First of all, I personally think there must be no problem with rebellious children's families. Try not to have conflicts between husband and wife, which will affect the children. After the conflict, children are not your punching bag.
Second, we should communicate more. Here, I want to emphasize that communication is not simply sitting down and talking, nor talking at the dinner table, but creating a relaxed atmosphere first. Imagine, whether you are your boss or an employee in the company, what effect do you think face-to-face conversation will have? Therefore, a relaxed atmosphere is necessary. For example, you can take your children to play ball games and travel, even if the whole family goes shopping after dinner. Only in this way can children relax. What people say in extreme joy and sadness is what they really mean. Only in this way can we understand his thoughts and let him feel the warmth of his family.
Third, and most importantly, the hazy affection for the opposite sex in adolescence should never be stifled or over-regulated. There is nothing wrong with boys and girls walking together. Everyone who controls water knows that water plugging is endless, and only by introducing main canals can it be done once and for all.
Fourth, there should be pressure in learning, but don't supervise too much at ordinary times, cultivate children's independent learning ability and make him confident and healthy.
Finally, don't limit children's entertainment time. After all, a person who combines work and rest is a sunny person. How can the sunshine in his heart be rebellious?
This is just my opinion, I hope it will be useful to you.