Rousseau once said a famous saying, "Do you know how to make your children unhappy? Is to be obedient to him.

Some parents are obedient and especially fond of their children, but if their children have no chance to feel sad, angry and disappointed, they don't know how to resolve these emotions.

2. like "you are great!"

The second way to make a child vulnerable is to praise him easily.

Many parents think that praise can make their children become confident, so they will praise "you are great" for everything their children do. But after a long time, you will find a problem. Children can only listen to good words and not criticism, so they can't afford to lose.

Psychologists have done experiments on this. They found that children who are praised for their cleverness will be depressed when they fail and give up easily. Children who are praised for trying to find a way will keep trying when they encounter difficulties. They are very resilient, even if they fail, they can face it calmly and continue to work hard next time.

This is a different way of praise, which has a completely different impact on children.

Praising his efforts, intentions and progress, especially some successful experiences, will not only satisfy the child, but also help to cultivate his persistent excellent quality.

What should he do when he experiences these emotions alone at school without the comfort of his parents?

Since we love children, since he will be a social person after all, we should teach him how to get along with others, how to express his needs and how to deal with all kinds of negative emotions as soon as possible, instead of protecting him for a while and harming him for life.

3. Everything is for children.

There are some parents around us who love their children very much and give them the best care no matter how hard or tired they are.

But what are these concerns about children?

First of all, it means distrust.

Parents think that eating and dressing can be done faster and better by themselves, so they help their children thoughtfully. Because they don't believe that children can get better and better if they practice slowly.

Secondly, such care deprives children of opportunities for development and learning.

Children should take advantage of these natural opportunities to exercise hand movements, promote brain development and cultivate children's independence and self-care ability. This is a child's learning task at this stage, just like playing games. It is not difficult to fight one level after another.

However, we hastily completed the child's simple level. Children don't have to do anything in front, and soon lose the ability to integrate into the group.

4, afraid of children's pride, so always crack down on criticism.

The first three kinds of parents express their love openly, but in the wrong way. The fourth kind of parents hide their love.

They are afraid that praise will make their children proud, so they always stare at what their children have done badly, hoping to point out their shortcomings and deficiencies, and their children will get better and better. But in the eyes of children, mom and dad don't love themselves at all.

It is true to point out mistakes to children, but it must be remembered that things are different and children's personality and behavior should be separated.

We can say, "Baby, it's wrong to throw toys around. What can I do when I am angry? " Instead of saying, "Why are you so bad and ignorant? Mom doesn't like you. "