Sima Guang told people: "Family style is more important than treating swords with children, because family style is the foundation of world style."

Over the past 1000 years, China has published 120 monographs on family style, including Family Instructions of Yan Family by Yan Zhitui in the Northern Qi Dynasty, Family Instructions by Zhu in the Song Dynasty and Family Letters by Zeng Guofan in the Late Qing Dynasty ... History shows: "A benevolent family makes a country prosper; A virtue is a national virtue. " The family style is positive, the descendants are positive, the source is positive, and the country is positive. "

The benefits of early education are twice that of work-

"Yan Family Instructions" said: "Life is young, and the spirit is patented. Think hard and relax when you grow up. You must teach early and don't miss the opportunity. " Kangxi's "College Training" also emphasizes early education: "It is advisable to teach early, but dare to quit."

The rise and fall of the country and family style in the Eastern Han Dynasty also advocated early education. The Zhou dynasty ruled for 800 years, with the longest history. It advocated that the transmission of the throne began with prenatal education, and the Queen Mother listened to beautiful music, restrained the sour and spicy, and ordered the Prince of Sangong to teach, which made Zhou Chengwang a success.

Determined to achieve something-

Zeng Guofan's "Letter from Home" said: "Nothing in the world can be achieved." "Not a saint, is an animal; Don't ask about the harvest, ask about the cultivation. " In his family education, there are many theories of determination. After emphasizing determination, I will demand and be self-disciplined.

Zeng Guofan is also determined to educate his son by treating laziness. Letters from home say: "All mediocre people at all times and all over the world are defeated by the word' lazy'", "laziness leads to laziness", "laziness leads to relaxation" and "diligence leads to laziness", and all kinds of disadvantages are caused by laziness.

Yan's "Family Instructions" also advocates determined education: "Cultivate one's morality and keep one's family in order to govern the world by learning."

Lide Shuren-

Zhu's "Family Instructions" said: "Although sages are younger than me, I will respect them; Although the unscrupulous are older than me, I will stay away from them. " Zhu attaches importance to moral cultivation, just like "clothes are to the body and diet is to the mouth". You can't live without it for a day, and you can't be careless! "

Sima Guang's "Wen Gong Jia Fan" also emphasizes virtue: "Sages live in the world with virtue and show it with virtue".

Historically, the Lins paid attention to morality and were good at educating future generations.

Four generations of descendants of the Lins performed their duties as prime ministers, with 3,000 scholars. The emperor personally presided over the court examination for 20 times1time, and the Lins were famous for 183 times. "Without forest, there must be forest when opening the list" has become a model of family style.

Later, Lin Zexu's Family Instructions paid attention to the virtue of value orientation: "More virtue and more money hurt his ambition; Foolish and rich, then increase it. "

Show your son thrifty-

Sima Guang's "Training frugality to show health" says: "From frugality to luxury, from luxury to luxury, it is difficult", which is an admonition to Sima Kang and shows the inevitability of "frugality" and "luxury". "Frugality can make a name for itself, and luxury will perish".

Zhuge Liang's Commandment also advocates frugality: "Be quiet to cultivate one's morality, and be frugal to cultivate one's morality".

Zhu Bailu's "motto of managing the family" is also frugal: "It is not easy to think about a porridge and a meal, but it is difficult to think about it."

Loyalty and filial piety-

When Su Shi was ten years old, he read Hanshu and admired Fan Pang's devotion to loyalty. "I told my mother,' My son is not loyal and filial,' and Fan said,' I am proud of my son'".

Su Shi asked his mother, what would you do if I were like Fan Pang? Su Mu said, "If you become Fan Pang, I will be a model."

"Family Rules of the Lin Family" also emphasizes loyalty and filial piety: "Filial piety begins as a relative and ends as a country, and filial piety turns into loyalty, that is, filial piety is filial piety" and "filial piety is the foundation." If you are not filial to your loved ones, you cannot be loyal to your country; It will become the mother of society. "

The supervisor should establish a foundation-

"Biography of Women and Mother's Instrument" says: "Mencius was born with a gentle temperament and was moved three times by his loving mother when he was young." "Meng Mu once chose his neighbor" and "Meng Mu once moved, but his son didn't learn and broke the loom", which is the crown of Meng Mu's learning and a model of supervising his godmother.

There is also a famous inspector in Yan Jiaxun: "You can keep a hundred copies forever, and you will not be a villain for a thousand years." Admonish children and grandchildren "don't be arrogant and lazy, clean up the door and don't fall."

"Yan Family Instructions Mianxue" said: "It is better to be Ji Bo than to accumulate wealth. Those who are eager to learn and valuable have no learning. "

Cooking to build a letter-

"Everything is Wrong" contains: Ceng Zi's wife's city, his son cried. His mother said, "If that woman gives it back, she will kill that woman." When his wife came back from the market, Ceng Zi wanted to catch a pig and kill it. The wife stopped: "I play with the baby."

Ceng Zi said, "Babies have nothing to do with play. Babies must understand and listen to their parents. Today's bullying is bullying by the adopted son, not bullying by the teacher. " Then cook it.

It is said that Zeng Shen's wife and son went to the fair, and his son cried. His mother said that she would go back and kill pigs for her son.

When I got home, I saw that Zeng Shen was going to catch a pig and kill it, but his wife stopped him. He said it was a joke. Zeng Shen thought that he could not break his word to his son, and finally killed the pig to win the trust.

Take an examination of Shan Yan-

Before Su Shi wrote Shi Zhongshan, in order to find out the origin of Shi Zhongshan's name, he took his son Mai Su on a field trip and wrote an article that never died.

Su Shi's father and son tested the mountain, saying that "it is against strictness to judge whether something exists or not without looking"!

Set an example for the second generation-

Twelve articles, such as Seeking Virtue, Inspecting Officials, coachable, Advocating Thrift, Rewarding and Punishing, and Chongwen, and The Outline of the Emperor, teach the prince to be a monarch and set an example. "Safety encourages waste, what's the point?"

Liu Bang, Emperor Gaozu of Han Dynasty, also wrote a letter to the second generation of Liu Ying: "Your current book is not as good as mine", "You can study hard and learn from yourself every time". Liu Bangyu, the "second generation", followed the example and ruled the country by virtue.

"Patriarchal clan system" warns future generations-

"Family Instructions of Bao Zheng" contains the patriarchal clan system: "Any official who commits criminal abuse and his descendants shall not be released to their own families; After his death, he must not be buried in a big coffin. If you don't follow my wishes, you are not my descendant. Putting stones on the east wall of the main hall is also called expelling family members.

Bao Zheng's descendants have never humiliated their ancestors. His son Bao Shou and grandson Bao Yongnian are honest and clean, leaving a clean voice.

A thousand-year-old family style "dyes the sky pale and yellow", which is the style and backbone of the family.