Respect teachers like God.
The profession of teacher is a sacred profession, so every child should respect the teacher as he respects God. Jews call teachers "rabbis". This is the Hebrew pronunciation. In the real life of Jews, rabbis are responsible professional teachers in various Jewish schools. As the embodiment of wisdom, he should not only answer students' academic questions, but also point out the maze of life. No matter what kind of difficulties people encounter, they will turn to the rabbis for help. What the rabbis have said is often regarded as the wisest words.
Respecting teachers and attaching importance to morality is not only the basic premise for teachers and students to live in harmony, but also the minimum moral character that every conscientious person should possess. Jews educate children to form such habits in real life:
Educate children to adjust their psychological structure. First of all, it is clear that the relationship between teachers and students should be harmonious and equal, with no distinction between seniority and inferiority, and should not be two opposing camps.
Cultivate sincere feelings of respect for the elderly.
Really understand and trust teachers.
Jewish parents not only often tell their young children stories about respecting teachers, but also encourage them to show it in action. In learning, don't be late for class on time, concentrate on listening, review carefully after class and finish your homework on time.
Everyone is your teacher.
Successful methods cannot be copied. Different people have different development environments and opportunities, but most truly successful people have one thing in common-they are good at finding role models in life and learning from their experiences.
Jewish parents educate their children, teachers and classmates, and even everyone around them, which may be called the object of consultation. This view just echoes our ancient China "three people must have a teacher". For young people, there is no so-called good environment and no one is the only so-called good teacher. Only a constantly changing environment is your best environment, and only by constantly learning from different people is your best teacher.
3. Catch big fish with a coarse net
In the competitive field of life, it is not easy to succeed without setting goals and perfecting yourself in adversity. Many people don't lack self-confidence, ability and intelligence, but they don't set goals or choose them correctly, so they don't embark on the road to success.
Rabbi warned the world that although human life has its own length, some people live to be a hundred years old and some people die young. But in any case, everyone has a precious life, and life is only once for everyone. Therefore, people must cherish their rare life, set their own goals and realize their wishes in this limited life.
4, don't "three minutes of blood"
In your life, there should be at least one area in which you are most interested and serious. Focus on this matter, which may be your work, hobbies or some group activities. You must be good at something, and you must be good at it to the point where you can be proud of yourself, so that you can know that you are a valuable person.
To others, a person's rich inner world and dreams may seem strange, but this is exactly the real wealth that a person has. Jews taught their children from an early age to have their own dreams, and to work unswervingly and unremittingly to achieve their goals.
5, the depth of love, responsibility.
Only love does not necessarily cultivate and educate excellent children. Love should be combined with strict requirements.
The so-called "love is deep, responsibility is cut", that is, strict requirements are based on deep love. Therefore, parents should not be dominated by blind love. There should be "love" in strictness and "strictness" in love. Of course, strict requirements do not mean strict attitude towards children, but should be based on a reasonable basis. At the same time, be patient and persuasive. Parents must have strict love for their children, and never pamper or indulge them. We must be measured and rational. Only in this way can we cultivate our children into outstanding talents with good personality and conduct.
For children living in affluent environment, strict education is particularly important. There are many hardships in life, especially great achievements. If you only enjoy happiness and don't suffer hardships, such people will not be able to stand on their feet in society, let alone contribute to society and benefit others. Because such people can only be satisfied with their own success and happiness, and their hearts will never mature.
6. Wisdom is eternal wealth.
The purpose of learning knowledge is to increase wisdom.
Jews despise ordinary learning. They say that children's ordinary learning is just imitation, without any innovation. Almost every child in a Jewish family has to answer such a question: "If one day your house is burned down and your property is burned out, what will you run away with?" If the child answers money or treasure, the mother will further ask: "There is a treasure that has no color, no shape and no smell. Do you know what it is? " If the child can't answer, the mother will say, "Son, what you want to take away is not money, not treasure, but wisdom." Because wisdom can't be taken away by anyone, nor can it be taken away. As long as you live, wisdom will always follow you. "
7. Scholars are older than kings.
At a time when other nations placed princes, nobles, soldiers or businessmen above scholars, Jews thought scholars were bigger than kings.
Jews have always respected scholars, teachers and wise men and enjoyed high prestige. In ancient Jewish society, anyone who was called "Hermite Helim", that is, someone who was proficient in Talmud, did not have to pay taxes, because everyone thought that they had made a lot of efforts and made great contributions to this society, so they not only did not have to pay taxes, but also helped them with the strength of the whole society. There is a Jewish proverb that says, "even if you sell all your property, it is worthwhile for your daughter to marry a scholar;" In order to marry a scholar's daughter, even if all the property is paid. "
In Jewish society, teachers are even more important than fathers. If both the father and the teacher are in prison and only one can be rescued, the child will decide to rescue the teacher, because the teacher who teaches knowledge is very important in Jewish society.
Later, when the prestige of scholars changed from religious knowledge to popular knowledge, university degrees, especially advanced degrees, became the goal pursued by Jewish students. For every Jewish family, there is nothing more glorious than having one or more doctors at home. Therefore, the number of Nobel Prize winners, academic representatives and professionals with a high proportion of Jews in the population is beyond the reach of other ethnic groups.
8. Questions are as important as answers.
Jews attach great importance not only to knowledge, but also to talent. They compare a man with knowledge but no talent to "a donkey with many books on his back". In their view, ordinary learning is just imitation without any innovation.
They also believe that learning should be based on thinking. Thinking is composed of doubts and answers. Learning is to doubt and ask questions at any time. Doubt is the gateway to wisdom. The more you know, the more doubts you have and the more questions you have, so asking questions will make people progress. Questions are as important as answers.
It is based on this understanding that Jewish families pay special attention to the exchange of ideas with children, who have always been taught and guided by adults. Children can talk and discuss problems with adults, and occasionally adults will pester them endlessly in order to guide them into study and research. There is no doubt that the famous Jewish eloquence and high scores in intelligence tests are related to this.
Jewish parenting motto
1. Whoever loves his children will prepare basic funds for himself so that he can enjoy happiness in the future.
2. Anyone who trains his children to be polite will get joy from them and boast for him among acquaintances;
3. Whoever teaches his children and causes the enemy's jealousy can be proud of his children with his friends;
4. If my father died, it seems that he didn't die, because he left a copy of him;
5. Anyone who dotes on children will dress the wound one day, and then his heart will tremble every time he shouts;
6. A horse that has not been domesticated is stubborn, and an unconstrained child is unimaginable;
7. If you spoil your child, he will be disappointed; Doby him, he will be sad;
8, don't take him as the only sustenance, otherwise you will have worries and finally bite off your teeth;
9. Don't let him play the role of Mr. Adult when he is young, and don't tolerate the bad things he does;
10. When he was a child, let him bow his head and be humble. As long as he is young, he can be spanked. Otherwise, he will become stubborn and contradict you, and you will feel sorry for him;
1 1. Cultivate your child to be polite and strictly control him, otherwise he will be arrogant and oppose you.