At dinner time, it seems quite laborious to let the two Xiong Haizi sit down at the table to eat!
Ocean is holding a used paper core of fresh-keeping bag, waving it very hard up and down; Pan Xiao bounced on the floor, looked at the food that had been served, and shouted: I don't want rice, I want to drink soup first! I want to fill the soup first!
So, I caught two small ones with a smile, washed my hands and ate with confidence, feeling that I had used the power of the wild.
When I sat down to eat, I couldn't help sighing: "Oh, I'm so tired. Taking one child is much worse than taking two children! "
After saying his word, the grandmother said indignantly, "Hum, it's hard to take care of children nowadays. There are many moths with mobile phones and computers. Not like an old child. Good. Take it. Four or five with the same, big with small! "
Yes, why does everyone think it's easy to take care of their former children?
Since I became a baby family, everyone will find it difficult to take care of the baby now. Whenever I go out for a walk after dinner, my mother-in-law goes out to buy food or chat with the old people who see the baby in the park! Unlike when we were seven or eight children, the conditions were worse before! This discussion is endless!
Now that the living standard is high and the conditions are good, why is it more difficult to raise children than in the past? Then let's pursue the truth and analyze the reasons.
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Economic expenditure has increased.
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Before: In the past, several children in the family were standard, and it was common for brothers or sisters to take turns dressing. Every family has similar conditions, and everyone is the same. Without comparison, there is no harm. Children run freely outside of love, and no one dislikes anyone.
Now: every family is worried about food and clothing, but they are trying to dress up their children. Ladies, handsome, cute, athletic, different combinations, famous brands are always on the upper body. Not only because of the trend, but because everyone does. No matter how small the child is, who loves to play with you?
02. Eat
Before: According to my conscience, we didn't have enough to eat when we were young, but there was no such thing as how rich we ate when we were young. At that time, the material level was still limited, and now the common fruits: mangosteen, pitaya and durian, most people have never heard of them when they were children. As for snacks, they are basically sweets, such as toffee and white rabbit, biscuits, crispy noodles and drinks from Little Tiger.
Now: Don't eat too much! Traditional, western-style, in addition to staple food, there are all kinds of fruits and exquisite snacks. Not only are there many kinds, but they are also very convenient to buy and can be delivered to your door without leaving home. It is not only convenient to eat, but also unique and exquisite.
03. Live
Before: When we were young, we basically lived in our own house, and our neighbors were familiar with it. At that time, there were few bad guys, and the world was still safe. Adults need not worry about children playing at home.
Now: I live in a reinforced concrete commercial house, but it is probably not clear who lives opposite. Basically, they are dealing with QQ group and WeChat group. It's dangerous to have many cars and many bad people. Dare you let a child go out to play alone? What if something happens? Is a small probability of one in ten thousand, who also dare not take the risk?
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Before: going out was basically a bicycle and motorcycle, and then a car and train. The price is not expensive, but there is more time and the transportation is not convenient.
Now: having a house and a car has almost become the standard for marriage, not to mention the fact that after having a child, the child has a cold, and traveling by car is the most basic demand. Parents who are better at arranging their lives have taken their children to travel and go out for a walk since childhood, so many children have been flying trapeze at an early age.
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Investment in education has increased.
The concept of prenatal education was still rare in the past. Few parents can personally help their children with their studies, enroll their children in various early education classes and attend extra-long classes. It would be nice to have a middle school student in the previous generation's family. If the child is admitted to the university, the whole family will be extremely happy and feel that this is the supreme glory.
Now, it is not unusual to be admitted to the undergraduate course. Children have been exposed to all kinds of new things since childhood, from looking at pictures and talking, logical thinking and Olympics, to swimming, dancing, aesthetics, roller skating, fencing, taekwondo and so on. You can say that it is because we are parents' own anxiety or we want to train more children, but there are indeed more parents who are willing to spend money, time and energy on their children's education.
Even many parents have planned the education fund when their children are born, but it is not to get anything in return from their children. For example, learning piano, dancing and painting is really just to let children have multiple hobbies and specialties, and they don't expect children to make a living from it in the future. I just think that children should have more contact, cultivate sentiment, shape temperament and give them more choices.
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The concept of parenting is very complicated.
Parents of the older generation believe that in difficult times, it is enough for children to eat and wear warm clothes, and it is good for children to grow up smoothly. Other basic care, the heart is willing but unable.
But now we know that people not only meet their physical needs, but also have spiritual needs and self-growth needs. We raise a child not only because we want him to have enough food and clothing, but also because he is a person with self, pursuit and self-worth.
The knowledge of raising children is too great. The previous parenting encyclopedia simply couldn't meet the demand. We should not only understand pedagogy and psychology, but also read countless articles by great gods, spend a lot of time studying, trying to figure out and practicing, and optimize methods according to children's characteristics. Otherwise, how do you know how old it is to sleep in separate beds with the children? Children procrastinate and have a big temper. Not a rational period, but a sensitive period.
These are intangible efforts, but they are also laborious. Many times, what we pay for our children is often out of proportion to what we get.
In just 30 years from 1980s to 1990s, life has undergone earth-shaking changes. Developed information, convenient transportation, rich life and social progress.
The social environment is more complicated, the pressure of life is greater, and it is more difficult to raise children.
We don't want our child to make the same mistakes after the hardships we suffered and the pits we fell in as a child, so we try our best to cultivate him and hope that he can become a happy person.
When I was a child, I was short of material things. Now I often try my best to satisfy my children.
We were always neglected when we were young, but now we care more about our children's inner security.
When I was a child, I was basically rough-raised. Now I know how to fine-tune and fine-tune. I hope my children can have a better life.
Why are children more difficult to take care of now than in the past? Because, in the past, raising children was called breastfeeding; Now raising children is called training! We love children with endless hearts and do things that others think are infinite!