A false start: expecting success
As the saying goes, "success is Xiao He, failure is me". The protagonist of this story, Wei Yongkang, is both his mother and his mother.
The legendary "prodigy" Wei Yongkang was born in an ordinary family in Hunan, and his mother used to be a bottom-level employee of a department store. Perhaps it was a deep regret that he missed the college entrance examination when he was young, or perhaps years of experience made him suffer too much, which made him think that learning was the only way out for children.
As a result, it became a continuation of this regret and hope, and almost all my efforts were devoted to my son. When he was two or three months old, he began to teach him to read and read Tang poems to him. Although I was unable to speak during this period, I showed no signs of being discouraged. Perhaps this early education has a certain effect, or Wei Yongkang's own talent is extraordinary. Under Zeng's careful education, Wei Yongkang has created one legend after another of "Oriental prodigies" since he was two years old.
Error continues: creating a prodigy
At the age of two, Wei Yongkang knew nearly 65,438+0,000 Chinese characters. By the time he was 4 years old, he had basically taught himself all the courses in junior high school. The primary school only read the second and sixth grades, and then he began to skip classes.
At the age of 8, Wei Yongkang was admitted to the provincial key high school, 13, and was admitted to the Physics Department of Xiangtan University in Hunan with a high score of 602. 17 years old, admitted to the Institute of High Energy Physics, Chinese Academy of Sciences as a postgraduate and doctor.
Accompanying the achievements of this series of "learning from childhood, learning from high school" are various awards and certificates, such as the second prize in physics competition, the first prize in mathematics competition, the second prize in chemistry in Olympic competition and so on. During this period, in order to ensure my son's interest and concentration in learning, he took care of everything at home, including washing his face, brushing his teeth, washing clothes, bathing and serving food.
Similarly, at school, she began her journey of accompanying students for more than ten years. In order not to delay my study, I even used rice bowls to feed my meals in high school. In order to prevent his classmates from affecting his study, he once refused his friends to come and play with him. Since then, Wei Yongkang's social circle has been broken, making Wei Yongkang's basic life only about reading and climbing mountains.
First taste of bad consequences: drop out of school and go home
Just when everything seemed to be on the right track, things suddenly took an unexpected turn-Wei Yongkang, a graduate student at the Chinese Academy of Sciences for three years, was dismissed by the Chinese Academy of Sciences. This year, he was 20 years old. This sudden result makes people wonder, what made Wei Yongkang, who has always been called a "prodigy", drop out of school? It all started when Wei Yongkang went to Beijing to study alone.
In 2000, Wei Yongkang bid farewell to his mother and went to Beijing to study. He refused her company, thinking that he was an adult and didn't need her constant company. I thought I was smart enough to learn these trivial things in life quickly without her help, so I agreed to the request and let the teenager who had been living under his mother's plan live alone for the first time.
And this decision has become an important reason for Wei Yongkang to drop out of school. Because Wei Yongkang's daily life is arranged by his mother all the year round, and he is not good at words, he can't get along with his classmates. This led to Wei Yongkang's complete lack of food and clothing during his study in Chinese Academy of Sciences, and he was often untidy. The closed social life also made him miss several exams, writing papers and defending, so he even got a zero in one subject.
In this way, in 2003, Wei Yongkang was officially dismissed by the Chinese Academy of Sciences and returned to his hometown due to the fact that Wei Yongkang's learning framework could not adapt to the teaching framework of the Chinese Academy of Sciences. From the' Oriental prodigy' who was praised by everyone to being dismissed by the school now, life has played a huge joke on this boy. In this joke, the biggest influence on him is the "enthusiastic" mother Zeng.
From swearing to supporting each other's growth
After dropping out of China Academy of Sciences, Wei Yongkang was decadent for a long time. At that time, he locked himself at home reading books, playing computer games and even disappeared twice. Although he came back safely, he was still worried about Zeng Xuemei. Under such double pressure, he even said a cruel word: "Sometimes I wish he would die." What kind of despair can make a mother say such a thing? We don't know.
Later, Wei Yongkang was no longer decadent, so he decided to continue studying, which he thought was his interest and specialty. As for his family, Zeng Xuemei realized the mistakes in his teaching methods and began to teach Wei Yongkang to do housework, to teach him life knowledge and skills, to buy food, to wash clothes, to pack things, and to teach him to understand interpersonal relationships. Wei Yongkang also actively studied and learned that when his mother asked him to wash clothes, he would regard it as a sacred task equivalent to learning, and he would shop around when buying food.
Regarding interpersonal communication, when a guest comes, he will take the initiative to pour tea, and he will also actively participate in social activities and communicate with others. I will take the initiative to call my mother to explain communication when I don't go home or when I come home from work. In the eyes of colleagues, he does everything seriously, but at home, he is filial and will take care of others. When eating, he will take the initiative to scoop up the rice and send it to his father who is paralyzed in bed and feed him.
Now Wei Yongkang has his own family background, from a prodigy who is not close to fireworks to an understanding husband. At the same time, he did not give up his pursuit of science and became a graduate student majoring in biophysics at Beijing University of Technology.
"Everything is inferior, only reading is high" must have its truth. Just like Zeng He at the beginning, reading brought future, knowledge and the name of "child prodigy", which satisfied Zeng's wish, but at the same time, excessive attention also led to the tragedy that Yongkang was dropped out of school and his living ability was extremely low. The case of Wei Yongkang tells us that we must coordinate our study and life, and we can't create a situation of "high scores but low abilities".