2. What do you mean by villain? After reading the following article, you will know what villain means. Does your child know Mandarin, English and Japanese? Their children are good at piano, guzheng, painting and dancing. Are they "artistic geniuses"? These are not uncommon.
Today's children began to compete for "cleverness" as early as kindergarten and primary school, and their "fineness" even made many adults sigh. Story 1: Remind mom of hidden rules. Mom, why don't you give the teacher a present? The students in our class say that whoever gives a gift to the teacher will be kind to him and helpful to his study. "
Ningning, who is only in the first grade of primary school, said to her mother. Although Ningning's mother has long been familiar with this set of "social hidden rules", I didn't expect that even 7-year-old Ningning already knew it.
"I didn't know these things when I was as young as Ningning." Ningning's mother told reporters: "Now children are' little people'."
Story 2: "Watching people eat vegetables at home" "Our little Hongyun is only four years old, and knowing who is the best talker in the family will' bully'; You can't provoke anyone. You must listen to what you say. It' s really a' little man'. " Speaking of his son, Hongyun's father really doesn't know whether the prodigy's behavior is good or bad.
"I take care of the children at home is the strictest, so Hongyun generally won't lose his temper with me and won't make arbitrary demands. However, when his grandfather came, the little guy was unhappy with everything: he had to hug when walking, chase after eating, and dared to talk back to me in front of his grandfather. "
Story 3: Making friends with "useful people" My uncle asked 8-year-old Longlong how many good friends he had in his class, but he was taught a "interpersonal relationship class" by his nephew. Long Long said: "Friends are good and bad, and my classmates and I can become one.
Because you never know when and who will be useful to you. Some students have money at home and always bring new things; Some students are doing well in school, so you can ask them if you don't, so no one can offend them.
If I must make good friends, I will definitely choose the most useful one. "Parents' Views >>& gt Objection:" Little people "are chilling. I have heard the story of "nobody". Miss Huang, who works in the media, feels a little incredible: "How come children are so mature now? When we were young, we were all devoted to our studies, and our hearts were very simple.
If such a young child knows how to make relationships and wink, that child is really not cute. Mr. Li, who is doing technical work, feels that "villain essence" is chilling.
"The child's heart should be a pure land, very beautiful. The' smart' in the children's world is sad and chilling. " Pro: What's wrong with "Little Man"? However, the "villain" has also been supported by many people.
Alin said: "Why are villains psychologically unhealthy? As children grow up, they have a correct understanding of many things. With more contact with society and more people, their thoughts are no longer so simple, so this is normal. " Chen Liang, who is engaged in sales work, also supports the true colors of villains.
"People who can communicate with others and communicate well with others are always happy people. Only when children have strong communication skills can they adapt to the needs of society and become a happy person. On the one hand, adults hope that children can understand social interaction, on the other hand, they think that children have become' villains'. Isn't it very confusing for children? " Expert opinion >>& gt How should we treat "little people"? Children's psychological counseling experts believe that children's problems should be found in the adult world and can only be solved in the adult world.
"Villains" are formed in the adult world. Experts believe that children's "smart" performance is actually the result of the influence of the adult world. "It is adults who have the most contact with children, so it is normal to prematurely form various characteristics such as' hidden rules',' glances' and' utilitarianism' in the adult world.
If these are universally useful rules in the adult world, it is difficult to prevent children from learning and imitating these' smart' rules, because it is human instinct to adapt to society. "Parents should change their utilitarian love for their children and form the concept of caring for their lifelong happiness.
"In this way, parents are worried that the' shrewdness' of their children's interaction with others, which is not heartfelt but utilitarian, can be lifted." The key to "the essence of villains" lies in correct guidance. According to early education experts, growing children have great changes in body and mind at all ages.
"If children are particularly sensitive to interpersonal relationships, they will not develop overnight. It has a lot to do with the child's personality and thinking level. "
It is understood that 3~6 years old is a sensitive period for children's character formation. At this time, children's emotions are rich, and parents should pay special attention to personality education. 6~ 12 school age, personality and moral quality grow, and psychological personality tends to mature.
"Parents must grasp the critical period of children's psychological development in order to fundamentally help children form correct concepts." "But parents don't have to worry too much about the' villain' phenomenon."
The expert said: "The characteristic of children's psychological development is progressiveness. Over time,' little people' may have more life wisdom, not just' smart' and' opportunistic'. "
Paying full attention to "peer relationship" and encouraging children to communicate with peers as much as possible will also help to improve the "precocity" of children's minds. Peer communication plays an irreplaceable special role in children's psychological development, which has an important influence on children's socialization, the formation of personality and morality, the development of emotional and social adaptability, mental health and learning ability.
Therefore, parents should encourage their children to communicate with their peers outdoors and create more opportunities for their children to communicate with their peers.
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I recently read a book called Trees with Long Ears. This book was written by Yang, who is a children's writer. This book is also one of the recommended books. It is mainly divided into five parts. The villain and the confused bean are about a little boy named confused Dudu who found a tree with ears on a spring outing and then found the villain. Muddled beans spoke their wishes to the tree in the ear, and finally helped many people with the villain, and finally broke up under the tree. This story tells me that a child who studies well is not necessarily a good child, but a child with pure childlike innocence is a real child. He is helpful and generous, so don't be so nervous when studying. A wolf without a tail did something bad, but its tail was broken. In the hunter's house, it is connected with the fox's tail and becomes a "wolf fox". After being saved by the old duck in the flood, it helped many people. Everyone was kind to the wolf and the fox. This story tells me that if we help others, we will help ourselves, and if we are good to others, others will be good to you. We must achieve the noble quality of "everyone for me and I for everyone". Wolf in the North tells the story of a wolf from the north who came to the south for a beautiful legend. What happened in the south was fierce and rude. It tells us that no matter what difficulties we encounter, we should be brave and strong to overcome them and not shrink back. Mother Mole tells stories, and Father Camel tells stories and tells the truth in life, which makes me know a lot of common sense in my later life. Generally speaking, I think this book is very good-looking, and it also lets me know a lot of truth and knowledge in life.
4. Little Guardian's good word is "Little Guardian". It is said that the protagonist Xia Keke has no intention of turning the art teacher Hu Jiapo into a villain. In order to let the villain teacher live a stable life, he became the guardian of the villain teacher, and finally sent the villain teacher Hu Jiapo to "my fruit, my fruit" after hardships.
In this book, what I can't forget most is a passage in the story of "bedtime stories": "Witches are also human beings. In fact, every woman has a secret place in her heart, which is an emotional lake. Some people are big lakes, while others are small lakes. No matter how big or small the lake is, women can't live without its nourishment from birth to death. Do you know what this lake is? It is a kind of longing for love, eager to love others, eager for others to love themselves. I say the witch is pitiful because we deprived her of the right to love and forcibly buried the emotional lake in her heart. We don't love her and forbid her to love others, so that she was born with hatred. Because she knew that every one of us hated her and that she was doomed to die, she was completely desperate and gradually became the embodiment of evil. However, if we try to love the witch once, maybe a trickle will flow from the emotional lake in her heart. There is too much hatred in this world, more than sand in the desert. And love is less than flowers in the desert. " After reading this passage, I have a lot of thoughts: the toothless witch is too poor. People deprived her of the right to love and made her evil. So I have a new understanding of the toothless witch: I used to think that the toothless witch was evil and unchangeable. After reading Aunt Hu's words, I realized that the toothless witch is like this because everyone rejects and doesn't love her. This passage also inspired me: we should love others and accept others, so that others will not be lonely and isolated. And because you love others, others will give you love. If everyone thinks and does this, how can there be so many evils in the world? As the end of this passage said, "There is too much hatred in this world, more than the sand in the desert. And love is less than flowers in the desert. " There is really too little love and too much hate in the world, and there are not a few examples like toothless witches in life.
There is a classmate in my class, because everyone doesn't love her, so she shuts herself in her personal world. She also tried to get in touch with others, but everyone still refused to associate with her, so she began not to associate with others, didn't like the world, and began to be isolated from the world.
This book has benefited me a lot, and made me understand that only by loving and helping others can we reduce hatred in the world.
5. The tree with long ears was originally a tree with long ears.
Author: Yang Name: Course: Chinese Teaching and Research Group March 6, 2009
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Confused bean crouched down and let the little man jump into his hand. I saw him wearing a small hat, a red Chinese-style chest covering and red shoes on his feet. How interesting
The confused bean asked him, "Why are you in the cabbage?"
"Just like your home is in a tall building, my home is in a cabbage."
"Gee," puzzled Bean wanted to know, "how do you know my home is in a tall building?"
"I am a villain, of course I know everything."
The confused bean understood a little: "Just now, I was still in the same place after a long walk. Is it your ghost? "
"It's not a prank, it's because I take a fancy to you and want to keep you playing."
"Do you like me?" Confused beans are a little flattered. He is so big that nobody likes him except his parents.
"Why don't you take a fancy to Mikan?"
Mikan is the student who listens to the teacher most in Muddy Bean's class. He also likes to report his classmates to the teacher, and he is usually favored by the teacher.
"She?" The villain shrugged his little nose. "The teacher's passive attitude towards Nuo Nuo is not interesting to her."
"Why don't you take a fancy to Lv Xiaoming?"
Lv Xiaoming is the best student in Muddy Bean's class, and he is also the most praised by the teacher at ordinary times.
"He?" The villain shrugged his nose again. "That little bookworm is unhappy with him."
At this time, the confused bean was very comfortable and really excited.
"So, what do you see in me?"
"You-"The villain pointed to the nose of the confused bean. "You are such a child."
For this answer, confused beans are a little disappointed: "Aren't Lv Xiaoming and Mikan children?"
"They are children, but they are not real children."
Although the villain is only a little big, what he said is so profound! Confused bean didn't understand what he said, patted his head and still didn't understand.
"When you talk to a tree, your classmates laugh at you for being stupid, which shows that you are a real child."
"Oh." Confused beans have a little understanding.
"In fact, they are stupid!" The villain shook his little head. "This tree can really hear you."
The confused bean ran to the tree with ears again and said loudly to the big light brown transparent ear, "Hi, hello!" " "
Every leaf on the tree trembled and clattered.
"It heard!" The confused beans jumped about with joy. "I really heard it!"