It's 6: 30 in the morning, and I'm sitting on the high-speed train home from business. Suddenly I saw this problem, and I was puzzled. I've been on a business trip for a week, and the children are at home. It feels like I haven't seen them for a long time. Fortunately, I can watch videos on my mobile phone now. This problem is a problem that every working mother will encounter. However, I think there is no absolute answer to this question. Choosing a child or choosing a workplace depends on your actual situation and your own inclination. If you have to choose, it is recommended to choose the workplace.
1. Are children important? Children are important!
When a woman becomes a mother, she has a soft spot in her heart. This weakness is her own child. I'm really afraid of melting in my mouth, and I'm afraid of falling down when I hold it in my hand. Crying with children, laughing with children, I hope I can't always put children where my eyes can see them. As long as the child can laugh happily, even if he wants the stars in the sky, he will want to pick them for him. This is his mother. I want to give my children the best things I can, and I want my children to be the happiest people in the world. As long as the child needs it, he can go up immediately. This person is the mother, who doesn't care about giving or asking for anything in return. Children are the mother's world. Are children important? Children are very important, and children are the wealth of a mother's life.
2. Is the workplace important? The workplace is very important!
Today's society is different from ancient times. In ancient times, women were husbands, teachers were virtuous, and three obedience and four virtues were virtuous. But modern society is a little harsh on women, asking you to be a husband and a teacher, to be obedient and virtuous, and to cook in the classroom. Modern women need superhuman powers, or they can't do so much. Of course, this is someone else's perspective, and you are seen by others. Let's talk about yourself, regardless of others. What do you think of the workplace?
The workplace is very important, it gives you economic independence, gives you social and family status, and gives you a place to play the residual heat.
You can't have your cake and eat it. What should I do?
This question is really difficult to choose. Children are very important to mothers, and the workplace is also very important to mothers' lives. In the long run, it is recommended to choose the workplace, because once it is out of touch with the workplace, it is difficult for full-time mothers to find a job and try their best to solve the problem of child care.
The difficulty is only one or two years. In these two years, you can make no progress at work and take care of your family regularly, but please don't leave the workplace. Once you leave, it is difficult to return to the workplace. Choosing a workplace is not giving up children, going to work during the day and staying with children at night. It is also beneficial to the parent-child relationship and will not be overwhelmed. Insist on accompanying children at important moments and let them know that their mothers love them. In fact, their mothers are also a kind of benign education for their children in the workplace. Based on the social situation, the workplace is very important to women and affects the social status of families. Please consider it carefully.
It's really impossible to have both, so let me choose, I must choose children! My son just entered primary school this year, and I have been raising him all by myself. Although I haven't made any money for so many years, I still think that children are more important than going to work. Money is endless, but children are the only one! I can grow up with my son, witness every important moment, watch him eat your cooking every day and keep praising "Mom, your cooking is delicious", I will feel very happy and satisfied! That kind of feeling is no less than the mood when you get paid! Cherish every moment you spend with your children. Your children have only been close to you for a few short years.
When I first got married, I thought I would go to work to earn money to buy milk powder when I had children. Having children, I discovered that children are not toys. In order to grow healthily, they need love, friendship and education. He went to school, and I chose to go to work, and gradually found that there was less time for companionship and communication, and the children didn't look as happy as before.
20 18, this sentence has spread all over the internet, and countless people have cried.
It can be seen that in the world of working women, there is no room for the word Buddha. Of course, there are also many women who take care of their careers and families. Ran Yingying, the wife of boxing champion Zou Shiming, is a successful case. She is free to switch between home and work.
Ran Yingying, with good looks, graduated from a prestigious school and served as the host of CCTV's financial channel. However, when her career was bright, she made a decision that shocked us immensely.
She chose to give up her career and take care of her family. In order to devote herself to her husband's boxing training, she not only has to take care of children, do housework and be a driver, but also help Zou Shiming with translation and psychological counseling.
Every time Zou Shiming trains and plays, Ran Yingying is there to cheer him on. Over the years, her knowledge of boxing has almost caught up with that of a professional boxer. Zou Shiming won the Olympic champion and many honors, which is closely related to Ran Yingying's efforts.
However, just when everyone thought that she could only be a housewife in this life, she once again subverted our prejudice against her.
Because of her understanding of boxing and her own ability, she has now served as the chairman of WBC (World Boxing Council) in Greater China. Even my husband Zou Shiming is proud of it.
It turns out that people with real strength can show their talents across borders. Therefore, the conflict between the two identities is not so serious that one party must be abandoned, and even to a certain extent, the two identities can be adjusted to each other.
So how to balance the relationship between workplace and family?
1. Try to do thinking work instead of routine work.
Thinking work is biased towards the decision-making level, while transactional work is biased towards the executive level, including daily chores.
By the time they have children, professional women have basically been in the workplace for several years. Many people have stepped into middle or senior management. Although such a position requires high decision-making, it is not necessary to stay in the company all the time and work overtime all day.
If you have subordinates dealing with trivial matters, you can give them instructions, and you can also guide them yourself.
The most lasting expression of my love, is choosing to stay by your side.
When a host finished a variety show of songs, he didn't choose to attend the dinner with his colleagues and guests in the program group, but went straight home to accompany his children. The host thinks that children's crying is much better than those clinking glasses.
Therefore, to spend time with family and children, we should start by putting off meaningless entertainment.
After reading the previous points, many people have to say that not all women have the opportunity to become management, and many people are just ordinary positions, and leave will be treated coldly by the leaders.
In fact, with the development of Internet economy, the 996 workplace is gradually weakening. That is, many people don't have to go to work in a fixed place. For example, from the media to create, such as opening some training institutions, starting their own businesses and so on.
These positions have broken the shackles of traditional fixed places and fixed hours, giving women in the workplace more choices.
Everyone likes to deal with their peers, and so do children.
If professional women encounter special circumstances and need to work overtime temporarily on weekends, they can send their children to their neighbors or friends' homes and let them play with other children. In this way, children will not be lonely, but also know new children.
In short, children also need to have their own social circle.
Every working mother is great and deserves to be respected and recognized by this society.
If you don't wake up for your children, you must be responsible for your yellow-faced attitude.
Taking care of children at home can also engage in sideline business and start your own business. You can also share how you did it and how you did it. At the same time, you will also have income, share the family burden and improve the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Be a strong woman, be your own big brother, be an excellent concrete, be a female boss whose salary is higher than that of your own bad old man, and buy yourself shoes, bags, children, children. Go out and show it to people. Oh, my God, your parents are going to have a second child.
Look at your own choice, mentality and cognition.
I choose children first, family first, work second. When you make this decision, you put aside the gains and losses in the workplace. Are those important? It's also important, but it's not the most important compared to children and family! Therefore, I will never be anxious. I will never worry about my children's transportation, school choice and getting along with my mother-in-law. The most gratifying thing is that my work goal can be achieved. There is a natural feeling. I believe what you lose will be gained, I believe in the conservation of energy, and I believe that hard work will be rewarded!
I am a male, my child is 2 years old, and my mother is at home to take care of the baby full-time. Considering the three identities of the child's mother's husband, the child's father and the employee who works hard in the workplace, my suggestion is: when an old man is willing to help with the child, choose the workplace; Otherwise, choose a child.
Children are the hope of parents in the future, and the workplace is the guarantee of current life. Both are equally important, and no standard answer can be suitable for everyone to choose. Below, I will give you a template for your consideration and find the correct answer according to your actual situation.
Many colleagues around me are parents who help take care of their children, so that they can leave their jobs and earn money to support their families. Use off-duty hours and weekends to take over the responsibility of the elderly to take care of their children, so that parents can have more time to accompany their children to learn and grow while resting.
Although I spend less time with my children, I can still spend some time with my children after work every day to make up for some of my debts to them.
Compared with child care centers, parents are grandparents of children, so there is no need to worry about children being abused. There will also be a happy childhood, plus the money earned in the workplace as capital, which can provide children with a better material foundation.
When children reach school age, grandparents can also get out of it, have more free time to do what they like, and will not get stuck taking care of their grandchildren.
My parents can't come over to help share the task of taking care of the children for various reasons. After discussing with my wife, I decided to let her take care of the baby at home full-time until the child goes to kindergarten.
1, more assured
My wife's salary is 3000 yuan a month, and it is almost the same price to send it to the early education center. It means that within three years, the wife's salary is only enough to pay for early education, and she has to pay the price of losing her accompanying children. It's not cost-effective in any way, so my wife decided to take care of the baby at home full-time.
Although I told my wife that my salary might rise after three years, and it would not be decoupled from society, my wife insisted on doing good things for her children, and I agreed.
Step 2 guarantee
I work more than my wife. Although there is no money left after all kinds of expenses are crossed out every month, life is ok without extra burden and pressure.
If the standard of living will decline because of not going to work, it is recommended to choose the workplace. After all, it is not good for children to accompany them every day, but let them suffer with themselves.
Step 3 be responsible
As a wife who does not go to work and takes care of her baby full-time, she has the responsibility to educate her children. Early family education is very important for children to have a good future. Since we have chosen children at the expense of the workplace, we should make this choice play a greater role and value in the future.
While I work to earn money, I also have the responsibility to ensure all the daily expenses at home. To this end, I gave up the bad habit of playing games and put all my thoughts on my work.
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Children and the workplace are very important, and you can make the best choice according to your family situation. No matter which one you choose, you should concentrate on making achievements and make the results worthy of your own efforts.
Hello! If I were you, I would be determined to stay with my children. If I hire a nanny now, the monthly cost is quite high, and the children need their parents more. No matter how good the nanny is, the child is not as good as his mother. Children grow up very fast, and they don't need your company in the blink of an eye these years. Family ties can't be bought with money, so I'd better spend more time with them. Money can be earned again, but a child's childhood is only once.
Maybe this problem is very tangled when no one helps to take care of the child before the child is 3 years old.
This question seems to be less difficult to answer after the child goes to kindergarten at the age of 3. Why?
1, modern science and technology have created many machines to do housework, which can be said to save a lot of housework making time.
2. Children should pay attention to nutritional feeding before the age of 3, so as to shape a good physique.
3. Guide children to strengthen their hands-on ability, eat by themselves and do housework within their power.
4. Guide children to develop a desire for knowledge and take the initiative to learn.
Parents and children often interact, giving children a strong sense of security.
These jobs need to be cultivated slowly from an early age. When they get used to it, parents will not spend too much time when they go to school. At least they have good self-care ability and physical fitness.
After the child is 3 years old, the child and the workplace can have both. Unless, of course, you travel frequently.