In fact, happiness in children's world is very simple, because children are simple and easy to satisfy. For example, getting an interesting toy, eating a delicious cake and making a new friend can make them happy for a long time.

To make children grow up happily, parents should not put too much pressure on their children first. There are many parents around me, and they all follow a point, that is, they can't let their babies lose at the starting line of educating their children. Let children participate in various types of early education, interest classes and so on from the age of one or two. I have never considered whether children like it or not. My little nephew, who has just entered the kindergarten class, arranges interest classes from Monday to Sunday after school every day. He can't take a day off a week and runs from one interest class to another every day. Make a 5-year-old child busier than an adult! I once asked my little nephew, do you like your life now? He replied: "I can't help it when I see that my classmates are learning and my mother wants me to learn." It can be seen that parents now always control their children with their own ideas, but they don't necessarily like them.

In fact, it is good to let children grow up freely. Every child has a process of growth, and each child's talent is different, which needs parents to discover slowly. Taking children to nature for a walk before school, finding some interesting things and doing something they like will make them live happier!

One is to let the children grow up quickly, and the other is not to beat and scold. Here are some suggestions to share. I hope it helps you.

1. Early education. Early childhood education is very important. It can train children's practical ability, thinking ability, creative ability, logical ability and so on. We should give our children a happy growth. It also includes parents' love for their children. Children aged one to three can play some simple games. For example: high jump, pitching. (Parents should actively participate) can help children grow taller and have stronger muscles. Parents can stimulate children's hobbies. Children of this age can be taught to read. Even if they don't know the language, they should be taught patiently. If they are interested in memory, they can be taught to use the national flag and remember it. The longer the training time, the better the child's memory. Some children insist on reading just to increase their knowledge. I'm sure your children can do the same. You can also play some simple games. For example, memorizing simple words and doing practical exercises are bound to be meaningful. We can have a 20-minute theoretical class first, and then do 20 minutes of practical exercises, which will not only help children grow up, but also help their memory, and can also be sent to formal institutional education.

2. A loving hug. At the age of primary school, I still came home, and the first thing I saw was my mother. A loving hug can give a child a sense of accomplishment. Children's hearts are very fragile, so parents should pay more attention. If the child has psychological problems, seek medical advice promptly. Nowadays, many parents love their children so much that they can't live without their parents, which will cause great harm in the future. If there are similar parents who suggest changes.

Read books. Books are tools for children to increase their knowledge, such as A Dream of Red Mansions, the Monkey King and so on. You can read more, which is very helpful to you, and you can imitate what's inside. Pig's voice should be empty, the Monkey King's voice is real, she can imitate grandma's voice and so on. This is called dubbing. Parents can stimulate the unlimited potential of children's brains.

4. Brain development. It is a familiar word to many parents, and brain development is a tool to help children grow up. Why do you say that? Because children don't know many words when they are young, they can help them develop faster. Download app software and keep training. Only in this way can children grow up happily. We are divided into left brain and right brain. The right brain remembers our music and so on. And the left brain remembers that our reading ability and other children's reading speed are enhanced, and reading is no longer difficult. Finish reading in one second at the earliest. These are all training. It was not formed in a day or two. But through online and offline training.

5. interpersonal communication. Communication is indispensable in our life. If we learn to communicate, we are afraid to go anywhere. For example, parents can communicate with their children. Secondly, what is the theme of our communication today? For example: clothes. Then talk about clothes in detail, and don't digress. One or two minutes is like not only understanding children's communication skills, but also helping children's composition, and they often need to be trained to say whatever they see. For example: dear family, hello everyone! I am very happy to speak here today. My theme today is clothing. Next is the content. At first, you don't have to be quick. Speak slowly, it can exercise the courage of children. Practice slowly and successfully, and you will have confidence after practice.

The above is my sharing, I hope it will help you.

This should be analyzed according to the type of child. Everyone has a natural habit of thinking. Some children are competitive. For their part, they are happy to achieve results. Therefore, if you have such a child, you must set goals with him and constantly break through yourself. Some children are very careful and meticulous. For them, doing everything well will make him happy, so if you have such a child, don't rush him, be patient with him; Other children are very warm and considerate, and care about the relationship most. I hope everyone will be happy together. If you have such a child, spend more time with her and accept her, she will be very happy; Other children are lively, free and unrestrained, which makes them very happy. Therefore, if you have such a child, you should give him enough space to be fully released without violating the general principles!

Happiness: reduce the psychological pressure brought by the surrounding environment and ensure the motivation of children to learn and explore.

Growth: let your ability be exercised and lay a good foundation for your future study and life.

We often say that education is to light a torch in a child's heart, not to fill a glass of water. This is because only by stimulating children's inner motivation will they take the initiative to learn, improve themselves and explore the world.

If you rely on indoctrination and coercion, most children will play games and rest for revenge once they enter the university and are out of the supervision of their parents. Because that's not the life they used to like, but they have been depressed. This is why many college students play games all night as soon as they enter college, play truant every day, and even often sleep until noon.

Happiness is to give children a relaxed environment. Studies have shown that in chronic stress environment (parents quarreling, too many forbidden items, etc. After a long time, the sebum alcohol secreted by children will increase, leading to emotional disorder, bad temper and obesity.

In fact, if you think about it, you will understand that even we adults feel uncomfortable being criticized by our boss every day, let alone children. We adults have experienced hardships, and we are more able to bear the pressure in our hearts, and we can vent with our friends after work. However, for the time of 1, children can't express and vent in this environment. You can imagine the pressure they are under.

As for growth, it is to lay a good foundation for the future. On the premise of happiness, children will be more willing to explore and learn. Just as we are more efficient when we are in a good mood.

And what kind of exploration is more conducive to future growth? Before the age of 6, just let the children move! Enough exercise can exercise the muscles and internal organs of the body. A large number of sensory contacts such as vision, hearing and touch can bring various sensory impressions to children's brains, and the synthesis of various sensory impressions is the embodiment of children's intelligence.

Therefore, the language thinking, mathematical thinking and spatial thinking we usually talk about are nothing more than exposing children to more of these aspects.

After the age of 6, you will begin to prepare for entering the society in the future. How to communicate with people, how to ensure good quality, how to learn the concept of money, how to manage money, how to learn the habit of learning, and how to keep the desire to explore knowledge are all the needs of children's growth.

At the same time, these are all in a relaxed and happy mood, so that we can better study and explore and travel our own system.

What is forcibly instilled only exists in the child's brain, and its value will not be much higher than that of 1000 yuan computer.

I want to send a message to William Wells' friends, saying, "Remember, our children need a happy and energetic mother." After birth, it is common that children are easily neglected. In fact, the healthier and happier their mothers are, the healthier and happier their children will be. Many times, mothers always try their best to take care of their children, but ignore taking care of themselves. As parents, we should not only raise children with healthy ideas, but also educate them with correct emotional ways. Teacher Zhang said that "the secret of raising children lies in the time parents spend with their children", so don't treat children as children who know nothing, but as independent individuals with their own independent thinking ability like us, let them observe more, talk more about their own gains and feelings and think more about themselves. If I were a child, what would I want, not what we need as parents and what our children might need.

Second, letting go of children's pursuit of happy experience is helpful to cultivate their generous and cheerful personality. As parents, in order to make their children feel happy, they should let their children pursue happiness by themselves. I remember playing hide-and-seek with her when she was very young. When she found me, the excitement was indescribable. Therefore, what I want to do with my heart is to actively guide and cultivate children's extensive interests, provide them with happy choices, and let them maintain this habit of pursuing happiness and bring it into their later lives.

Third, cultivate children's positive mentality As parents, let children understand that the reason why some people are happy all their lives is not smooth sailing, but that they have strong adaptability and good mentality and can cheer up quickly. I have been practicing my strong character and letting my children know that I will never give up and never be discouraged. I pay more attention to giving guidance from behavior, helping children get positive psychological adjustment in time, constantly strengthening their tough psychological quality and having the ability to solve life problems.

This is a problem that all parents care about and have a headache: they all want their children to grow up happily, but at the same time they are trapped in how to do it!

Many parents say that it is impossible for children to learn well without suffering. Where can there be any happiness? Some parents really can't help it. It is also a kind of happiness to let your children be free. In fact, these are all incorrect understandings.

Therefore, we must first understand the true meaning of the word "happiness".

Let me give you an example first:

There are two badminton lovers who invite each other to play badminton every week, and each time they have to play for a long time until their back aches and their legs ache. Their wife asked, since it hurts, why play? Can you stop playing for so long and it doesn't hurt? They say that having this sour feeling is happiness.

There are many similar experiences in our daily life and work. In fact, it also embodies the meaning of the word "happiness": initiative+sense of accomplishment.

Therefore, when we educate our children, we should let them grow up happily, that is, from these two aspects, how to cultivate their initiative and what kind of sense of accomplishment.

No matter what you do, if you have the initiative, even if you encounter difficulties or unhappiness in the process of doing things, you will overcome your desires. So how to cultivate children's initiative? It can be cultivated from two aspects: one is to stimulate hobbies; First, the sense of accomplishment of setting goals (short-term, medium-term and long-term); When setting goals, both parents and teachers should take a long-term view. For example, what is the purpose of children's study? Getting into a good university is undoubtedly one of the goals, but think again, what do children need in life? Of course, I will go to the society in the future, work hard and live a good life in the social environment. Therefore, when setting goals, we must not be short-sighted, but only take the child's admission to college as the only achievement goal. Such parents and teachers are irresponsible.

It can be said that there is much to be done in the education and training of children. However, we can conclude that what children need most when they grow up is the ultimate goal of education and a sense of accomplishment. However, most parents and teachers in China have obviously not done enough in this respect, and take exam-oriented education as the only goal of cultivating children: once the children are admitted to famous universities, everyone can relax. In fact, it often backfires, and parents finally worry about it for a lifetime. This also shows that parents or teachers did not pay attention to cultivating children's initiative in the process of their children's growth, even if the children were admitted to the university. Many factors that have not been done well come from the fact that children did not use the attachment period to cultivate their initiative before the age of 7, including the cultivation of thinking ability and survival ability. In the critical attachment period of children's early childhood,

To sum up: understanding happy growth is how to cultivate children's initiative and sense of purpose in life. I can work hard for my future life goals, and I can grow up happily even if I encounter difficulties, measures and unhappiness in the process.

~ painful and happy ~

My niece Lingling is 8 years old this year. Every time I call my brother and tell him about her, I just sigh and say that she is dragging her feet in her studies. Sometimes she can't write a word on a topic for half an hour, and there are many mistakes. When she talked about it, she became silent and cried. She was so anxious that she just wanted to hit someone. There is nothing she can do. I am always embarrassed at this time. I remember when Lingling was two or three years old, I told him that some things should be guided from now on. He said that the baby is under great pressure to go to school now, so she can play as much as she wants before going to school, and there will be no chance to go to school later. I asked Lingling again, "Are you happy now?" She was silent.

If a child can develop naturally and freely according to his own laws, he will grow up happily. This is by no means the stocking advocated by many parents, but respecting children, being good at observation and helping children to achieve autonomous learning through inner strength.

It is not easy for adults to truly respect children when they are growing up. We need to know what children really need. We often see such a scene: parents lead their children to cross the road. If children walk slowly, parents will blame them and pull them away, which is completely regardless of their wishes. Many parents bought countless toys to make their children happy. In the process of children's growth, she should be influenced by culture, but adults keep them away from culture by playing and sleeping in the "sensitive period". A child who wants to absorb something cannot stop absorbing or moving. When he feels that there is nothing to absorb, he plays with toys to meet his needs.

Children aged 0-6 have an absorbing mind and a sensitive period. We need to provide a good environment, which can meet the inner needs of children and try to eliminate some factors that are not conducive to growth. For example, when the child is 7 or 8 months old, she likes to climb. By crawling, she can exercise her vestibular balance ability and coordinate her big movements. If the parents stop the child from crawling because the ground is not clean at this time, I think he must be unhappy. Older children especially like to imitate adults and like the kitchen. Parents usually refuse to let their children participate in our daily life on the grounds of danger, which is unpleasant for children.

May all children grow up happily!

What children want is simple ~

First, parents need to understand their children. The child is curious about the unknown world, and some behaviors are likely to be that he is exploring the "world" in his own way. When the child does something wrong, don't blame him immediately, communicate with the child patiently in time, ask the reason, and then enlighten him slowly to change his behavior;

Second, treat children equally. Don't always treat children as "children". When educating their children, many parents blindly meet their children's "unreasonable" requirements in order not to make them noisy, so that their children develop a spoiled character. Parents should treat their children as "little adults" and try to reason with him. Slowly, children will not cry so much, and children will become more and more polite.

The third is companionship. Parents should not always do their own things: play mobile phones and watch TV. Children are insecure and need their parents' company very much.

I only think of these three points for the time being, and I'll tell you when I think of others later ~

Children must be respected and not discouraged. Let children have confidence and grow up happily.