This afternoon, my children and I continued to learn the text on the theme of unit 2 "fable", entitled "Take the opposite road". Every fable will tell us a truth and give us profound enlightenment, so that we can find similar shadows from people and things around us.

In class, children understand the inspiration brought by The Road to the North-only when actions and goals are consistent will they reach the other side of the ideal step by step.

When sharing his own case, Z told his father's case. He said that before, his father attended a parent-teacher conference, and his blood was boiling. When he got home, he told his son that he must accompany his children to study more, study with them and grow up together ... but his father persisted for a few days, and gradually, he left his son to his grandmother as before. After listening to Z's sharing, I deeply feel that a junior can feel the importance of parents' words and deeds, while adults as parents are still stubbornly doing the opposite, which has to be sighed.

Based on this, I gave the children the following instructions.

"Son, I will give myself two parental identities, A and B. My children can be called Xiao A and Xiao B. ..

First of all, I am a mother. I love my children very much. I hope he will become an excellent talent. So, when he was still in my belly, I have been giving him prenatal education, telling him stories and listening to music. Later, he was born. When I was one year old, I enrolled him in an early education class and accompanied him to the early education class. Later, when he was three years old, I enrolled him in a piano class to learn piano and master a skill. When he was five years old, I enrolled him in dance classes and painting classes. I hope he can develop a good temperament through dancing and calm him down through painting. When he was in the first grade, I enrolled him in English classes and eloquence classes, hoping that his oral ability could be better developed. When I was in the second grade, I enrolled him in the Olympics class again, hoping that his mathematical thinking could be developed and trained ... Every weekend, he was filled with several remedial classes, and I accompanied him on the way to various remedial classes, which made me tired. Ok, next, please talk about your feelings on behalf of Xiao A. "

At this time, Z, a classmate who usually doesn't like to answer questions, raised his hand. Maybe he had a similar experience and could empathize with Xiao A. I quickly asked him to answer, "I think Xiao A must be very sad, tired and upset because he has no freedom."

"Oh, is this feeling? However, I love him, and I do it for his own good. I hope he can't be worse than other children when he grows up. Am I wrong? "

? "Yes, yes, but I don't think Xiao likes to learn so much. Sometimes he must play in the remedial class because he thinks it is for his parents. "

"Ok, thank you for telling the true feelings of Xiao A ... Yes, the purpose of parents is to make their children become more and more excellent. However, controlling their freedom has dampened their enthusiasm for learning, which is very unfavorable to their development, but is getting farther and farther away from excellent goals. "

? "So, I'm B's parents now. I love my child Xiao B very much, and I hope he will become an excellent child. However, I never forced him to attend many remedial classes. He learns what he likes, and he makes his own decisions in his studies. I'm only responsible for accompanying him. At this point, how do you feel about Xiao B? "

It was that classmate Z who raised his hand, and I gave him another chance: "I think his feelings are relaxed and happy. He has time to control himself and his learning initiative will be enhanced. I hope to be a child like Little B. "

"Oh, really? Do you think you make up more lessons? "

"Quite a lot, I especially don't like English, because there are so many homework in English remedial classes that I feel a heavy burden. I don't have the initiative to learn, and I will definitely not learn well. "

"So, do you think your parents are also suspected of going south?"

? "yes."

? "Teacher, I don't want to learn the piano either, but my mother insists on it."

? "Me too!"

? "Me too!"

? "I don't want to learn English from Ma Chengying."

? "Me too!"

? "Me too!"

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A stone stirs up a thousand waves, and the children all spit out their own remedial classes. I listened quietly, mixed feelings in my heart.

Looking back on my daughter's childhood, I didn't force her to sign up for classes. It was when she was in the second and third grades that she learned painting for a few days and gave up when she didn't want to learn. I studied dancing for half a year. Because the bone was too hard and difficult to split, I was hurt by the teacher with a ruler. I couldn't bear to part with her and gave up. Later, until the third year of high school, she never enrolled in formal remedial classes, and her college entrance examination results were still at the original level, even better than those who had enrolled in remedial classes.

She didn't enroll in English remedial classes, and her English performance has been excellent. She didn't sign up for the eloquence class, and her speech ability was fully exercised through the family reading club; She didn't sign up for the calligraphy class, and her calligraphy was regarded as the benchmark for the whole class. This is not a gift, but the result of strict requirements and deliberate practice. To say regret, I only regret one thing. At first, it would be nice if she could choose one of the painting or dancing classes, in order to make her life more romantic.

There are many things wrong in the world, and we can start over. However, apart from educating children, there are no repeat customers. Therefore, if what we do in the process of parenting is the opposite, then stop it quickly. There is a good saying, if the direction is wrong, stopping is also progress.

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