As a treasure mother, topics come and go, and we always return to our children.
Xia Xia complained to me that the children are going to kindergarten soon, and their language ability is still very weak. Unlike Nemo, she speaks fluently and exercises her children's language ability consciously, but it always has little effect.
In fact, it's not just Xia Xia. Many friends and colleagues in Ma Bao have consulted me about this issue, and they are also very distressed and anxious. They are worried that the baby will speak slowly and not be smart. In fact, the language of parents is very important for the development of children's expressive ability.
From the beginning of pregnancy, the influence of parents on their children has already begun. Many parents also consciously carry out early prenatal education, hoping to give their children enough nutrition and education at the same time.
Parents want their children to win at the starting line, but they don't know that parents' language is the starting line. If parents do not pay attention to their children's language use, it will not only affect their language expression and use, but even affect their personality.
If the family's language atmosphere is positive, harmonious and full of laughter in daily life, then even if children don't understand the language content, they will be infected by people's expressions and actions, and they will be very happy and happy, and will tend to be positive. However, if the family atmosphere is always in quarrels and contradictions, then children will also become negative, depressed and miserable.
Language has the most direct and rapid influence on children.
Think back, what kind of dialogue do you use most often in the process of getting along with children?
1, imperative dialogue
"No", "You can't do this", "You can't do this again", "I'll hit you if you do this again", "Come and do your homework at once" and "Go to bed at once" ...
Are you used to talking to children in this imperative tone in your life?
If so, what you need to know is that the tone of the command will aggravate the negative emotions in the child's heart. Every child doesn't like to have this conversation with his parents, because "orders" emphasize requirements and obedience.
Parents talk to their children like this for a long time, and children often feel persecuted, oppressed, deprived of the right to speak and choose, and not respected equally.
In the long run, children will become more and more withdrawn, unwilling to communicate with their parents and even unwilling to express themselves effectively.
2. Trading dialogue
This is a literal meaning, that is, the dialogue that parents have been reminding their children to do things, which means a little "routine" and is relatively indifferent and perfunctory.
Parents always want to maintain their authority in front of their children, and they are afraid that their children will not obey when they relax, so they always communicate with their children in a serious and indifferent way. The deadpan communication will let stress hormones penetrate into the child's brain, affecting the baby's active exploration of various abilities, blindly obeying and echoing.
3. Suggest immediate dialogue
Compared with the first two dialogues, the suggested dialogue is more suitable for the daily communication between parents and children, which is basically full of positive significance.
Children are young, often do not think about the logic of things, but rely more on direct and sensory judgment and thinking, with strong perception and good example, so children are more willing to actively communicate with their parents.
In the current competitive environment, many parents attach great importance to their children's education, and even spend money to enroll their children in various interest classes, in order to let their children have more skills and learn more knowledge.
However, most parents don't know that as a child's first teacher, using parents' language to help children create a good environment can really make children win at the starting line.
Psychologists tracked the communication times between 3-year-old children and their parents, and their later development. Research shows that children who talk to their parents more often have higher intelligence.
3-6 years old is the peak of children's language development. According to statistics, children's vocabulary can reach 800- 1 100 at the age of 3, 1600-2000 at the age of 4, 2,200-3,000 at the age of 5 and 3,000-4,000 at the age of 6.
At the age of six, you can master 4,000 words, just like college students have to master 4,000 English words in CET-4. It's actually amazing.
Of course, different family environments lead to different language environments, and different language environments bring up different children's development.
1. The more conversations parents have with their children, the stronger their language skills will be.
Of course, the dialogue here refers to the positive suggestion-prompt dialogue. When parents communicate with their children, children can constantly imitate and use new words learned from their parents' language. Children learn in practice, and daily chatting is also an opportunity to exercise.
Just as people in China will find diplomatic chatting when learning a foreign language, the language environment is the key to developing their language ability.
2. Parents' language affects children's spatial imagination.
Language vocabulary is of great help to children's space shaping, which can help children to establish their cognition of surrounding things, and parents' language can guide children to slowly transition to abstract thinking.
Just like when our description of beauty is not just "Wow, it's beautiful", but more diverse, children can learn from it.
Parents must pay attention to their own language use, master the "3T principle", talk with their children efficiently, help their children develop in an all-round way, and establish their "learning to dominate their brains".
Everyone has heard of the word "love". When we talk to children, we should never despise the dialogue with them because they are young and ignorant. Parents should observe their children's needs in the dialogue and try to meet them.
At the same time, in the process of dialogue, parents should not ignore their children's ideas, listen carefully and respond in time, so that children will open their hearts more easily.
In Little Doudou by the Window, Xiao Doudou, who was recognized as "Xiong Haizi" before being transferred to Ba Paradise, talked with President Kobayashi for more than four hours on the first day of entering Ba Paradise. Throughout the process, President Kobayashi encouraged Xiao Doudou to "say whatever he wants", and he was not bored. He listened carefully and nodded from time to time, which made Xiao Doudou feel respected as never before and more eloquent.
Step 2 talk more
This step is the focus of parent-child dialogue, and it is also the focus of dialogue quality. Whether children can communicate fully determines whether they can draw strength from it and improve their language ability.
Full communication requires parents to have two-way communication when talking with their children, not to become a one-man show of parents, nor to be unilaterally output by children. Moreover, parents should consciously use some advanced words or words that can cultivate their baby's imagination, and must use less imperative or didactic words.
3. Take turns chatting.
Whether it is a chat topic initiated by parents or a question raised by parents to their children, parents should wait patiently for their children's response.
When children's language ability is not fully developed, if parents show impatience, children will easily get infected and feel uneasy, thus reducing their desire for self-expression.
We can extend the chat with children by asking questions, guide children to think, and let every communication help children use their brains, make full use of vocabulary in their minds and chat efficiently.
Children's language expression ability can be improved through daily chat between parents and children. As parents, you must not miss this excellent opportunity to exercise and develop your child's body and mind!
I am the mother of little D and a 5-year-old baby. In the process of raising and educating children, you can ask me any questions. I hope my advice can help you solve the confusion and troubles in the process of taking care of your baby and let our children grow up better!