Many children at home have no care since childhood, lack a sense of belonging to love, and pursue perfection all their lives for the love lost in childhood but never found again.
This is the goal that children show off. On the one hand, we in China want to save face, on the other hand, we should encourage our children to be diligent. It is often said that you should see how hard other children work, how good their exam results are, and what prizes others have won. This is the most resolutely put an end to. What's more, I often say it in front of many people. Every time I compare my child with others, it can only bring him more dissatisfaction and pain.
Ignoring children's privacy and dominance, parents should knock on the door before entering their children's homes, be allowed to move or use their children's belongings, and all decisions involving children should be discussed with them first. We should attach importance to the child's dominance and treat him as an adult. This attention is gradually changed by changing diapers. Before changing diapers, kindly tell him that it's time to change diapers, and ask him to bear with it. People who are not valued will not know how to respect others in the future.
Shaping children according to their own norms, many parents pin their hopes on their children all their lives and have been forcing them to take the road they think fit. Even if the child is not suitable for it, or doesn't like it very much, such as learning the piano, for example, studying abroad. Under this kind of burden, the family is increasingly unhappy, and the happy years of parent-child travel have become a struggle. Give up harmonious parent-child communication and let children pursue some perfection that parents are unreasonable and may not be appropriate. When children grow up, they recall their childhood, which are unforgettable memories. It is really the actions of some unsuccessful parents.
I think the harder you study, the better.
Many parents think that college exam results represent everything. The overall goal is clear, and the rest of parents' work is to beg for help with all threats and inducements to achieve this goal. This outdated consciousness left over from the imperial examination period still exists in people's hearts.
In fact, the examination results of colleges and universities do not represent everything, but all-round working ability (charm, perseverance, temperament, etc. ) is the main factor that harms their lives. I was in a particularly good mood in the morning and fell asleep lazily. Lack of sleep will affect my growth and development, and my mind will also decrease. Therefore, other people's children must have adequate sleep quality.