I believe that many parents, like me, like to take care of their children when they first became parents, but how many people really did it?
In fact, we have all formed the habit of knowing nothing about the past, and the theory we have learned is seriously divorced from reality. Every child is an individual with distinct personality. How can we educate him with a few so-called treasure books? If you really want to use parenting books well, you need to teach students in accordance with their aptitude and use different methods for different babies.
After all, books give us limited reference, and children's growth is the result of the interaction of many factors.
The first is the growth environment. Mencius' mother is great. She took great pains to give Mencius a really good educational environment and moved to three places. In the end, Mencius learned something, thanks to his mother. This shows that social environment plays an important role in children's growth, and it can change a person's hobbies and habits. So we should learn from Meng Mu!
Family environment is also crucial. A child who grows up in a free and democratic environment can fully realize his self-worth, and his independent ability, problem-solving ability and ability to adapt to society will be well developed. Therefore, as parents, we should respect children's personality and allow them to have the right to speak. Parents should respect their children, treat them as independent individuals and communicate with them peacefully, instead of simply and rudely reprimanding them.
The power of example is infinite. Parents are their children's first teachers, and their words and deeds have a far-reaching impact on their children's growth. Parents' words and deeds, ideas, and cultural qualities influence children all the time. It can be said that we can always find the shadow of parents from our children.
Although my parents are ordinary farmers in China, they have set many examples for us since childhood. There was a drought one year, and there was not enough food. My distant cousin came to my house to borrow it. Although there was not enough food at home, my father decisively lent it to his family. My two sisters whispered about his behavior in private, and my father told the four of us that it was only because my uncle helped my family when building a house, which made us understand that a man should know how to repay a debt of gratitude.
In short, children's education cannot be copied in one or two books. As parents, we should respect children's personality, put adults before success, and try our best to keep them on the right growth path!