There is a segment in the TV series "Anjia" about intergenerational education. One day, Gong Beibei dragged her tired body home and found her son feeding while playing with pad. Gong Beibei said that his son didn't listen at all, and even threatened that "if you don't show me, I won't eat!" Gong Beibei realized that her son's problem was serious, so she went over and took the child's pad away. The child began to cry when she saw it, so the whole family began to blame her.

One more thing, when Dr. Gong's little treasure adds complementary food, the old man always forgets to add it to his child. I hope my mother-in-law will remember what Dr. Gong said. Although the mother-in-law agreed, she was obviously unhappy.

Although this is a TV series, it can reflect real life. Nowadays, young people are under great pressure in work and life, so they have to ask the elderly to look after their children. However, the concept of the older generation and the scientific parenting advocated by modern times will inevitably conflict. Turn a blind eye, let children's bad habits develop improperly, and it is not appropriate to preach to the elderly directly.

So, what should we do about intergenerational education?

1. Husband and wife Qi Xin work together to raise children.

In real life, in many families, the mother or mother-in-law is actually involved in raising the baby, while the father is like a tourist. When they miss their children, they come to visit and hug them. When they don't think of them, they are busy and complacent. Whenever children need to add complementary food, what bad habits need to be corrected.

Just like Gong Beibei's husband in the TV series Anjia. He fully supports parents to take care of their baby in their way, even if the problem is obvious, he can't see it. It is proper to respect the elderly, which is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation and what every child should do. But raising a good child is also your responsibility!

Suppose he comes home and sees the child eating like that, make a clear attitude with the child and gently explain the reason to the old man. Presumably, the elderly will not insist on feeding their children, and children will gradually develop good eating habits. If so, Gong Beibei won't be able to see that scene when she goes home. If she can't see the scene, she won't be angry and won't make the whole family unhappy.

2. People with close blood relationship are responsible for the main communication.

My friend Lili has a good relationship with her in-laws, and so does her husband and Lili's parents. This is the way of communication in her family.

The young couple live near two old people. Usually, whoever is free will help them with their children. It is said that each generation has its own way, and after a long time, differences will arise. At this time, they have a very tacit understanding. For example, the mother-in-law has an opinion on the baby, and Lili's husband will communicate with her mother privately; If the child's grandmother takes the child out of trouble, Lili will talk to her mother privately.

In this way, the old man's face will be ok, just change it quietly. After all, his own son/daughter said it, not others! Naturally, it will not affect family harmony.

3. Take care of your children when you are free.

After all, the old man is old and has limited energy. To put it bluntly, they have tried their best to feed and clothe their children. As parents of children, we can't just ask the old people what to do. We should first think about whether what we have done is good enough.

I have a fellow villager who thinks he is doing well. His job is to take a day off the day before. As long as he is at home, he will encourage the elderly to go out for a walk, go shopping or talk to someone, and then take the children to do housework by themselves. His wife is busy at work, but as long as she is at home, she will take good care of her children.

Some people may say, isn't this what he should do? Yes, but in real life, many people just can't.

Old people have no ability to give their children early education, no physical strength to play games with their children, and no scientific parenting. But if parents are willing, they can give their children early education, have the physical strength to play games with their children, and know how to raise children scientifically! To say the least, even if they can't do these things, they can still study online. There is no need to spend energy to correct the habits of the elderly. After all, they just help you look after the children, and it may be better to lower the requirements for the elderly and raise the requirements for yourself.