Like how to learn to be a mother.
First of all, we need to overcome the panic of new mothers. For example, I am worried about taking care of the newborn baby, worrying about the health examination results of the baby at every stage, and worrying too much about whether eating, drinking, dressing and playing are safe and hygienic enough. I have adapted to these aspects for nearly half a year.
In fact, I can't find a close connection with my baby right after giving birth. It may be that my physical discomfort has completely lost my interaction with my baby psychologically, mentally and in action. Later, for some objective reasons, more than a month later, I started to go to the fields and cook all kinds of food and drink for my baby. It was from these things that I started slowly, and I felt that I really got into the role. Especially when the baby begins to learn to crawl, turn over and sit, he will learn more professional knowledge first and try to guide the baby to complete it. Slowly, I will begin to have the confidence to be a mother, and I will learn the natural maternal way to take care of my baby from these things, which is very fulfilling.
Six months ago, the usual way to burp was to put the quilt and pillow on the bed, sit down by yourself, let the baby lie vertically on his side, put his little head on his shoulder, hold it in the shape of a roof with one hand, and pat the baby's back slowly from bottom to top regularly. I was very happy when I burped for the first time. Sometimes the baby cries inexplicably and will try to get him to lie on his body. After doing this, he stopped crying every time and soon fell asleep. When I am very tired, I also fall asleep. When I wake up, I feel warm when I see my baby's bright smile.
The happiest time six months ago was when the baby learned to turn over and liked to look up at all kinds of novel things. Looking at his little head and looking around, he was often laughed at and enjoyed it. Especially when dad laughs and plays with cats, he will laugh super happily.
Occasionally, when you play some games for your baby with early childhood education courses at home, there will be all kinds of unexpected sweetness. I remember that there was no suitable stroller at home at that time, and I was afraid to go far because of the epidemic. So, basically, it is holding the baby on the balcony to see the scenery outside, or going downstairs for a walk. If it rains, sometimes I will watch the rain on the balcony with my baby in my arms, and learn to sing "Rain, rain, go away" to my baby in class. Sometimes when the rain stops, he will take the baby downstairs and let him touch the leaves and flowers with raindrops. When the baby touches the leaves with raindrops for the first time, he will also cry excitedly. Just feel the moist and fresh air slowly. This time is simple but beautiful.
Six months later, we will begin to face complementary food, and babies will learn to sit and walk. During this period, from the beginning of feeding rice paste to now the children learn to eat by themselves, for the baby and me, it is growing step by step.
As for complementary food, I have tried many methods. 80% of dark dishes were rejected, and only 20% 10% of babies could accept them. The research and development process of complementary food, from rice paste-egg yolk paste-minced meat porridge-fruit paste to steamed egg-rice-steamed bread-egg roll-corn-minced meat, sometimes makes you exhausted, but in the end, these tiredness will be offset by the occasional support of children. Up to now, I will still make pumpkin and jujube steamed bread, and I will also try to make seasonal children's food, such as mung bean cake and lotus root meat cake in summer. In order to make children concentrate on eating every kind of food, I will separate different kinds of food and eat one for the next. Every time I put it in front of him, his cute little head stretches forward, and his eyes can't wait to see what's in the bowl, which always makes me laugh. Up to now, children are used to waiting for the next dish after eating each dish. Sometimes, they even hold my hand and signal me to get other food.
Up to now, if a child likes my food, when he eats it, I will tell him what material it is made of, and the child will look at me carefully and then learn to pronounce it interestingly. I will also ask, is it delicious, just like your mother, the child will really compare. At that moment, I felt a little what the meaning of "slow life" was. Perhaps it was to take people and things in front of me seriously, to feel the delicacy of food, to feel the happiness of people who enjoy food, and to feel the unexpected happiness brought by food interaction.
Speaking of breastfeeding, if I'm not at home, I basically don't interfere with my mother-in-law breastfeeding her children. What you can do is to let your children sit in IKEA high chairs and sit next to them when you are at home, and let them eat with their hands or with spoons, and occasionally interact with them, such as telling them what vegetables, colors, shapes and so on.
Nowadays, children are used to this form of family dinner. Sometimes they will "flirt glances" with their father sitting opposite them, while drinking soup, shouting sweetly at him, or shaking their heads and smiling at his mouthful of rice. When eating steamed bread, I will let my children break some for grandma and dad from time to time, which is an attempt to guide children to share food.
In terms of baby's big sports, children basically complete themselves through strong consciousness and repeated training. For example, before I learn to walk, I will hold the fence for a while. Slowly, I will start pushing the legs of IKEA children's seats, making 360-degree turns, or pushing them back and forth in a straight line. This aspect was basically done by my mother-in-law at work.
When children learn to walk, they can even run around freely and try to learn to go up and down the steps, which will be another qualitative leap.
When the weather is fine after work, I will take my children by the hand and stroll downstairs in the community. Children like watching cars best, and they can't get tired of watching them. When reading books, they also have a soft spot for cars. I like traffic lights, too. I also took my child across the street with my curiosity and explained the traffic rules to him.
If Mr. Wang gets off work early, the family of three will take a walk together in the evening. Every time I watch my husband and children walk hand in hand or the children run from behind, I feel that the happiness of life is really simple.
When the weather is fine on weekends, the family will go out together and take a walk in far places.
Children especially like holding their father with their left hand and their mother with their right hand, walking happily and stopping from time to time to compare the colors of everyone's shoes.
There is a tree-lined path leading to Binjiang Avenue, which I often go to, and it is also my favorite. In spring, all kinds of small yellow flowers bloom around. After a while, you will smell a faint unknown flower fragrance. Go ahead, there are some pink cherry blossoms on the left. When you go forward, you will suddenly see a very red cherry blossom blooming there. All the way is the beautiful breath of spring and the joy of walking with the family. When children are in a good state, they always express their happiness in his way.
In the early morning of summer, this tree-lined path is still relatively cool. At this time, both sides are basically weeping willows and other trees. Children like to push their strollers, talk while walking, and occasionally stop to observe what passers-by are doing. I will also teach them to find strangers waving when looking at them. Up to now, every time someone greets warmly, as long as I gently remind them, the children will raise their hands and wave their hands in time.
There are many wonderful times, all of which are integrated into daily life, such as parent-child reading, reading time books together, playing football on the grass together, listening to various animal sounds made by Tmall Elf together, and so on.
Of course, there are times when I am exhausted. Once or twice, for my own reasons, I took my temper out on my children. After reflection afterwards, I corrected my practice in time to avoid making mistakes again.
From the very beginning of pregnancy to living with lovely children every day, we have to solve various practical problems every day, but also know how to get along with our inner self.
You can break out occasionally when you are in a bad mood, but you don't know what to do next time until you find the root cause behind it.
When you are with your child, you should put down your mobile phone and devote yourself to your child's world.
Children crying, losing their temper and eating badly need to establish principles in addition to solving practical problems;
The relationship between husband and wife is still very important. Find the right time so that they can have a chance to be alone. It can be a walk before going to work together in the morning, a walk shopping together on weekends, or an occasional short ride on Binjiang Avenue.
Get along with your mother-in-law, and have empathy. On the premise of understanding the older generation, you should try your best to bring up your children harmoniously.
The road to practice is long, but don't rush through it, but let life be lush.