Establishing an attachment relationship between the baby and the mother is conducive to promoting the establishment of the baby's sense of security and trust. This means that the mother should give the baby the correct mental attention, physical comfort, hug and like to accept, so that the baby can develop a cheerful, lively, healthy and confident personality.
If the mother doesn't pay enough attention to the baby from the beginning, doesn't like to accompany and hug the baby, or even treats it with indifference or rudeness, so that the child is often in a hungry and humid environment and physical state, the child will be sensitive and insecure when he grows up, and it is difficult to establish a good attachment relationship with his mother.
Therefore, the shaping of personality should start from infancy, and it will be in a sensitive state both physically and psychologically. A child will not always be in a stable state from small to large, and there will always be various ups and downs.
For example, during the sensitive period of illness, parents need extra care during this period. In addition to taking good care of the child's body, we should always pay attention to the child's mental state. After 6 months, the antibodies produced by the mother will gradually disappear and the immune system will be underdeveloped. This is the most vulnerable period.
Most babies get sick for the first time at 0.5- 1 year. Because the baby grows rapidly at this stage, illness is not conducive to the normal growth and development of the baby, and at this time, the baby's immune system has not yet developed, unable to resist the invasion of pathogens and microorganisms. Therefore, it is important to delay the first onset of the child as much as possible.
The most important preventive measure in this period is to reduce the invasion of pathogens and microorganisms, and family members must have the awareness of disease prevention. For example, give your child plenty of water, and wash your hands before holding and kissing your child. Try to take children to crowded places as little as possible during the flu.
In the baby's growth stage, although there will be some innate temperament, the attitude of the family in the later period will also have an impact on the child. If there is a second child at home, parents should not focus all their energy on the sick child, but also take care of the psychological state of the child who is not sick. This requires parents to take care of their children together, not only to give sick children enough care and love, but also to consider the psychology of children who are not sick.
Therefore, parents should learn to seek each other's help, even for other children in the family, and learn to cooperate with each other. When parents take care of sick children, they should not only ensure their physical and mental health, but also better safeguard their physical and mental health, otherwise they will pass on bad emotions to their children. If parents are in a bad mood at the moment, they can temporarily entrust their children to others, vent their bad emotions in some decompression ways, and then take care of their children in a good state.
The formation of children's temperament Different children will have different reactions to different stimuli, which is related to their temperament. For example, if you are hungry, some children will pull a long face and some will cry loudly. These differences are determined by their different properties. This is also the basis of biology and genetics.
For babies who can't talk, some are obedient and some are annoying, which is caused by different temperament. The latest research on temperament by experts shows that the temperament of babies can be divided into three categories:
Docile baby: such babies are relatively stable in various physiological laws of eating and excreting, and are easy to adapt to the new environment. Because they have enough sense of security and happiness, they will make their parents feel that they are well cared for. Although this type of baby is easy to raise, don't forget to give them enough love and stimulation.
Weird baby: This kind of child has an irregular physiological cycle and is very sensitive to external stimuli, especially it takes a long time to adapt to the new environment. So many parents find it difficult to bring such children. It is very important for parents to control their emotions first and understand their reactions and emotions.
Slow baby: Although this type of baby is obedient, it is slow to adapt to the new environment. They don't actively express their feelings and are unwilling to accept strange things, but once they adapt, they will make a positive response. Parents should be patient with this type of baby. Give children enough time to adapt.
Most people like docile babies, but in fact, each type of children has its own advantages and disadvantages. For docile babies, many parents neglect careful care because they are clever, which leads to the defects of children's character formation.
When children are 6 months old, they will feel the world through smell and hearing, and then visual development, but parents can't start watching some early education videos to stimulate their visual development. Because children's brain development begins with emotions, and then cognitive ability and social development.
Although video can stimulate children more, but be careful of over-stimulation, children can find the stimulation they need in life, instead of presenting all their brains in front of them. Moreover, Blu-ray, a tool for playing videos, also has a bad influence on children's eyesight.
Children's limited expressive ability in infancy, coupled with parents' inexperience, often miss the period of best communication. In fact, it is very important to pay attention to children's emotions from birth and keep them in a happy emotional experience.
Parents should temporarily put aside all unpleasantness when getting along with their children and try to relax themselves, otherwise the baby will be affected by the parents' nervousness, and then shrink back and feel uneasy. Good mood will have a positive impact on the formation of children's emotional intelligence and IQ. It can make children's personality and social development develop slowly from the inside out.
The starting point of all children's emotions and personalities is parent-child relationship. Intimate parent-child relationship will make children's emotions more stable and let them grow up in an environment full of security.
No matter how good a child's temper is, it will cause some troubles to parents from time to time, but parents should face the child's temper with an inclusive attitude.
Because infants and young children have no self-control and are impulsive, especially after encountering setbacks, they have no strong endurance and can only express their emotions by losing their temper. This situation will not be alleviated until after the age of 4. By this time, they have established some basic logical thinking ability and understood some truth, so they can communicate with their parents better.
If the child is willful or angry at this time, it shows that there is something wrong with the parents' parenting style, and they need to find reasons from themselves and correct the bad parenting style.
Some children are caused by the doting of the elderly. When they don't satisfy their wishes, they will cry and make a scene. At this time, parents must adhere to the principle and cannot give in casually. They can temporarily ignore the child and communicate with the child after the child is emotionally stable.
Every time a child loses his temper, parents should reason with him and tell him why it is wrong to do so. Children should know that their parents love them, but some behaviors are not allowed. This not only achieved the purpose of education, but also affected the parent-child relationship.
Character building actually begins in infancy, so parents should pay attention to their children's words and deeds and emotional control. Only in this way can they cultivate children with good character and good family education.