In the face of "will you resign and bring a baby after having a child?" The mothers gave different answers to the question 1, the first-born baby mother:
@ Let you think about it: "I won't quit. I am on maternity leave now, and I plan to go back to work after maternity leave. I think the expenses will become much bigger after having children. If I don't go back to work early, my husband's burden will be too heavy If two people go to work together, the financial burden of the family will be much reduced and the children will have better growth conditions. "
@ Christie: "I have resigned. No one took care of my son after he was born. My in-laws are not around, so I have to take care of the children by myself. Originally, I wanted to insist on going to work to find a nanny to take care of the children, but my mind was all on the children and I couldn't concentrate on my work at all. At the same time, I am not worried about outsiders taking care of the baby. "
2, the second child treasure mother:
@ Don't embarrass me: "My Dabao is five and a half years old and has always been helped by the elderly. Now pregnant with a second child, I plan to resign after giving birth. I will make such a decision, mainly to watch the old people spoil their children every day, which is not a thing. Children need the right education to grow up better, so I decided to resign, take care of my children and educate myself. "
@ Don't forget: "What if someone like me who has no helper at home doesn't quit? I was tired enough when I was a child, not to mention two. When I was a boss, I still worked part-time at home. Now that the second child is born, I can't do anything else at all. I really regret giving birth to a second child. "
It is not difficult to see that mothers have different choices in different situations. Mothers can give up their jobs in order to take care of their children, or they can give up getting along with their children in order to realize their self-worth. But when we see the second-born mothers, we will find that they often have no choice.
The second-born mother chose to resign, and most of them could not escape these reasons! ? 1, the burden of bringing a baby is aggravated.
Having two children at home means that mothers need to spend twice as much energy and time taking care of their children, or even more than twice. After all, two children together are likely to cause more trouble. With children, it is difficult for a mother to take care of work and family. One more child will completely limit her. Today, the boss is in an interest class, and the second is in an early education class tomorrow. The daily activities of the two children almost occupy all the time, so naturally, the mother has no time to do other things, let alone go to work.
2. Disadvantages of parental separation
In a family with children, the mother may not feel so much about giving her children to the elderly, but the second-child family is different. Mother witnessed the growth of eldest brother under the doting of the old man, and naturally she will be alert. In order to prevent this from happening to the second child again and help the eldest brother to correct it as soon as possible, the mother must stand up in time and take up the responsibility of educating her children. You know, it is very difficult to take care of and educate two children at the same time, and it must take more time.
3. There is nothing the elderly can do.
Nowadays, the phenomenon of late marriage and late childbearing is very common, which means that when the child is born, the old man is already very old, but with the growth of age, his physical condition is already very poor. Coupled with limited energy, it may be possible to bring a child, and it will be unbearable to have a second child. So many old people only bring one child to their children. When girls have a second child, even if they want to, they can't. Finally, they will have to rely on their mother to bring it by herself.
It can be seen that the burden of the second-born mother is really heavy, and it is not surprising that she will choose to resign. If the practical problems are not solved, the burden of taking care of the baby will eventually fall on the mother.