My thoughts drifted to the depths of my memory.
Childhood mischief, parents' scolding seems to be looming, and childhood laughter still lingers in my heart. In a blink of an eye, I am already the mother of two children. I am also fortunate to participate in the childhood and growth of children. I don't know how to evaluate children's childhood when they grow up one day.
Now, all I can do is grow up with the children. It can also be said that the growth of children has driven my growth, allowing me to keep learning, understand those unknown fields, and understand the motivation and psychology behind children's behavior.
My childhood memories are vague, and my parents seem to be busy all the time, and the days pass slowly.
I grew up in a village in Yimeng mountain area, surrounded by endless mountains, with layers of hills hovering like shells.
These mountains are layered on top of each other. In spring, everything revives, and the grass and trees on the mountain begin to sprout. "The rain is like Su, the grass is close at hand, but there is nothing." The mountain is covered with a yellow-green shirt, dotted with a few small flowers, looming, "the mountain is a gathering of eyebrows";
In summer, the trees are lush, and the endless green is unobstructed. The mountain statue is covered with a gorgeous layer of green satin, tall and straight, noble and full of vitality;
Autumn is really a harvest season. Red apples are covered with branches. Persimmons in Huang Chengcheng are like small lanterns. Jujube, wild jujube and crisp jujube are everywhere, so that you can enjoy the delicious taste of the tip of your tongue anytime and anywhere, and you can't forget it. There are many fruits that can't be named, showing off their achievements to the world.
In winter, the excitement and noise slowly fade away like the tide, and the mountains are quiet. Snow put a thick cotton-padded jacket on the mountain, and the mountain, like a white-haired wise man, began to hide its light and wait for the opportunity, gestating the vitality of the coming year.
The teacher taught us to learn from mountains, which are the heaviest.
It is never in a hurry. You come and go. The bustling crowd, in the mountains, come and go, come and go without a trace, and the mountains are inclusive with an accepting attitude.
In order to get us out of the mountain and away from the rural life of "facing the loess and facing the sky", my parents whispered in my ear from an early age that "only by studying hard can we get out of this mountain ..."
Now, I miss my carefree childhood, the yellow land and people who gave birth to me, the sound of blue sky and white clouds, and the days when a group of children ran freely in the endless fields. ...
Childhood is gone forever. Now, my children and I have walked through their childhood together, and childhood seems to have returned to my mind.
There are two views. One is that children should be strictly disciplined, learn more knowledge, listen to their parents and teachers, and be a good boy who loves learning and is sensible, which is what people often say now. Another view, on the other hand, is that children are young, don't have too much pressure, and have integrity by nature. As long as there is nothing against the principle, let them grow up freely.
Faced with many viewpoints, where should we go?
1, parents need to constantly learn parenting knowledge and develop the habit of lifelong learning.
Psychologist Piaget's theory of spiritual development divides children's psychological development into four stages: perceptual movement stage (0-2 years old), pre-operation stage (2-7 years old), specific operation stage (7- 1 1 year old) and formal operation stage (1-/kloc) The pre-operation period, that is, the preschool stage, is to prepare for primary school, which is the stage where my child is now.
As far as our common language ability is concerned, children have shown great language talent since they were two years old. Linguists' research shows that at the age of 3, children can speak about 1000 words and understand another 1000-2000 words, and their ability to use grammatical structures is close to that of adults. By the age of 5, children can speak in local dialects; By the age of 6, the average child has mastered 2000 words, and most adults can understand what they say. Children's language ability in school has a far-reaching impact on their future listening, speaking, reading and writing. Piaget believes that language mastery is an important performance tool at each stage.
More and more education experts strongly support the development of early education. The golden age of early education for 0-6 years old, once missed, will be an irreparable loss. Some psychologists believe that the intellectual development of the first six years is equivalent to the intellectual development of education in 12 or 13 years.
Children in childhood have very strong learning ability.
Children seem to scratch, throw things and bite, but in fact they all explore the world in this way. If they are interrupted intentionally, their learning ability will decline.
Like a sense of order, hope to be respected, children have a sense of control over the surrounding environment, full of security, children's attention will become more and more concentrated;
Dependence comes from parents not letting children do things, which leads to children's excessive dependence on their parents and inability to stand on their own feet;
The state of inferiority stems from parents' severe criticism, self-distrust, timidity and so on.
This knowledge is constantly updated and learned after I have children.
You will say, how can you have so much time and energy after having children?
Don't you often complain that you don't have time, but you have to brush your mobile phone? ......
"I don't have time, I'm too difficult to learn, and so on." Some people are looking for reasons for themselves, while others are looking for ways to find an outlet for their own lives.
For me, the greatest significance of hard work lies in: although my qualifications are mediocre, my starting point is low and my ability is limited, I can still live to the best of my life through continuous efforts!
Children will learn to learn in contact, thinking that learning is a natural thing and reading is a very happy thing. Of course, my children's academic performance is average. If there is a problem, they will solve it. If they meet a mountain, they will be able to cross the gap.
Happy childhood is the source of lifelong healing, and unfortunate childhood needs lifelong healing! Parents keep learning, study for life, be wise parents, guide their children with wisdom, and achieve their children's life.
May you and I both be on the road to hard work, and act!
The process of raising children is the process of "flying kites"
First, to fly a kite, we must first have an open space and a wide field of vision, so as to observe the wind direction and run against the wind to the maximum extent; Through the wind direction, the kite can rise gradually until it reaches the sky. Flying a kite is often not done overnight. You must try patiently again and again, painstakingly, not afraid of failure, and try again and again to succeed.
This requires our parents to have a broad vision, a big pattern, a main line to firmly control, observe and reflect at any time, resume, a firm belief (that is, never give up their children at any time), and constantly adjust the training program, so as to succeed.
Second, to fly a kite, you have to master the thread to control the kite. Sometimes it is not easy to take it off if you pull it too tightly or too loosely, so you should put it away freely. A big kite, from design to launch, how to make it fly in the wind requires many people to work together and play the spirit of teamwork to achieve good results.
This is just like our parent-child relationship, or we adults study children's grades too loosely and too tightly, which is not conducive to children's growth. Team spirit is also a family effort. We must have the same direction, common goals and constant coordination. Even if we are "pig teammates", we must find ways to control the direction.
When many children grow up, they want to be like a kite with a broken line, which is gone forever. Therefore, a good parent-child relationship is very important.
Happy childhood is the source of lifelong healing, and unfortunate childhood needs lifelong healing! Parents keep learning, study all their lives, be smart parents, guide their children with wisdom and achieve their life!