That's my friend. A junior high school classmate she hadn't seen for years suddenly met and rented a room at my friend's house. My junior high school classmate is a full-time mother, but she doesn't cook. She takes her two-year-old baby to my friend's house for dinner every day. My friend has two children, one is four years old and the other is one year old. She is very tired. I have to serve my junior high school classmates every day. Her children insisted on beating my friend's children, which made the family a mess. Junior high school students will take their children home to sleep after lunch, never helping with housework or washing dishes. My friend cooks, she plays with her mobile phone and doesn't look after the children.
After half a year, my friend finally could not help it. When the children are older, they can take them out to play. She began to look for reasons not to be at home. As a result, junior high school students also said, why do you go out every day instead of cooking at home?
Once a friend didn't go out to play, but told her that her classmate was not at home. I didn't expect her classmate to see it from the window, so she called my friend's husband directly and said that my friend was like this. Angry with my friend, my friend was having dinner with my children that day, and my junior high school classmates went again. My friend said she didn't cook for them. This junior high school classmate brazenly said, I won't eat, just give the children something to eat. Please help yourself to a bowl.
My friend told her frankly that she was very tired and asked her to cook by herself instead of coming to my house for dinner every day. Later, this classmate got bored and didn't come for a few days. But if there is anything, I still need the help of friends and couples. Even when quarreling with her husband, friends have to quarrel.
Now my friend's little son has been in kindergarten for a year, and she has also gone to work, so this junior high school classmate doesn't go to her house very much. Junior high school students and children also go to kindergarten. She drives around every day, eats everywhere and doesn't cook.
Therefore, you can't be friends when you meet such a cheeky person. Disconnect! The so-called reciprocity, friends pay each other. If this relationship is unbalanced, it is not a friend, let alone a best friend.
Renting in a family next door to my house, the husband and wife are not bad, but it really bothers me in some way. His little daughter and my son are early childhood classmates. When they first come back from school, they will meet at home. Girls come to my house to play when they are familiar with themselves. Usually, their parents will go home and pick up their children at dinner. Forget it once or twice. In the back, I saw my son and I come back. His daughter ran into my house, and her parents just disappeared.
The key girl is melodramatic, loses her temper after playing, and then runs out as soon as she opens the door. I will chase her, and my son will chase me. I am so angry that I am about to explode. I have to babysit my own children, and then I yelled at her father on the road and asked him to come out. After I came out, I left directly. In the back, I will close the door and draw the curtains when I get home, or take my son out when I see them coming back. After watching it a few more times, they seem to understand what I mean.
When my children were in primary school, my family lived in Xiaoyanglou on Fifth Avenue. There is only one room, three rooms on the first floor, one sharing a bathroom. I cook in the hall. One room is unoccupied, and the other room is occupied by a southern girl who lives with her college boyfriend. College students stay indoors every day and basically stay at home. Whenever, the girl has to go home to cook and wash clothes. As long as she catches up with cooking, I will ask what to do and then taste it. Fortunately, not often, only occasionally, so I will give her some. Then the Spring Festival came, and on the 29th of the twelfth lunar month, she knocked on my door and asked me to come to my house for dinner during the Spring Festival. I'm surprised. Didn't I go home for the New Year? You're not going to your boyfriend's house? She said that her boyfriend didn't tell her to take her home until he left home. She missed the booking time and couldn't get a ticket. He also said: I am too lonely to spend the holidays alone, and your family must eat a lot during the New Year. I told her that the supermarket is not closed today, and she can order her own food. My family will feed my in-laws during the Spring Festival, so it is not convenient for outsiders to intervene. Besides, I have to go out to visit, so it is impossible to cook for her at home every day. In this way, she didn't know where to eat and drink. I didn't see her during the Spring Festival anyway.
I hate the word girlfriend now. Under normal circumstances, I am not so blind and I don't consider others!
There is no shame in refusing directly!
An acquaintance in our community often forgets his keys and then comes to my house. Once, she stayed until almost eleven o'clock in the evening, and I had to help her children with their homework. She said her daughter didn't need help or company ... Once again, she called me on her way home from work, and I came to your house and forgot my key. Not a bad person, but I really don't want to put myself in the shoes.
Later, she said she would come, but I politely refused. Sometimes I just ring the doorbell and do what I should do, chatting with her and doing things at the same time, so that she can see my busyness.
Let alone four children. Even a child who comes to my house every day can't stand it.
Because children are together, it really destroys the king, okay?
My son likes to play with the little girls in his class.
Every day after school in kindergarten, I will invite this little girl to my house to play.
Actually, I like this little girl better.
Because I don't have a daughter, and that girl has a sweet mouth, I prefer her to come home to play.
But in fact, after a long time, I found that this child is more naughty than my son.
That's nothing,
I welcome it, too,
Later, maybe I was too kind to her, and the little girl loved coming to my house.
I make an appointment with my son every day after school.
You can spend four or five days a week,
Pick them up after school every day. They are playing with toys in my house.
I have to cook for them.
Really tired
They are the kings of destruction.
Every night, they make a mess at home, which is really terrible.
I have a penis at home. After a long time, I really can't stand it.
I feel a little broken.
But the child likes it, and the mother seems more willing.
She didn't mention it to me because someone helped her with the children.
Well, I can't say anything.
In your case, you can tell your best friend that you are not at home.
When your best friend brings the child to you, say you are outside.
I went to the kindergarten to pick up the child and bring her back.
So there's no way to refuse,
Sometimes I feel really liberated when I have to go out to eat.
You don't have to take two children.
I know they don't go to work, stay at home as full-time wives, can't do their jobs well and run out of the house all day. They only come to your house for one purpose, to eat a lot. The reason why they always come to your home instead of their own is because your home has good conditions, good food and a big house, which makes children run comfortably. They come to your house, and their own house is locked and closed. Then their family's living expenses are solved almost all day, which is not bad. I have a colleague who reports every day when her best friend is on maternity leave. The best friend's children are managed by her father after school. She comes to my colleague's house every day after work and stays until dinner. Colleagues do housework and she will help them do it together. She didn't go until her colleague went to work after maternity leave. Look at my colleague, my best friend, leaving the elderly and children unattended at home. A stay-at-home wife doesn't do her duty and reports to other people's homes every day. Why? It's nothing more than eating and drinking for that mouth, which makes people look down upon it. My colleague didn't try to refuse her to come because she could also help with some housework. My colleague has a good family condition, a big house and comfortable family conditions.
If you don't want them to come and cook something bad, your family will bear it. After a few days, they stopped coming. You have a try.
Have a relationship, let you give her a candy, she will thank you. After eating for a long time, I suddenly forgot to give it to her, and she will ask you why there is no candy. Gradually become a habit, and the habit will be natural.
Some people think that if you talk to her a few words, she will think that she knows you very well, so it will be difficult to get along. A neighbor lived across the hall when she was pregnant, and her mother-in-law took care of her from pregnancy to the last delivery, so she would take special care of her. For example, if she cooks delicious food, she will be invited to eat together and tell others that I am her best friend. Sometimes it's nothing. As a result, from pregnancy to delivery, I can't stand it, although it is every three to five. Who didn't pay for the meal? During confinement, her mother-in-law took care of her for a month and left. Then she knocked on my door and said, if you can't cook alone with the children, can you have dinner at my house? I promised. I knock every day. I told her directly, elder sister, please ask your husband to buy you something nutritious, after all. I seldom drink soup every day. Eating too much is not good for children. I haven't been here since then, and it feels like meeting a stranger. I often think that people can't be too kind, because some relationships are like "enemies". I welcome you to come every ten and a half months, but every day, I'm sorry, my family has no extra economic adoption leave "refugees"!
In fact, sometimes, you can say it directly, because true friends don't bother you every day, and you will know that life in every family is not easy, and you have to work hard to gain something, and you will also know that "there is no free lunch in the world" comes once every ten and a half months. I really miss you as a friend. Every day, to put it mildly, I come to play, but actually I come to "play the autumnal equinox"!
In college, a distant friend of my best friend often called her. Often the other party hangs up on me, and my best friend wants to sleep or do something else. At this time, she asked her roommate to shout "XX turns off the lights, it's time for bed". At this time, my best friend found a good excuse to tell her that her friend died. Sometimes when we are embarrassed to refuse others, we can turn to some external forces, that is, factors beyond our control. As for how to refuse two girlfriends to take four children home every day, it depends on what external force you can use!
In my opinion, a girlfriend who doesn't consider other people's feelings like this is really not a girlfriend, and you don't have to be tactful. Big deal. Break up.
The feelings of friends and girlfriends are mutual, and reciprocity is equal. If you just want to take advantage of you, don't let it be.
Maybe you are thin-skinned, or don't want to offend people. If they come again, you can change your clothes in advance and say you have something to go out.
If they know that you don't have the habit of going out often, then you can pretend to cut off water and electricity and not supply all the food and water. If it is inconvenient, they won't come.
I don't know if you are married? Do you have a boyfriend? If it doesn't work, let your husband or boyfriend (if it doesn't work, find a male relative or something) wander around the house in shorts, exaggerate, smoke and throw bottles everywhere ... so, who dares to take care of the children?
Then you pretend to be sorry and say to your best friend, I'm sorry, my relatives are like this, and I don't know when to stay.
Generally speaking, people with a little vision will understand what is going on, and they will not come; If you still don't understand what it means or take it out on you, then break up.
Judging from what you said, you should think about how to politely refuse, because you don't want to make the relationship with two girlfriends stiff. So you should first analyze the reason why your girlfriend brings the children to your house every day, so that you can prescribe the right medicine.
Cause analysis of 0 1
It's cheaper to go to your house. Generally speaking, playing at home will cost less, even because you are the host, you can manage meals, snacks and so on.
It's safer and more spacious to play in your home. Will your home be bigger and more comfortable than playing outside, and will it be safer if the children are young? I used to take Qi Xiaomei to a colleague's house to play. There was a girl at her house who was about the same age as Qi Xiaomei. But I will still invite them to my house to play.
Because you are a very familiar person, it hurts you to refuse directly because of your bad feelings. Here are some tips that I hope will help you.
02 small suggestions
Meet outside. First, try to tell your best friend that there are too many relatives at home recently to entertain. Let's go out to play together, at the expense of AA.
Take turns playing in their respective homes. You can tell your best friend that the child wants to play at your house. Generally speaking, since you are best friends, you shouldn't refuse your suggestion.
If all the above suggestions fail, you need to re-examine your relationship, and finally you may have to choose to say "no" directly.