In fact, in recent years, although Enron and her husband often quarrel with each other in the cold war, they both attach great importance to their son's education. In their home, Chinese and foreign children's picture books and high-end educational toys filled the whole living room; When Enron's son was a few months old, he began to attend classes in the early education center; In order to accompany the children, Enron also quit his job as a teacher and became a full-time wife at home. Enron is very upset, why he has paid so much, but he still can't take care of a child; Why I was an excellent teacher, but I couldn't teach my children well. Because of the children's education, both husband and wife feel that the other is not doing well, and both of them are used to blaming and complaining each other, which leads to increasingly indifferent feelings between husband and wife.
I believe that many parents, like Enron, have high expectations for their children, hoping that their children can grow up well or become the legendary "children of others".
Therefore, all hopes will be pinned on educational institutions and children themselves. Many families will take their children to early education centers when they are still young, just like Enron. When I am older, I will send my children to participate in various interest trainings; When I reached school age, I began to choose the best school for my children. ...
Every parent wants to give their children the best education and provide them with the best educational resources. However, the influence of parents and family on children is often ignored, and the important role of parents' words and deeds and family environment in the process of children's growth is ignored.
Chen Baosheng, Minister of Education, said: If family education is not in place, no matter how good school education is, it will not help. For children, the best school is family, and the best teachers are parents.
Just like Enron, she accompanied her son to the best early education class, bought the highest-end educational toys and the most comprehensive children's picture books, read him bedtime stories every day and taught him the truth of being a man. Not everyone can do what she does for her son. After all, not all families can afford these expenses, and not all mothers can take care of their children full-time. Enron thought that his son would grow up well in such an environment.
But she ignored the influence of quarreling with her husband and the cold war on her son. Although children are young, their keen perception of the outside world is not worse than that of adults. In such a family environment, Enron's son has been greatly influenced, so he will use violence to solve problems that he can't solve, and he will also use violence to communicate with his parents.
Every parent needs to know his importance in the process of children's growth. Every parent needs to know what their children need at every stage. Only in this way can we grasp the sensitive period of children's brain development and help children become better people.
Author kimberly Brain pointed out in the book "You are the Best Toy for Children" that early childhood is a sensitive period of brain development, and 0-2 years old is a key stage of establishing social and emotional connection, which every parent should attach importance to.
When the child is 0- 1 year old, parents need to motivate their children to explore the world, learn and try to get in touch with new things. Children of this age only see their parents, or the people who take care of themselves the most. At this time, parents or caregivers can spend more time with Doby, talk to him and play with toys to help him learn to stand and lead him to learn to walk.
Parents and caregivers can use these behaviors and language to keep children's brains and nerves active, make children feel happy and happy, let children remember and strengthen these beautiful feelings, and help him establish a positive and optimistic attitude.
Before Enron's son 1 year old, their relationship was the worst. During that time, they quarreled every day. Often their son is lying on this side of the bed, and the couple are quarreling on the other side of the bed. The noise is getting louder and louder, and no one cares how the little people on the bed will feel. At first, children will cry when they hear quarrels. Slowly, with more times, the children seem to have their own immunity and begin to have no response to their quarrels. Sometimes they are quarrelling, and the children will watch them laugh, or simply sit and play with toys.
Studies have shown that babies' brains have more neural connections than adults. Once the sensitive period of intellectual development is missed, some unused neural connections will gradually disappear, while the frequently used neural connections will become stronger and stronger.
In early childhood, what kind of family environment parents give their children will prompt them to develop and strengthen their skills to adapt to the environment. The health of children's brain development and the speed of continuous evolution are entirely provided by parents and family environment. A child who grows up in a warm and peaceful family will be more satisfied and feel more secure; Children who grow up in a chaotic and noisy family environment will be more sensitive and irritable.
Enron's son, because he often saw his parents quarreling, fighting and even fighting at home, gradually adapted to such a living environment. When he plays games with his friends, he will naturally put himself in a controversial environment. When he sees his friends playing with their toys, he will be unhappy, make a hullabaloo about and hit people. Seeing that my friend has a new toy, I don't know how to exchange it. I can only achieve my goal by shouting and fighting for it.
Although every time this happens, Enron will educate him and guide him to realize his mistakes, the child has formed an inherent consciousness in his brain. When he returns home, he will face endless quarrels and cold war between his parents, and he will return to his former state again.
When children 1-2 years old, they can already understand what adults say. At this stage, parents need to use language to guide their children emotionally, keep in touch with them in a way that they can understand, and guide them to solve problems in the right way.
At this stage, most parents will habitually tell their children that they can't do this and that when they see that their children often go to some dangerous places to explore and do some dangerous actions. In fact, this makes parent-child interaction enter a limited stage. If the child's behavior is subject to many restrictions, many things can't be tried and the brain can't be kept active, thus forcibly cutting off the emotional connection between the child and the outside world.
When a child is 0-2 years old, all the words and deeds of parents will not only affect his current growth, but also greatly affect his future development. This stage is the most critical period for parents and children to establish emotional ties.
When a child cries, parents can soothe his emotions by hugging him, tell him that his parents are with him and let him know that you will take care of him no matter what.
When a child is sleepy and tired, parents had better put him to bed. You can read some bedtime stories or hold them in your arms to make him feel that you are always by his side, which will make him feel more secure.
When a child encounters difficulties, parents must accompany him to face them, work with him to find a solution, encourage him, guide him, and let him know that you value him and care about him.
What is more important at this stage is the love of parents, which can teach him how to love others and lay the foundation for him to establish correct interpersonal relationships.
Parents also need to provide a warm and peaceful family environment for their children to grow up in an atmosphere full of love, which will make him more confident, more secure and better able to communicate with others emotionally.
If couples often quarrel in a family, it will make children feel that problems can be solved by quarreling and fighting; If the husband and wife often have a cold war, it will also make the children feel that when there is a problem, they can take a way of not responding to you.
When the child is 0-2 years old, parents need to set an example, guide him through early childhood and give him a positive attitude towards life. In these two years, the most important task of parents is to teach their children to have a positive attitude, let him see the positive and optimistic side of their parents, let him feel the beauty of the world, let him feel the warmth from home and the deep love from their parents. Even if you work hard, don't miss these two years.
No matter what life is like, parents should provide their children with a loving and interactive family environment and leave more beautiful memories for them.
Children really don't ask much, as long as they can hold their parents' hands, the most beautiful scenery is everywhere; As long as you can lie in your parents' arms, you can sleep well anywhere; As long as he can snuggle up to his parents, home is his world.
There are no children who can't teach well, only parents who can't educate. When they find their children's problems, parents need to reflect on their behavior first.
The most critical period for children's IQ development is when emotional development begins to sprout at the age of 0-2. At this stage, parents should give correct care and guidance to help children achieve a leap in IQ.