Children's fetish complex, in the final analysis, is due to lack of security and anxiety. The causes of children's anxiety are mostly caused by some improper behavior of parents or lack of care.
Many children will have it? Fetishism complex? Parents always think that this fetish complex will disappear naturally when their children grow up, but in fact? Fetishism complex? Will not disappear automatically with the change of children's age. We can see this from the example of swimmer Fu.
Even if there is? Wild power? , also can't escape? Fetishism? Fu once participated in a variety show. Four guests were invited to the program, and Fu was also invited to participate. The guests showed their real life in the program, while the fathers of the guests watched their daughter's life with everyone outside the screen.
In the first episode, Fu got up early in the morning. Everyone saw that she was still in a daze, so she reached out and pulled out a big red rope. When washing, the audience can clearly see that Fu wears the red rope obliquely on his body. Even when Fu took a shower and went to training, the attentive audience could still find that she was still hanging on the big red rope.
Just as everyone looked puzzled, Fu's father explained: Is that Fu's? Feel it? She liked to touch small towels since she was a child, and later she changed to this red rope when she grew up.
The audience is as curious as the host at this time. The host asked Fu Dad, why did her daughter touch the red rope? Fu dad explained that he didn't know where to put his hand until he touched it. But to the surprise of the audience, Fu is 22 years old. Why is this happening? Fetishism complex? ?
Fu dad just laughed it off, saying that she has always been like this. Fu dad obviously didn't let it go? Fetishism complex? Seriously. We can see from this example? Fetishism complex? Will not disappear automatically with age.
Go to kindergarten? Send? A small blanket. In fact, many people in life have it? Fetishism complex? It was more obvious when I was a child. And if the parents don't handle it well at this time, the child is likely to carry this all the time? Fetishism complex? .
Tang Xiao is four years old this year. He often can't sleep at noon after going to kindergarten. Later, he kept touching a blanket and gradually fell asleep. Later, something happened. Tang Xiao needs to transfer to kindergarten. Tang Xiao insisted on taking the blanket away, but it was no use trying to persuade him. Later, the teacher found that there was no way to give the blanket to Tang Xiao. Tang Xiao's mother was embarrassed and worried, and kept thanking her teacher.
? Fetishism complex? Judging from the above two examples, most children are formed as children? Fetishism complex? Yes Only if it is not corrected will it continue into adulthood.
So why do children form? Fetishism complex? And then what? Explain scientifically, son? Fetishism complex? What's the name of the thing you love? Transition object? .
The transition object refers to the first one? Not me? The first non-self-possession, which first appeared in children's plays, is also the leading indicator of artistic experience. It was not given by the mother, because the transition was discovered or created by the children themselves. For a baby, this object can make her feel comfortable, resist anxiety and loneliness, and help her sleep peacefully.
Simply put, the transition object is a substitute to transfer some emotional dependence of children, and children have fetish complex because of insecurity and anxiety.
For example, weaning a child who is seriously fond of breastfeeding will make the child touch the mother's earlobe or rely on the doll. Some children are also caused by insecurity? Fetish complex. For example, when Tang Xiao went to kindergarten, parents didn't notice the anxiety of separation and didn't consider the ability of children to take a nap alone, so Tang Xiao replaced the sense of security at home with blankets in kindergarten.
Right? Fetishism complex? With a preliminary understanding, how should parents avoid it and let their children have it? Fetishism complex? And then what? 1, weaning problem
Weaning is a process that all children must go through, but often many parents have no way to start, only considering the child's weaning.
Most people generally use it: mom doesn't appear directly, or smears strange things on nipples, and some even try to be happy for a while, directly guiding children to rely on other items. All this will lead to the appearance of children? Fetishism complex? So parents should take a step-by-step approach when weaning their children.
2. Pay attention to children's separation anxiety.
When a child wants to be separated from his parents for some reason, parents must pay attention to whether the child has separation anxiety, and if so, they must pay attention to it.
First of all, parents should face up to the anxiety of separation from their children and tell them that separation from their parents is a necessary process in life. But before that, parents should also give their children a sense of security.
3. Pay attention to the changes after children go to kindergarten.
When children go to kindergarten for the first time, they will have some different degrees of insecurity. Therefore, at this time, parents should pay special attention to the changes after their children go to kindergarten, and find and solve them in time.
When children reach the age of kindergarten, they can already understand the truth, so parents can actually explain to their children why they want to go to kindergarten, introduce the environment of kindergarten, and so on, so as to reduce their insecurity in strange environments.
You already have a baby? Fetishism complex? Parents should not strictly prohibit it, but use it? Bypass? If parents fail to notice their children's sense of insecurity and anxiety as children, or adopt them, how can they change the status quo? Violent weaning? It led to the birth of a child. Fetishism complex? . Parents should not let it go, they can slowly correct their children.
Remember not to forcibly correct, and don't use tough measures such as immediate prohibition, which may lead children to seek new transition objects, but this can't solve the essential problem.
1, have more physical contact with children.
In daily life, we should make more physical contact with children and use the close relationship with them to transfer their fetishism. Moreover, in the physical contact between parents and children, children will pin their hopes on their parents, and naturally will not look for other transition objects as their emotional support.
Therefore, parents' frequent contact with their children can eliminate their anxiety and insecurity.
2. High quality companionship
No matter how busy you are at work, you should take time to spend with your children. Time can be short, but it should be efficient. For example, when you are with children, you can play games and assemble toys with them.
The most taboo thing is that although parents are with their children, they have been chatting with their mobile phones or watching other entertainment content, which will only make their children feel neglected, and the consequences may be worse, and companionship has no effect.
3. Cultivate children's independence.
Cultivating children's independent ability is the way to cure children? Fetishism complex? The method. Only by cultivating children's independent ability can this problem be fundamentally solved. A person with strong independent ability will not feel so insecure even in the face of unfamiliar environment.
? Fetishism complex? The ultimate antidote lies with parents. To sum up, 80% of children's problems are caused by parents' indifference. Children's sensitive period is concentrated before going to primary school, and children are born? Fetishism complex? Most of them are formed in childhood.
Therefore, in the sensitive period of children, parents must pay more attention to the changes of children. In early education, it is emphasized to help children pass through the sensitive period smoothly. It is at this stage that parents basically have to accompany them, even if they can't concentrate on training.
Children are a gift from God to parents, and it is precisely because of the arrival of children that families can be more complete. In fact, the arrival of children taught parents how to care and how to get along with their families.
When children grow up, it is parents who actually get more growth. Therefore, parents are not educating their children, but accompanying them to grow up. It is the arrival of children that inspires parents to try new things; It is the arrival of children that makes parents understand that it is not easy to be parents; It is the arrival of children that makes the home more delicious.
Children will react to everything their parents do. Therefore, if you want to get a smart and lovely child, then parents should be qualified parents and don't take time to grow up with their children. After all, company is the longest confession.