A foreign research team once tracked the growth experiences of New Zealand 1000 children, which took 32 years. In these 32 years, they have investigated what qualities make people become very different when they grow up by observing their children's academic performance, social achievements and other aspects. Finally, they found that willpower is the key quality to distinguish everyone.
For people with strong willpower, not only do they seldom suffer from mental illness, but even their bodies are healthier and stronger than those with weak willpower. On the other hand, people with weak willpower are either obese or emaciated, and are often prone to mental illness such as depression. Adults have bad habits such as alcoholism, poor economic income, and most of them have no savings.
In addition to the above data, they also found another amazing discovery, that is, the proportion of people with strong willpower who are imprisoned at the age of 32 is less than 12%, while the proportion of people with weak willpower who are imprisoned at the age of 32 is as high as 40%, and they are more violent and often irritable and sensitive.
Modern parents mistakenly think that it is grades that make children grow up to widen the gap. However, what really affects children's life is willpower, which is often ignored by many parents, resulting in children's lack of exercise and weaker willpower than ordinary people.
Why are contemporary children weak in willpower? In fact, the main problem is the lack of exercise, the lack of opportunities to challenge, so that children can grow up and study in a comfortable area, so that children become conformist and lose the courage to challenge new things.
1968 When Mexico hosted the Olympic Games, an athlete at the bottom was remembered, engraved in the Who's Who of the Olympic Games, and even named as "the most beautiful one at the bottom". His name is John Stephen Avari.
Why can a person at the bottom get such a high evaluation? We need to start with that marathon. John Stephen Avari was the first Tanzanian athlete to participate in the Olympic Games. At that time, he was injured at 19km while participating in the marathon. At that time, his knee had been punctured and his arm dislocated. But he still completed the whole course with strong willpower, and the whole stadium volunteered to wait for him to reach his destination. When he reached the finish line, the cheers were deafening than the champion.
A strong-willed person can stubbornly catch up even though he has been left far behind. This quality is what every child needs most. Only children with strong willpower will not give up on themselves, but work hard.
Japanese athlete Yuzuru Hanyu also told us the importance of strong willpower in the 20 15 Shanghai Games. At that time, it was not long before Yuzuru Hanyu slipped into the skating rink and was hit by other players. Yuzuru Hanyu woke up in a coma for two minutes. Despite his physical injury, he stubbornly finished the game and won unanimous applause from the audience.
A strong-willed person can take his time in the face of failure and will never be defeated by it. On the contrary, he can be braver and braver and be remembered and praised by others. In the process of children's growth, parents need to cultivate and exercise their willpower. A child with weak willpower and good grades may be stronger than his peers from an early age, but he will never go far. On the contrary, he will be a child with strong willpower and poor grades. On the contrary, they will be brave in shame, accumulate wealth and have a brighter future.
So in order to exercise the child's willpower, what should parents usually do to make the child's willpower stronger?
If you want to exercise your child's willpower, you must first have a clear goal. Only when the goal is clear enough can we have the direction of our efforts. For example, when some children pile wood, they always can't pile up what they want. For a child who has no goal in mind and just plays, when he sees that he can't succeed through repeated efforts, he will choose to give up, but for a child with a goal in mind, he will lose again and again until he succeeds. Just like John Avari and Yuzuru Hanyu, it is precisely because they have a firm goal in mind, that is, to finish the whole game and persevere.
This mentality of children is more obvious in learning. For example, a child who wants to be the first place, a child who has no concept of ranking, can become the first place through his unremitting efforts even if the child who wants to be the first place at first is dragged far away. On the other hand, a child who has no concept of ranking, even if he can get the first place at first, can sit on the first throne for a long time and will soon be squeezed out by other students.
Many parents take pains to enroll in various classes and remedial classes for their children's academic performance. However, what can really help children is not these classes, but the children themselves, depending on whether they have firm willpower and clear goals. Only when their willpower is strong enough can they get stronger and stronger on the road of learning. On the other hand, it is futile for children with weak willpower to report to more classes.
In order to make children's willpower stronger, besides having a clear goal, there is also an indispensable point, that is, initiative. Proactive is a force of hard work, just like John Stephen Avari. If he takes part in the race passively, will he still drag his injured body to finish the race? Let's look back at active children and inactive children. This kind of child is especially obvious in class, that is, when the teacher asks to answer questions, it depends on whether the child raises his hand to answer them. A proactive child often dares to raise his hand, which shows that the child has the courage to go forward, and this courage is precisely the performance of strong willpower.
For modern society, qualified parents no longer want to feed and clothe their children, but whether they can cultivate their children's strong spiritual strength. Only when the children's spirit is strong enough can they stubbornly resist in the face of adversity, grow tenaciously in adversity, and let themselves have a more brilliant life.