1. The best age to have a second child: it is best not to be over 35 years old.
Doctors at home and abroad believe that the best childbearing age for women is 24-29 years old, which is considered from many factors such as women's physiological characteristics, maternal and child health, prenatal and postnatal care and so on. During this period, female reproductive organs, bones and advanced nervous system have been fully developed, and reproductive function is at its peak. The quality of eggs is high and the fetus grows well after pregnancy. The incidence of abortion, premature delivery, deformed children and dementia is low, and most of the children born are smart and healthy. During this period, women's soft birth canal has good extensibility, strong uterine contractility and less chance of dystocia, so the risk is small.
A woman who is over 35 when she is pregnant is called an elderly woman. The ovarian function of elderly women gradually deteriorates, and the possibility of abnormal eggs increases, thus increasing the incidence of congenital malformation and dementia. And some medical complications during pregnancy will be more than those of young women. In addition, older women are more prone to premature delivery and early placental abruption, and there will be more problems during pregnancy than the average person.
Therefore, the best age to have a second child should also be within this age range, and the best age is between 24 and 29 years old. Even if the best childbearing age may be delayed due to work or other reasons, try not to exceed 35 years old, otherwise it will have a certain impact on the baby's health and his own physical recovery.
2. The best interval for giving birth to a second child: 3 years is the best.
From a physical point of view:
If the first child is born smoothly, there is no strict time limit for giving birth to the second child, and it will usually be fine after one year. If the mother's first child is normal and is breastfeeding her baby, then it is best for the baby to get pregnant after weaning, so that the body can recover better and it is also conducive to the growth and development of the second child after pregnancy. If the mother does not breastfeed after delivery, she can get pregnant for the second time in about half a year, and it is forbidden to get pregnant too early after delivery, otherwise the body is not conducive to the growth and development of the fetus. However, it is recommended to have a second child after one year.
If the first child is delivered by caesarean section, the second child must be born at an interval of two years, otherwise it will easily lead to uterine rupture and have the risk of childbirth. Due to the poor healing of cesarean section uterine wall incision in a short period of time, pregnancy is premature, and the uterus is constantly enlarged and thinned due to fetal development, especially at the surgical incision, which makes the connective tissue inelastic, and fresh scars are easy to rupture at the end of pregnancy or during delivery, leading to massive abdominal bleeding and even life-threatening. So it is safer to get pregnant two years after the operation.
From the perspective of infant care:
If the mother is not very old, the doctor suggests that it is best to have a second child three years after giving birth to the first child. Because at this time, a child has started kindergarten and his body has returned to normal. There is a gap of three years between the two children. The older child can take care of one child, so it won't be too tiring to take care of two children.
From the point of view of the health impact of ring removal;
For the mother who has put on the ring after giving birth to the baby, the doctor suggests that the ring should be removed within three to seven days after the menstruation is completely clean, and it is forbidden to have the same room within two weeks after the ring is removed to avoid infection. Generally, it is best to wait six months to one year to have a second child. If you are in a hurry to get pregnant, you should wait for a period of time (2-3 normal menstrual cycles) before getting pregnant, and give the endometrium a recovery time, which is conducive to eugenics.
3. How to choose the mode of delivery when having a second child?
The mode of production of the second child needs to be decided according to the specific situation.
If the previous delivery was natural and there were no high-risk factors in this pregnancy, natural delivery is an ideal mode of production; If the previous delivery was a pregnant woman with cesarean section, and the factors of the previous cesarean section did not exist, this pregnancy monitored that the incision of the previous cesarean section healed well and there was no risk of uterine rupture, and you can also choose a natural delivery; However, if the previous surgical incision did not heal well, or even threatened uterine rupture occurred, it was necessary to terminate the pregnancy by cesarean section; If there are dystocia factors in this pregnancy and pregnancy complications and complications cannot be delivered by * * * *, cesarean section can be considered.
4. Who are the high-risk groups with a second child?
Previous pregnancy complicated with heart disease, anemia, nephropathy, hepatitis, hyperthyroidism, appendicitis, pancreatitis, idiopathic thrombocytopenic purpura, etc. Previous pregnancy complicated with hypertensive disorder complicating pregnancy, placenta previa, intrauterine growth restriction, overdue pregnancy, intrahepatic cholestasis of pregnancy and gestational diabetes; Previous pregnancies were cesarean section, macrosomia, laceration of soft birth canal, postpartum depression and poor healing of postpartum incision.
5. How to adapt to the roles of "mother" and "expectant mother" at the same time?
At this time, you have to play two roles, not only to take care of Bao Xiao in your belly, but also to take care of Dabao around you. It's hard. Therefore, be sure to let family members or relatives and friends share part of the "work" for you.
In addition, with Dabao's company, you can invisibly increase the exercise during pregnancy, such as: let the baby sit in the cart and push him or her for a walk; Or let the baby ride a tricycle, and you practice yoga or other activities during pregnancy; Or take the baby to participate in some activity courses specifically for mothers and babies, and so on. In short, the life of a mother who plays two roles during pregnancy can be more colorful.
6. How to tell the boss "You are going to have a younger brother/sister"?
It's best not to worry about telling the child that the mother has a baby in her belly. More than 9 months is a long process for children, because they haven't got a clear concept of time, and they can't imagine whether it is good or bad to have one more child in their future life. Therefore, parents are advised that the younger their children are, the more they should tell him the truth.
However, it should be noted that:
1. Tell the child the truth, not lie-"Mom has a baby in her belly, and when she grows up, she will become a member of our family". Don't say "Mom's stomach is uncomfortable, so it will swell".
2. Let the boss feel that he is doing something with his mother that will be very rewarding. Don't let him feel that his mother only thinks about the baby in her stomach-"You are obedient and let her rest more, which is to help her let the baby in her stomach grow up together. He will tell us when he is ready to come out. "
Don't always ask the boss to give his things to his brother or sister-such as his crib or toys. Don't put too much pressure on your child and force him to know that he should be a "big boy".
Do you want to have a second child?
There are many families who are very entangled in having a second child. Do you want to have a second child? Let's look at the pros and cons of having a second child first, and then measure whether to have a second child.
One of the benefits of having a second child is:
Let the first child not be lonely. Especially for some parents of the only child born in 1980s, as an only child, they always feel lonely, happy and sad, and no one to share. It's not funny at all, and there are people who envy others having brothers and sisters. Therefore, it is better for children to have a companion than to be alone. In the future, when they grow up, they can also help each other, visit relatives more and walk more.
Benefits of having a second child:
Let parents feel a little dependent when they are old. If you only have one child, you will go out to school and work in the future. Maybe you will settle in other places, with your parents at home and no life at home. It looks so gloomy. If you have another child, you may always have a child with you. If you are old, you won't feel so lost and lonely. There are children around, tea and water, colds and illnesses, and personal care and help.
The benefits of having a second child are threefold:
Let the mind feel more complete. Some families, if they have a daughter, may want to have another boy to make a good word. Although it is the same for boys and girls, some rural areas, especially some elderly people, prefer grandchildren, which may put some pressure on their daughter-in-law to have a second child. In this way, if a boy happens to be born, the family will feel very proud and complete. It is said that there are more boys than girls now. I don't know if it's this data.
One of the disadvantages of having a second child is:
The family burden is heavier. From birth to college, it costs money, and it costs a lot of money. You have to buy milk powder. There are also early education classes, training classes and the like, and it is estimated that there is also a lot of money, as well as food, clothing, housing and transportation. Maybe I was going to save some money for other things and take it out to raise children. After giving birth to a second child, it is estimated that mothers will not be so unscrupulous in buying cosmetics and clothes as before.
Disadvantages of having a second child:
Pay more time and energy. I saw the mother who gave birth to a second child in the community, especially the child is still relatively young. If the old man can't help, the husband will have to go to work to support his family, take care of the study life of the older child and take care of the children. I am too busy to comb my hair every day, let alone have my own rest time. I wait on my children 24 hours a day, so I can't sleep well if I don't have enough to eat. How worried about the children.
Three disadvantages of having a second child:
Affect family living standards and quality of life. Originally, the family planned to take some money to travel, but later with a second child, it was impossible to go out. The burden of living has increased, and working parents should work harder to earn money to support their families. It is said that there is a boss who runs a small supermarket nearby. The first child gave birth to a son and wanted another daughter. Who knows, he gave birth to a pair of twin sons. As a result, the mother of the child felt that the pressure of life was too great and chose to divorce. However, this is a minority after all.