Now, there are many families with two children, and Ma Bao can't take care of them alone. Usually, the elderly help to participate, and either Ma Bao is the main thing, or the elderly are the main thing, or both bear the burden. Life in first-tier cities is stressful and there are many families with two employees. Old people with children have become the main force, and it is universal.

According to relevant statistics, Ma Bao is the main target of bringing babies, accounting for more than 50%, with the post-80s and post-90s accounting for the highest proportion.

In a dual-employee family, what bothers parents most is the conflict between taking care of the baby and work. For example, your children have a summer vacation or a weekend, and your company has to go to work. What should you do? The children finish school at four or five in the afternoon, and your work won't end until six or even later. The boss can't tolerate employees leaving early often. Even "related households" will have a bad influence on other employees, privately saying that the boss is partial to his own people.

Although the higher authorities require the school to take on more responsibilities, due to the lack of effective implementation measures, it often becomes "a dead letter" and lacks binding force, which is "resisted" by teachers. They think this is an increase in their workload in disguise. From a family point of view, they have families and children to take care of.

However, the custodian institutions are not mature enough, some lack relevant certificates, and some employ uneven personnel, which may have security risks. If it is a dual-employee family, children should not only go to kindergarten, but also be sent to early education centers or child care institutions. They are very envious of families with old people and children. They need not work so hard. In addition to work, they take care of children, and their social circle has narrowed.

After I gave birth to Dabao, my mother-in-law came from my hometown to help take care of my daughter, and my husband and I could go to work normally. Husband's salary is enough to pay off the mortgage, so save some more. My salary is enough to cover my daily expenses. When farming is busy, my mother-in-law will go back to her hometown for a month. In order not to delay my work, I sent my daughter to an early education institution, asked the teacher to pick her up at the party, and bought some fruits and snacks for the teacher at 9 pm to express my gratitude.

My daughter was pregnant with a second child when she was three years old and resigned on the eve of the expected date of delivery. The second child gave birth to a son smoothly. From then on, I began to live as a full-time mother, and my mother-in-law would come to help when she was not busy. In fact, a family like mine is just a microcosm of thousands of families in Qian Qian. In order to raise children, we have to give up some things, such as the opportunity to change jobs, beautiful clothes, delicious food and the trip we want.

Among married women, stay-at-home mothers account for 30%, and most of them are highly educated young people. They prefer to take care of their children themselves and instill their ideas into them. Because they are different from the elderly, their concept of parenting is more suitable for children's growth, and it also avoids the problem that the elderly overindulge their children. And the corresponding price is no job and income, out of touch with society, ability to stop, and constantly widen the gap with her husband.

Separate child care has become a social phenomenon. Although enviable, this is only an outsider's view. If carefully understood, this method also has advantages and disadvantages.

My 80-year-old girlfriend said I wouldn't let the elderly take care of the baby. Different times have different requirements in education, science, ideology, health, beliefs and society. Only parents know how to raise children best, and there is a huge cognitive difference in intergenerational education.

There is no problem for children to get along with the elderly for a short time, and they can maintain family ties. Old people should have a quiet life when they are old. They shouldn't go around the younger generation all day and re-embark on the road of raising a baby. If parents don't take care of their babies themselves, it's difficult for children to grow up on their own. If the elderly have good economic conditions, they can support their children, but the younger generation can't force them. Old people also have their own lives.

It is not easy for an old man to live all his life.

Old people are also very difficult now. They raised their children when they were young, worked for about 30 years and sent their parents away. Looking back, I have to take care of my grandchildren in my later years. I have never really lived for myself in my life.

An old man rode a tricycle to deliver steel, with a child about 2 years old lying in the middle. At such a young age, it's time to lie at home and quilt or play at home and be cared for by your family. But children have to experience the hardships of life with the elderly since childhood.

Li Meijin: Children are not suitable for the elderly to take it for a long time.

She emphasized that children's 3-6 years old are the shaping period of character. Children should have a sense of time rhythm, sit down quietly, and family members should not disturb him for half an hour, which is helpful to cultivate children's concentration and is of great benefit to learning. However, the elderly and their children lack a sense of rhythm together, and life is accompanied by autonomy and randomness.

6- 12 years old is the formation period of study habits. There is no fixed time for the elderly to take care of their children and go out for a walk to buy food. After children enter school, they can't keep up with the school time, such as class time and lunch break. Children don't develop good habits of work and rest, and they can't adapt to school life when they get to school, which will also affect their study.

Old people should consider reality when taking care of their children.

1, the elderly should take care of the baby.

If the elderly have retired and their children are not around all the year round, they are happy to stay with their children and enjoy their family happiness, and the conditions are no problem. It is a happy thing to help take care of children, watch their grandchildren grow up healthily and have a successful career, as long as the elderly are happy.

2. Old people don't want to bring it.

If there are contradictions between the old people, they want to live in peace and are tired of taking care of their children; Or because of physical reasons, I can't take care of the children. As children, the elderly should not be forced to take care of their babies. If you really need the help of the elderly, you should communicate rationally and should not take care of the elderly as a threat.

Young people should not only take care of children, but also help the elderly if they have the ability. Filial piety is also to set an example for children and tell them how to serve their parents in the future.

In short, different families will encounter different situations, such as family structure, health status, personal wishes, economic strength and so on, depending on the actual situation. In any case, it is the bounden duty of parents to accompany their children to grow up. Will you let the old man take care of the children? Talk about your thoughts.