I have a friend who just gave birth to a second child last year. I asked her gossip: "Hey, you can have three children now. Do you have any plans? "
She smiled and replied, "I've been thinking about having three children for a long time. I've been thinking about the names of three children since I was pregnant with the boss."
I was shocked. Some people don't even want to have a second child. This guy is good. Even the third child has already considered it.
Some people may think that my friend's family conditions are good, otherwise how could he be so excited to have three children! How expensive it should be to have children and raise them. From the beginning of pregnancy, pregnancy check-up, pregnancy nutrition, childbirth, confinement, milk powder, clothes, shoes and socks, travel equipment, early education expenses, tuition fees, tuition fees, and other expenses, not including the dowry or dowry after growing up, have been a very large expense. If the family background is not thick, I really dare not have three children casually.
However, this is not the case. My friend's family condition is not very good. She stayed at home as a full-time mother after giving birth. Her husband earns about 8 thousand a month. The city where she lives is a third-tier city. A person with two children, occasionally my in-laws will come to help and subsidize her a little. A family of four can spend around 10,000 yuan a month.
Although she doesn't have much money, she has arranged this home very well. Without foreign debts, the two children are healthy and lovely. Husband and wife love each other, and the quality of life is not too good, nor too bad.
I also asked her, "Have you ever considered that the expenses will increase as the children get older?" But don't worry if you can't meet your child's requirements, will the child complain about you? "
My friend still told me with a smile. She said, "I may think differently from some people. I just like children. I hope that children can care and support each other when they grow up, without thinking too much. As for how high quality of life and financial support some people intend to give their children, I didn't think much. I am just like Jia Xiaoling's mother, my child, as long as he is healthy and happy. If they grow up complaining about my incompetence, it's also my life. It's good for me to raise him. It doesn't matter if they don't recognize me. "
I don't know whether to say that she is enlightened or not in my answer. I totally agree with her Li Huanying spirit. Children's education and upbringing are often not piled up with money. No money to spend, no help, no energy to bring, these three are basically reasons for not wanting to have a third or second child.
But is this really the case? Could it be that the modern concept of parenting makes us "morally kidnap" ourselves?