When it comes to "gnawing at the old", the first thing that comes to mind is that young people have nothing to do and live on the old all day. Parents at home are at a loss, but because they are their own children, they have to accommodate and sigh.

In fact, not all people are "active". Now, for practical reasons, there is a new type of "gnawing at the old". Young people actually don't want to "chew" and have to "chew". The old man who was "bitten" was sad and helpless, but he didn't blame his children.

Qiqi used to be an elite in the workplace. Since the birth of the baby, the baby has lactose intolerance and is particularly attached to his mother. Because she loves children, Kiki resigned and concentrated on being a "cow mother" at home.

Under the care of Kiki, her daughter thrived and worked as a full-time nanny for three years. Kiki has always been strong and never bothers her parents when she can take care of her children by herself. But now that her daughter is going to kindergarten, she is in trouble.

The savings at home have been spent almost, so I'm afraid I can't open the pot without going out to work, but it's a problem to pick up and drop off the children.

The kindergarten opens at 7: 30 in the morning. She can take her children there, but school ends at 4: 00 in the evening. The director said that if parents have something temporary, they can wait until five o'clock at the latest, not every day.

But Kiki's job is to get off work at 6 o'clock, and her husband can't come early. In desperation, she moved her parents out.

Every morning, the young couple send their baby to the kindergarten, and at night, their grandparents take it home, cook a meal, go to their parents' home after work, and then take the child back, and so on.

Under normal circumstances, Kiki and her husband take care of the baby on weekends, but there are many things at work and they always work overtime. Sometimes classmates get together, go on business trips, and always bother the old people, and the children's grandmother can't stand it for months.

"My daughter can do nothing. If we can help the elderly, we should do more, "Kiki's mother said while rubbing her waist. "This family of three eats here every day, and the children also need nutrition. Both pensions are gone. " Grandpa sighed.

Kiki overheard these words, and her tears immediately came down. Her parents are so old, so devoted, so contributed! She stole her mother's money and was stuffed back into the child's schoolbag the next day, which made her even more embarrassed.

"I always look down on others when I take care of my children. I didn't expect myself to fall into this situation." Kiki feels helpless, but in reality, she has to take care of it, right?

Being a full-time nanny has obvious benefits for children's growth, which can provide more companionship and give children a sense of security. However, many mothers who insist on bringing their own babies have been "slapped" by reality. The following problems are prone to occur:

1) is divorced from society and difficult to integrate.

Because I have been away from the working environment for too long, I don't know much about emerging technologies, and I am alienated from the working circle and atmosphere. Talking about topics is unfamiliar to everyone, and it is difficult to blend in. Ma Bao will also breed inferiority complex.

2) The economy is tense and not independent enough.

A full-time nanny told me that since she brought a baby at home, she didn't dare to get sick, and she was even more afraid that her parents would get sick. She had to look into her husband's eyes to get money. There is no way. It is stressful and risky to support a family at home alone.

A giant of thought, a dwarf of action.

The idea of many treasure mothers is that they will wait until their children are one year old to find a job, and then graduate from kindergarten, primary school and junior high school, and they will probably stay at home full-time.

After giving birth to a baby, many people are lazy and sloppy. Even if you provide her with an environment, many of them will find it difficult to get out. Regardless of their positions and salaries, it is particularly important to take the first step!

If you are in Kiki's situation, I want to give you some advice.

(1) Give financial subsidies to the elderly appropriately. In fact, the old man doesn't value the money, but he feels different. We should set a good example for our children and don't rely too much on their parents.

If parents don't want it, they will try to subsidize it in other ways, such as buying rice, oil and salt, or adding two clothes to the elderly. Giving or not is your business, or it is not your parents' business.

It must be clear that even if someone helps to take care of the baby, the main body of raising the child is the parents. If you can't leave your children with the elderly, you will be happy and at leisure, and you will have to take responsibility.

There are many social occasions and relationships. Proper reduction of unnecessary social activities is the right way to ensure the quality of your family life!

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