Mao Mao couldn't wait to eat chocolate before the cake was finished. Seeing the interesting slides on the playground, Mao Mao ignored the children in front of the queue and insisted on playing first. When attending an interest class, Mao Mao found that he couldn't do it well, so he gave up easily. When the demands were not met in time, he immediately lost his temper and even lost control of his emotions ... All this made Mao Mao, 3, a "hothead" in the eyes of his parents, impatient when he was in trouble.

Early education experts say that children's endurance is actually inversely proportional to their age, but the trait of "patience" must be cultivated from an early age. Experts suggest that parents should gradually cultivate their children's endurance, patience and perseverance from early childhood to primary school. If children get incorrect guidance and education, they may have to bear the "bad consequences" when they grow up. For example, children are easily influenced by their emotions. If they are a little unhappy, they feel unbearable, unable to think calmly about solutions to problems and unable to bear setbacks, thus affecting their work and life.

Experts emphasize that parents should first understand their children's age, ability and temperament. Secondly, parents should set an example. If parents have no patience, it is difficult to cultivate children's patience. Parents should always pay attention to their performance in life and try to be a patient example.

Deliberately keep the child waiting

Jia Jia usually can't wait to get something, such as watching cartoons, cutting the watermelon she just bought or telling another story. Jiajia's mother will tell her that she can get it, but it will take some time. Give Jia Jia time to experience and compare, and let her know what "waiting" is. During this time, you can sing a short song to your child or count from 1 to 10. Let children understand that "waiting" is only a short time.

Expert comment: The methods listed in the above cases are very practical for cultivating children's patience. To cultivate children's patience, you have to try to explain to them, let them know how long to wait, and then ignore the possibility that children will bother you. However, for preschool children, don't let him wait for 5 minutes. You can wait 1 minute at first, and then increase it to 3 minutes. Generally, training at home will be better.

Tip: You can also do something while the child is waiting, such as keeping the child quiet when the mother answers the phone 1 minute. If the child can wait quietly for 1 minute, the mother should praise him like this: "You are so patient that you can play by yourself while the mother is talking." If the child can't listen, then you can ignore him for the next 1 minute and explain the reason to her. To do this, parents need to harden their hearts, otherwise the training will be in vain.

A temporary distraction.

When parents are about to have a heart-to-heart talk with friends, they might as well give their children a little thing that he has never seen or is not allowed to play with, so as to divert his attention. When the child knows what it is, or what he can do with it, you end the conversation.

Expert comment: If you are a toddler, it is a good idea to give him a toy. Because most children around the age of 2 have no ability to divert attention. But if children reach the age of 3 or 4, they should be encouraged to find something to do by themselves while waiting.

Tip: If a parent gives a 3-4 year old child a toy, it means that the parent is responsible for his own behavior, which is not conducive to cultivating the child's patience. Let children draw a picture while waiting, or read a book by themselves, and do something that children are usually interested in, so that children can learn how to kill time by themselves.

Tacit communication skills

If parents meet acquaintances on the road and need to talk a few words, children can cultivate tacit understanding with their parents in advance if they want to get attention at this time. For example, let the child put his hand on his parents' hand, and the parents hold his hand and tell him: I know your requirements and I will meet you as soon as possible. This way, you can communicate with your children without interrupting the conversation with others.

Expert comment: Although this method can provide physical contact for children, it can make him feel at ease and let him be quiet for a while when talking to adults. But children are not required to leave their parents and do something by themselves. He still relies on his parents to calm himself down. Teaching children what patience is is a long-term process, not only to teach them what to do during the waiting time, but also to convince them that waiting patiently for a little time will eventually get what they expect.

Tip: It is difficult for children aged 3-4 years to understand how long it will be "10 minutes from now", and it is necessary to relate some things that children know during training. For example, you can say to your child, "It takes 10 minutes to braid your Barbie doll and put on a skirt. Mom will tell you a story." In this way, children will gradually understand the concept of time.