1. Encourage in time to make children active.

If children want to become active, they should affirm their independent behavior in time and encourage them to explore more boldly in all aspects.

On the contrary, if adults ignore children's positive behavior or demand children with strict standards, it will damage children's self-confidence and make them dependent and passive.

For example, when children eat by themselves, they fall on their clothes and fall to the ground. At this time, if you set high standards for your children, you may say, "You are not serious about eating a meal. The neighbor's little sister eats much better than you. " In this way, the enthusiasm of children will be hit, and they will be even more reluctant to do it themselves in the future.

Both adults and children need to draw strength from the affirmation and encouragement of the outside world in order to challenge more difficult things and achieve better self.

2. Give respect and let children get used to making their own decisions.

If you want your child to be independent, you must first treat the child as an independent social person and give him the respect and authority he deserves.

Take two or three-year-old children as an example. When the whole family goes out to play, it can provide children with a variety of choices, introduce the characteristics, advantages and disadvantages of each place, and let the children decide where to play.

When you go to the mall to buy clothes, you must determine the thickness and material of the clothes, so that children can choose their favorite colors and styles. When enrolling in early education classes, choose according to children's interests and specialties. For the courses they choose, children's participation will be higher and the interaction effect will be better.

With the continuous growth of age, children will face more and more complicated choices. In this process, parents should adhere to the principle that they only give reference opinions and do not make decisions for their children.

3. Give trust and let children learn to share responsibility.

Many parents are unwilling or uneasy to let their children share family responsibilities because they underestimate their potential.

Take a 3-year-old child for example. When the child wants to help with the bowl, the mother will quickly stop: "Baby, you are still young. Housework is mom's. Dad doesn't need your help when the child wants to help clean the table. " Dad will smile and refuse: "Baby, you can't do this job, come on."

The original intention of parents is to cherish their children and feel that they are too young to share the responsibility.

But the message the child gets is: I have no ability to do it, and I have no responsibility to do it. In the long run, excessive dependence on others and lack of self-worth will make children gradually deviate from the independent track.

Trusting children and giving them opportunities to share responsibility and realize value are effective ways to cultivate children's sense of independence.