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Feeling happy and troubled after reading, a good mother is better than a good teacher.
It took 14 hours. I watched it for a month, made hundreds of notes, and finished reading Yin Jianli's A Good Mother is Better than a Good Teacher. This has a great appetite for me. The author Yin Jianli is definitely a "super mommy" and my idol as a parent in the future. Moreover, the result of "20 10 Fifth Rich List of Chinese Writers" will be even more impressive. There must be many parents who benefit from this book. Let me talk about my emotions as a parent of a three-year-old child after reading it.

Hi: Read The Wand.

In this era of network knowledge, reading has once again set off a climax, and various "reading societies" have emerged one after another. Seeing this topic, my heart "hitched". It turns out that reading has such a great influence on children. Then why does reading have a great influence on children's intelligence and learning ability?

? I was very surprised when I saw this. There are so many early education and so many enlightenment movements. The simplest but most far-reaching educational enlightenment is reading! And I have been doing this for more than two years. Somehow, I did a very correct thing under the circumstance of stumbling. Moreover, I deeply felt the many benefits brought by this enlightenment.

? The most important enlightenment in Chile is reading, which is a multiplication that can make children's intelligence grow geometrically. Books are a magic wand, which will bring a kind of magic to children's learning and promote their wisdom. A child who loves reading is a child lit by a wand. How lucky he is!

? In this article, the author not only takes her daughter as an example, so that she can not only complete excellent grades such as advanced placement in primary school, but also tracks and compares the relationship between extracurricular reading and academic performance of four children, which well supports this view. However, children who do more extracurricular reading can highlight their advantages in senior grades. Then what should we do if reading really has such a great effect?

Read classics; Since children want to get the greatest influence, classics must be the best, such as 300 Tang poems. Think about it. Didn't our ancestors realize so much from reading? So try to recite the Tang poems with your children again, remember to turn off your thoughts of explaining more, and don't let your decades of prejudice ruin your children's "infinite imagination" and "explanatory ability". Try to let the children be responsible for "interpreting" Tang poetry, which may bring you more surprises. At present, many "Chinese studies" education pursued in the market is actually such an idea.

"Finger reading": This method is to "point" words with your fingers when reading to children. This method is naturally a little "tired" than simply reading, but look at the author's daughter. It is the author who uses this method. When children go to primary school, their literacy will advance by leaps and bounds. This is a cumulative process from quantitative change to qualitative change. This method is much more effective than simple literacy. Not only is there no "deliberate" practice, but you can also experience words in context, which is definitely a good way to kill two birds with one stone.

Reading interest: Reading interest is very valuable. However, this point is most easily "erased" by parents. However, whenever we expect our children to achieve something, parents often lose their "reason". We often involuntarily hope that our "works"-(children) can be better than other children's, and hope that they can make achievements as soon as possible. But children are like a piece of "beautiful jade", which needs a little careful polishing. The practice of quick success and instant benefit is like carving jade with a hoe, and the result can be imagined. Therefore, this process tests whether our parents can always give up evaluation, comparison and utility. The simplest principle is that any book that can be bought from a regular bookstore, as long as the child likes it, let him read it happily. In this society where even live "eating" can become a hot spot, how do you know which book your child can read that can develop beyond your imagination? On the contrary, it is what we should do as parents now to broaden our horizons and link the future world.

Bold attempt:

Isn't it amazing to see here? The author's daughter, Yuan Yuan, has a wide range of books. In the summer vacation of her daughter Yuan Yuan's second grade, the author induced her to read Jin Yong's martial arts novels at the speed of two days. The reading speed has been greatly improved. Seeing this, do you want to correct your own practice? Suddenly I feel that we trust our own judgment too much and impose our knowledge on our children. We often think that this is not good, it is not strong enough for learning and hinders children from reading. In fact, every normal book has certain knowledge to broaden children's horizons. He loves baking. Even if he can't be a gourmet in the future, he can make something delicious to feed himself. She likes reading medical books. If she can't be a doctor in the future, she can take care of herself. Therefore, our parents should create unlimited possibilities for their children, not limit various phenomena.

Hi: the way of discipline

? This is easily reversed in the process of communicating with children. It is easy to make mistakes when communicating with children is fruitless or emotional. For example, children don't like reading and like watching TV. What parents usually do is to reward you for watching TV after all kinds of threats and inducements fail. Although the ending is happy, but? In this communication process, it is actually to strengthen children's efforts to watch TV. It's good to reward you for watching TV. Over time, children will become more obsessed with watching TV. The only reading time is mostly in spirit. On the contrary, if the child does something wrong today, tell him to watch TV now. If he doesn't watch it long enough, he can't stop, so watching TV becomes a "sad" thing, and it is possible to quit watching TV. Of course, this is just an example, which does not mean that children should not watch TV. Let him learn to control the time of watching TV by himself, give the child the right to watch TV and limit the programs he watches.

Although these two happy events have made me a treasure, the gap between what I saw in the book and the real education has made me even more sad.

Worried: Educational method

In the process of reading through this book, under the guidance of the author step by step, combined with our own learning process, I think about what we have learned in primary school. Primary school really doesn't need much effort, but what about reality? What a "heavy" topic it is to be a child in a big city. What's more, the criteria for choosing a school are: literacy of 2,000, ability to operate, ability to communicate in English, and expertise. Combined with the experience of taking care of children in recent years, most of what I saw before going to school was Montessori education, which inspired and guided us. However, as we enter primary school, we will continue to "destroy" the original accumulation, which seems to be a "fault" in my parents' minds. As a parent, you can listen to the views of the mainstream media in education: if children don't solve some problems through their own efforts in their studies, they won't feel the joy of overcoming difficulties. Just chewing what they are already familiar with repeatedly will cause indifference and contempt for knowledge. But what about the current practice? Faced with the pressure of further education, we can only let our children do something beyond their age at the age of less than school age. The mainstream media is completely contrary to the actual practice!

In addition, it is said that there are now school interviews that reveal that they hope to have a full-time highly educated parent at home to accompany their children to complete their studies. Let's not discuss the impact of this matter on parents or a family for the time being. As far as a person's growth is concerned, the biggest factor should be "self-driving". This kind of driving force can accompany a person to grow up, and accompany him to find motivation from himself in any future situation without relying on any external pressure. Nowadays, parents often complain that when we were young, our parents didn't spend so much time on us. Now we spend so much time and thought on our children that we don't realize it at all. Hehe, that's the problem. It may be that we have interfered too much with our children with our existing thinking, behavior, time and energy, which has hindered their free development and made them more dependent. Let's talk about the simplest question first. Do parents need to accompany us to do our homework and see what the author says.

? I quite agree with this. In the future, I may not and will not support any family member to sit next to the children and do their homework without being a "supervisor". I may choose to do my own study, work or housework while my children are doing their homework. But I think I will check my homework. Although I think it is not entirely reasonable for parents to check their homework, I can't let her take the wrong homework to accept the teacher's criticism. Too much criticism will destroy the interest in learning. Don't our children just want to grow up by making mistakes? Why don't they let themselves bear the mistakes of doing wrong homework when they were young, and what frustration education should they design specifically?

Worry: Violent homework

Speaking of violent homework, I suddenly have several pictures of myself being crazy about "violent homework" when I was a student, but I didn't realize it was "violent homework" before, but I just thought it was completely tasteless. I don't know if the students will be copied. When I was young, in order to finish our homework quickly, we held two pens in one hand and used carbon paper at the same time ... Aside from many things, I think the current "violent homework" may be another kind of "deformation" in real education. Homework should stimulate children's interest, and our parents are absolutely willing to finish it with their children. However, this is beyond the children's power. Parents do all this for the school to "post" this kind of homework. How different is it from the so-called "violent homework"?

? Finally, what can I do as a parent? The general trend is inviolable! What I can do now is to try to accumulate for my child and pave the way for him, so that he can have more choices when he can choose in the future. I can only read more books and listen to more reference opinions, and then make our children less hard, more lucky and more happy without violating the general trend. I can only seize the opportunity to exercise my emotional intelligence when he is young, so that it will be natural when he collides with the education system in the future!