I admit I've been particularly upset these days. It takes too much time to take care of children, eat, drink and sleep. I don't care about writing As a child, I have no time to improve myself. At that moment, I even felt that I should not quit my job and take care of my children at home full-time. I shouldn't give up self-growth, or even think I shouldn't have children. I complained that my husband was too busy at work and came home too late. I complained that my in-laws didn't help ... and then I was angry all day and almost called my husband to quarrel and vent.
After sending my daughter to early education, I walked alone in the sun, as if I suddenly woke up. I began to complain about my anger because of my irritability. As a result, I was unhappy. If I continue to quarrel with my husband, it will affect family harmony. I don't need to complain or get angry. I just need to calm down and adjust. In fact, I have lived like this for two years, and I am happy in the process of accompanying my daughter to grow up, which I chose on my own initiative. It's just that my daughter is terrible. 2 She has a strong sense of self and is in a lot of trouble. What I need is to adjust my time in time and change the way I guide my daughter.
In fact, we are used to complaining or getting angry when we are upset. I don't know what I need most at this time is to immediately realize that I have emotions, stop and think about what is wrong and where I need to adjust. Maybe you are tired and don't get enough sleep. At this time, all you need is to stop working immediately and have a rest. Maybe it's a lack of nutrition and qi and blood recently. All you need at this time is a cup of jujube tea.
In addition to physical fatigue, many times irritability is due to mental fatigue. I may have been living under high pressure recently, and my schedule is full. Then suddenly one day, I felt very tired and upset. What is needed at this moment is to realize it in time, and then try to relax yourself, or arrange a movie or a short trip for yourself and let yourself go for a while.
Sometimes I am as busy as a top every day, and my body is very tired. I also want to reflect on whether my life arrangement is reasonable enough and whether my schedule can be adjusted again. For example, review where you spend your day, whether you can use fragmented time, and how to use it more reasonably. Another example is to have a rest while sleeping with your child and get up early tomorrow to do your own thing. And whether your work efficiency can be improved, and whether you need to learn some skills to make better use of your time, such as pomodoro technique, time management.
In fact, everyone knows these methods to relieve irritability. The key point is that they often don't realize that they have emotions in time, and stop immediately to stop the mood from deteriorating. However, I complain, blame others, or lose my temper with an important person, who is either a husband, a child, a client, a colleague or a boss, and even eventually lead to irreparable consequences. Therefore, irritability actually happens to everyone. The most important thing is whether you can perceive your emotions in time, and then accept them to prevent them from spreading.
According to psychology, there is no difference between good and bad emotions. Just like fidgeting, it is also beneficial. It can also give us motivation to find out exactly where there are problems and where we need to adjust. When you have emotions, you should know how to calm down, accept your emotions and try to make adjustments. In this way, irritability may also become a resource, not just consuming energy.
When you are upset, all you need to do is stop at once.