I don't need to mention happiness or sadness now. As a father, I really appreciate the hard work of my parents.
Just like our parents, on the way of raising children, we all cross the river by feeling the stones and learn from the people around us. How to be a qualified parent may be our lifelong pursuit.
Through observation, we summed up the difference between 12 parents raising big treasure and raising two treasures, which is quite interesting and embarrassing. After laughing, I believe you will have your own experience.
1, about pregnancy
When you are pregnant with Dabao, you should refrain from eating only foods with high nutrition, low sugar and low fat, thinking that only in this way can you have a healthy baby.
When I was pregnant with Bauer, I couldn't help myself. I can eat whatever I want!
2. About production
When giving birth to Dabao, the baby will be born naturally, and the baby squeezed out through the birth canal will be healthier!
When I gave birth to Bauer, who cared? I don't want to eat again, so I cut it!
3. About feeding
When I was raising Dabao, I made up my mind to exclusively breastfeed. Even if it is inflamed and blocked, I will endure the pain and tears and give my children the best breast milk.
It would be nice to have a cow and a sheep at home when raising Bauer! In the worst case, everyone drinks milk powder. What can I do if I drink it?
When raising Dabao, I am afraid that my children will not eat well and suffer from malnutrition, and all kinds of tricks will be used as complementary food. I asked my grandpa to tell my grandma to eat more on him.
When raising Erbao, eat less and starve to death! You don't eat, do you? Wang Cai, come on, there's something delicious here!
4. About dressing
Treating Dabao, I can't wait to buy all the beautiful clothes back one day and be a little princess every day.
Treat Bauer well, and the baby will grow up soon. Do you think all my sister's clothes look good? You can wear it if you are bigger!
5. About toys
Dabao's toys are imported, pollution-free, high-quality, natural wood, and tall toys are worthy of my baby.
When I was treating Bauer, I passed by a roadside stall. Wow, baby, look, that car is more fun, more beautiful than your brother's, only 8 yuan, what a bargain!
6. About drying babies
With Dabao, you can see how cute you are, and you can take photos and send friends every day.
Who else likes my children except myself? I don't want others to know that my two babies are slowly "disabled"!
7. About early education
When you are pregnant with Dabao, you should lie down and listen to music when you have time, and choose soothing and sweet music. I heard that this can cultivate the baby's musical talent.
When I was pregnant with Bauer, I was really bored. If I'm not pregnant, I really want to go out now.
8. Regarding health
When raising Dabao, everything the baby touches should be disinfected, and eating, drinking and having fun should not be sloppy at all.
When raising Bauer, you see, this child is so good that he even licked the table for you after dinner! Nothing, nothing! You are filthy, and it's not disgusting to eat!
9. About TV
When raising Dabao, don't talk about TV, and the mobile phone is not in front of him. Stop crying, we won't watch TV, and mom will take you out to play!
When raising two treasures, TV has also become an "artifact with a baby." I'm so tired, shall I not go out to play? Let's watch TV. Look how powerful the Wang Wang team is! In addition, we also found that other people's "children who grew up on TV" are smarter!
10, about getting sick
When raising Dabao, you should explore breathing every night when the baby is asleep, lest the child run out of breath. When babies cry, they panic. Are you sick? Otherwise, go to the hospital quickly. It's only 1: 30 in the morning and someone is on duty.
Raising two treasures is, what? It's only 39 degrees What's the hurry? How many times has the doctor said? If it exceeds 39.4 degrees, consider seeing a doctor. Let's take another look!
1 1, on education
When raising Dabao, you can't delay such a clever baby. Buy a picture book and open an interest class! I don't want him to lose at the starting line!
When raising Bauer, Nima, excellent babies were born. Your brother wasted our energy. You'd better forget it Let's relax. It smells bad!
When raising Dabao, I want to give my children a warm family and always remind myself to restrain my emotions. Baby's happiness is the most important!
When I raise Erbao, the more restrained I am, the more extreme my child's temperament is, and the happiness of my mother is also very important!
12, about staying away from
When Dabao was in kindergarten, watching him cry made my heart bleed! I can't concentrate at work. Did the baby cry again? Do you miss me again?
When Bauer went to kindergarten, the beasts finally went to school! I can finally find a second spring!
Will you be worried about Bauer when you see this?
Actually, no!
On the one hand, although the second-born mothers are so careless about Bauer, their love for Bauer is no less than Dabao.
Only with experience, they have lost their former appearance and become more frivolous.
It's just that they are mature and rational and really know how to be a qualified mother.
On the other hand, in many cases, Bauer, who was "raised as a pig", is smarter than Dabao, who was carefully served and raised by us.
The reason is actually very simple. Children who grow up in an idealized environment often lack many opportunities to release their instincts. They don't need to work hard, fight hard or be smart, so they can get what they need.
And what about the two treasures that have been "scribbled"? He has a sense of crisis since he was a child, and he knows to try his best to show himself. Only by being smarter can he get what he wants.
I know from my mother that when they gave birth to me, they treated my first child as a treasure, just like I do now, and then they worried about me every day and couldn't sleep well.
As a result, under their careful service, I am as thin as a monkey, while my brother who has been "left out" is as strong as an ox.
Not only that, his intellectual development is much better than mine. When we both live to be thirty or forty years old, I have to admit that his stubborn and unyielding character is very helpful to his life.
Writing here, I want to say that there are many ways to love, which can be anxiety, lightness, humility and firmness.
Only in different ways, the children brought up will be different, and the parents' life experiences will be different.
Parents, when they are old, will find that the anxiety when giving birth to their first baby is actually unnecessary.
Perfect love is often not the best. Even if the lion carefully raised in the zoo is very tall, if you put it in nature, it can't adapt quickly.
Therefore, there is no need to blame yourself and worry about not providing a perfect growth environment.
There is always an unchangeable law in the animal kingdom: raising children and educating children are actually just to make children better adapt to society.
When one day, we find that children have the ability of self-sufficiency and a sense of responsibility, we will succeed.
What brings these things to children is not only quality education, but also the most ordinary life in life. In normal life, there are cold and warm, there are advances and retreats, there are joys and sorrows.
Perhaps the best love of parents is to provide such a normal growth environment for their children.
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