Be disgusted with your husband.
1, find out the root of your bad temper, and since when do you feel that you have changed and become angry? Generally speaking, if it is not before, if it is now, it may be that there are some unsatisfactory places in your previous life that have been suppressed, which will lead you to feel that everything you see is not suitable for you. If something bad happens, you will be very angry. After finding out the reason, think for yourself whether it is worthwhile to do so now and discuss it with people close to you. You need someone to untie the bell and someone to tie it. After the one in my heart has not been untied.
Make up your mind to get rid of this bad habit slowly, that is, something goes wrong. When you want to get angry, you must restrain yourself and postpone the process. This is very important. You can also write down the reason for your anger, and you will feel better when you go to see it in a calm evening. It may take some time to get better.
3. When anger is about to erupt, control yourself with consciousness, remind yourself to be rational, and hint to yourself: "Don't be angry, it will hurt your body". A cultured person can generally control it. On the other hand, you can count silently every time you feel angry, from 1 to 100, or longer, until your anger disappears.
4. Admit yourself and dare to admit that you have a bad temper in order to get help from others. If people around you constantly remind and supervise you, then your goal will be achieved.
5, everything should be calm, practical, if any modest, you can stand on the other side of the problem, then, in many cases, you have no reason to take it out on others, and your anger will naturally disappear. If you really hate your husband, you might as well get divorced, otherwise it will only hurt two families.
What if I don't like my husband more and more?
Women should never care too much about your man. The more you care about him, the less he takes you seriously. Never forget that the pursuit of beauty is a woman's lifelong career. Men are always visual animals. Never doubt the attraction of beautiful women to him. Either divorce and find a husband you don't dislike, but others may dislike you. Either think more about your husband's goodness and change your opinion of him. Otherwise, the family will be unhappy and unhappy for life.
Why do women hate their husbands more and more after having children?
1. After having children, the pressure of life increases, resulting in many contradictions.
In the past, when there were no children, they could have enough water, as long as they were happy, without considering so many realities. However, after having children, the children's milk powder, diapers, early education classes, future education expenditure, etc. are all mountains on the parents' heads. Both of them should have a lot of plans for their lives, and there may be contradictions and differences, whether it is to open up sources or cut costs. Coupled with the pressure of life, it is difficult for them to sit down and communicate well, so there will always be quarrels and contradictions.
The mother takes care of the children day and night, and the man still lives his own life.
Unlike women who can immediately assume the responsibility of being a mother as soon as they have children, it seems that it is difficult for most men to enter the role of father as soon as possible and live their own lives. When a mother takes care of her children day and night and is exhausted, a man can not only be a mother's right-hand man, but also help her reduce the burden of taking care of her children and family. It will only make accusations, add chaos to my mother and make my mother work harder. Being busy and not being understood will make a woman's temper more and more difficult to control, and will gradually be chilling to her husband.
3. After having children, women turn their life focus to children.
In life, after having children, many women will unconsciously focus on the children and immerse themselves in the role of mothers, while ignoring the communication with their husbands. When my husband can't do anything well, he will have a very annoying mood. Even because her husband is in the way, she will have resistance to her husband. This annoying feeling will get worse and worse because of her concern for children and her estrangement from her husband.
It's normal to be bored with your husband.
First, aesthetic fatigue
As we all know, if a person is exposed to the same thing for a long time, he will get bored. After marriage, two people should live together for a long time and face the same face every day. It may be interesting at first, but it will be boring after a long time. Psychologically, we call this phenomenon marriage aversion. After marriage, men no longer pay attention to appearance as they do when they are in love. They are sloppy and untidy. Coupled with the growth of age, men are no longer as energetic as they were when they were young. The resulting psychological gap will naturally make women feel bored with their husbands. But these are all normal. As long as a woman finds out that she has such a problem, she will calm her mind, turn her eyes from a man's appearance to his heart, and explore his bright spots more, then her love for a man will naturally come back.
Second, life is boring.
This is actually a * * * phenomenon of China family. Our mainstream view of marriage is plain and true, so we ignore the importance of life interest. As we all know, the most taboo between husband and wife is that life is dull and tasteless, just like a stagnant pool, throwing a stone can't splash any water. In fact, after marriage, the life of the two people is not just rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, but also the pursuit of life interest. Find fun in life, such as giving each other a small surprise from time to time, giving each other a gift on a memorable day, or watching a wedding video on the wedding anniversary ... These small means can not only make your life full of warmth, but also remind you of the sweetness and beauty when you are in love, and maintain your interest in each other, thus weakening your inner boredom.
Third, lack of communication.
Yang Lan once said: "The bond of marriage is never money, let alone children, but husband and wife." In marriage, communication is the cornerstone for both husband and wife to go hand in hand through storms. If husband and wife can't communicate each other's thoughts in time, they can't understand each other, and they can't consider each other's feelings when they have conflicts. This kind of marriage is often accompanied by disgust and quarrel, because two people lack communication and don't understand each other, which leads to contradictions. I know a couple who have been married for more than ten years and seldom talk. The only way for them to communicate is to quarrel, and they hate each other even more after the quarrel. So instead of keeping your words in your heart, it's better to think more and get angry. It is better to find an opportunity to communicate with my husband, which may have unexpected results.