I am an early education teacher. I have contacted nearly a thousand children and attended more than 3,000 classes. There is theory and practice.
I want to say:
1, every child has his own characteristics. Accept him, understand him and guide him.
A talkative and cheerful person's concentration is not good, and chattering all day makes parents sometimes feel annoyed. Running around all day, making noise and making a mess at home. Quiet, quiet all day, shy, sensitive, crying, timid.
Every advantage also corresponds to a disadvantage. You only see the child's shortcomings, but not the child's advantages. That's what kids do. The more you think they are great, the better they really become.
A three-year-old child is playing in the ball pool in the classroom. She picked up a broken ball and gave it to me. I said thank you, or I didn't even know there was a bad ball in it Later, every time she came to class, she picked up bad balls for me in the ball pool. She is happy, so am I.
2, with children, don't pursue everything perfect, don't care about the details.
I need you to be lazy and play dumb. Get bigger.
What does it matter if children drink water or not? They drink water when they are thirsty. It doesn't matter if your mouth peels off. Is it necessary to be hospitalized for such a big thing? As long as it doesn't involve going to the hospital, it's nothing. Going to the dentist is more common, and many children go to the dentist.
You stare at it every day, and you become a fat mother. Annoying.
The more you encourage, the weaker you are, and the children will become Altman to protect you. They will be super confident then. I feel like a hero.
I often play dumb and play with them. Oh, I can't clean this toy. Help me when the bad guys come. I can't carry this thing. Help me. Children are enthusiastic and always help, and then they become more and more independent and gregarious. I don't have to be a nanny.
There are still many actions, under 4 years old. You are responsible for yourself over 4 years old.
Your family probably didn't get used to it when you were a child. Children with strong independence and autonomy will pack their bags for school, arrange their own affairs and be self-disciplined. Of course, parents always set an example and cultivate habits.
Don't make yourself too tired.
Many mothers are too tired, their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are contradictory and widowed, which makes their mothers busy like dogs every day.
If you don't cook, order takeout. Don't clean up the mess at home. Just fuck around for a while, until it's free. Give some children's affairs to teammates.
Leave your children at a fixed time every week and enjoy life by yourself. Get a beauty salon card, a yoga card or something, and have coffee and massage with Mother group.
I have a beauty card when I take care of my baby full-time, and I often chat with my mother while doing massage in the community. The child was abandoned by his father. Enjoy an afternoon of freedom.
Come on, relax.
Raising children is a process.
When you are old, people may not care about you.
Enjoy the growth of this child. Life is just a few decades, and it is fleeting.
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Your mood is understandable without parents who don't like their children. On the one hand, you are too tired, on the other hand, your perspective is too limited.
You might as well get along with your children in another way, communicate with them in another way, and show your good mood patiently, and you may get different responses!
Every child's growth has a process, and the performance at each stage will make you very angry and tired. Come on, I believe that children will always grow into what we hope!