When a child is about 2 years old, there will be a period of metropolitan resistance. At this time, the child refused to obey all the requirements of his parents, and the mantra was "no" and "no". He often cried because his parents did not meet him, and changed from a good baby to a noisy baby. Parenting circle defines this stage as "terrible 2 years old", and English uses "terrible two" to describe it. It can be seen that children all over the world will go through this stage.
Strictly speaking, the "terrible 2-year-old" stage does not necessarily appear at 2 years old, but may appear between 1 year and a half to 3 years old. At this age, children begin to realize the existence of "self", and their self-awareness gradually forms, and their sense of independence begins to improve, and they begin to want to do things according to their own ideas, instead of completely obeying their parents' requirements. However, due to limited expressive ability, they can't clearly express their feelings and demands, so they often confront their parents by losing their temper and crying.
So, how to judge that the child may have reached the terrible age of two? There are several performances we can pay attention to.
1. Children always say "no" and "no". Before my daughter was two and a half years old, she basically answered "yes", "yes" and "no problem". After I was two and a half years old, she directly rejected "I don't want it", "I don't want it" and "I don't want it". When I was a middle-aged mother, I was so sad that I couldn't control myself.
Children's sense of order and rules has become very strong. Ms Maria Montessori pointed out that the sense of order is one of the most sensitive periods for children. 2-3-year-old children have almost strict requirements on the ownership, location and sequence of actions of items, but if one thing breaks their cognition, they will cry and even trigger a "world war." When my daughter was about two and a half years old, she asked many details. When washing hands, dad must be behind him; When playing with a car, you must line up neatly along the floor seam; When drinking water, mom's cup must not be touched by dad. ...
3. Children become "selfish" and don't like sharing. The development of "owning" consciousness will make children own their own things. Unwilling to share is a child's nature, not "selfish" or stingy, but the child's growth stage. Children at this stage often say "this is mine", "I won't play for you" and "I won't eat for you", so it is absolutely impossible for them to share their food and play with others.
Most parents are particularly helpless when they watch their former good children become crying and cheating. Don't follow the child, lest the child cry endlessly; Follow the children, and worry that doting is not good for their character development. Then let's learn how to deal with the terrible two-year-old child.
1. Look at it correctly and keep a good attitude. Every child aged 2-3 will go through this particularly difficult period. In the face of uncooperative and willful children, we should maintain a normal heart. Before you can't control the power of the flood in your body, take a few deep breaths, calm down for 30 seconds, and then solve the problem according to the specific situation. Relax, don't take it to heart, why bother about your baby! Believe in yourself, you can be a firm and gentle parent!
2. Correct guidance and skill exchange. When we order our children, we are usually rejected by them. For example, "get dressed quickly" and "I won't wear it"; Come and eat. I won't eat. At this time, it is necessary to change the way of communication and guide children correctly. When getting dressed, we can say, "It's time to get up. Does the baby want to wear Peggy's clothes or Bonnie's clothes? " The child said "want a page" and put on clothes to get it; When eating, we can say, "I'm hungry, baby, come and compete with me to see who finishes the meal first." Eat well and get it done. My daughter was like this at that time, and she was taken care of unconsciously. Of course, each child's interests are different, so we should choose the appropriate guiding point according to the characteristics of the child.
3. Respect trust and let children decide for themselves. Sharing should be based on voluntariness. We can't make decisions for our children, force them to share, and don't label them selfish. The strong behavior of parents may cause children to resist more fiercely. Treat children equally, respect them and let them decide their own affairs. Usually, you can tell your children more stories about sharing picture books, which will subtly influence their thoughts. You can also play sharing games with your children, let your children learn to share with their families and let your baby experience the fun of sharing.
4. Let go appropriately and let the children explore boldly. 2-3-year-old children, self-awareness is budding, eager to explore the world by themselves. At this time, if you always say "no" and "stop" to children, it will hinder the development of children's exploration consciousness and self-consciousness, and it is not conducive to the development of children's independent personality. As long as it is not a matter of principle, we can obey children's wishes, let them explore freely and let them do more things by themselves.
Kuiyi Kimura, the originator of early childhood education in Japan, said, "Parents should be good at observing their children carefully and find their needs from their every move, word and deed." As long as you find your child's needs, then find the right way to calmly deal with them and guide them with wisdom, the terrible age of 2 is not terrible. After all, as children grow up, there will be "scary three years old" and "unbearable four years old" waiting for us to grow up with them.