Getting married, having children and being parents have always been taken for granted. If it is only for reproduction, it is enough to provide a child with a bite to eat, so that he can eat independently when he grows up.

But how difficult it is for us to raise a child now. We not only provide the best food, clothing, housing and transportation as much as possible, but also make efforts in the whole process of educational growth. I began to attend early education classes from babbling, and I just attended various interest classes in kindergarten one after another, for fear of losing at the starting line.

Parents take great pains to raise their children into better or more successful adults. But these are just parents' own goals. Just like a carpenter, he can make a piece of wood into furniture or exquisite works of art, which is exactly what the carpenter wants to achieve, and that piece of wood may just want to grow into a towering tree.

Aren't our parents carpenters? We have been shaping our children into what we want.

If you ask your children, they certainly want their parents to care for them like gardeners, often watering and fertilizing them, and sometimes pruning branches and leaves, so that they can freely grow into towering trees.

The gardener's job is to nurture, and the essence of raising children is to give love. Copnick, a famous American child psychologist, said: "Love children is not to give them a home, but to provide supplies for their journey."