2. People who stay at home for a long time will be out of touch with the social spirit, forming a habit of dressing casually, not making progress, losing their direction in life, and being silent in their own small circle every day.
It's not as easy for dad to have a mother as himself, and it's too hard to ask others for money every day.
In short, it depends on your family situation!
When you are young, you have the best economic conditions. Don't be a full-time mother. It will affect the development of your career. Learn more skills while you are young, seize the opportunity and don't waste resources. ② It is not good for children's education. You should have a collective concept from an early age and be wronged, otherwise you will develop a dependence mentality when you are old!
If economic conditions permit, you can consider being a full-time mother. Children who grow up with their parents are more optimistic and happier. This character is particularly beneficial to the child's future growth.
However, today's stay-at-home mothers are also "graded" according to the family's economic situation.
I saw a video before, and I divided full-time mothers into "junior full-time mothers", "intermediate full-time mothers" and "senior full-time mothers" according to the family's economic situation. You should consider what kind of life you belong to, whether these are the life you really want, or the life you can survive.
The whole world thinks that a stay-at-home mother is nothing more than staying at home to look after the children, cooking and cleaning, which is a simple and easy thing.
However, is this really the case?
I can't eat on time, I am urged to go to the toilet by my children, and I can't sleep well all night. I believe full-time mothers have a deep understanding, and only they can understand the sadness.
1 the life of a stay-at-home mother in the low-income class is actually very sad.
"Low-income stay-at-home mothers" should not only take care of their children, but also try their best to think about how to earn some extra income, even a few hundred yuan or dozens of yuan, because they really need it in life.
Most of the full-time mothers in the low-income class are mothers with financial difficulties, no elderly people to help take care of their children and can't afford a nanny. They had to resign to take care of their children and barely support themselves with their husbands' meager income.
They don't want to make money. Do they have income? What about the children when they go out to work? Who can give them a job to take their children to work? If there is such a job, mothers are particularly willing to work to earn money.
There are many "low-income" stay-at-home mothers around me. Because the family economy is average, we need to find ways to do some part-time jobs to share the financial burden of taking care of children. For example, those who brush their bills while taking their children, do WeChat business, open online stores, and go out to retail some small toys with their children behind their backs. Although sometimes the income is pitiful, talking is better than nothing.
Also because I need to do some part-time jobs, although I am a full-time mother, sometimes I really can't concentrate on my children completely. Although my life can only be called life, I still want to go on, right?
According to their words, you will never know how sad it is to ask the father for every penny spent. Even the children's fathers sometimes say "I have no money", and that kind of lonely moment makes the life of "low-income stay-at-home mothers" a layer of "shabby", which makes them have to "shop around and haggle over every ounce" in life shopping.
Middle-class stay-at-home mothers can focus on taking care of their children.
The family conditions of "middle-class full-time mothers" are slightly better. Maybe the mother doesn't need to do a part-time job in the process of taking care of the children, but she can do it or not, and she can concentrate on taking care of the children.
This kind of full-time mother doesn't have to worry about the economy, she can take care of her children with peace of mind, and her overall happiness is relatively high. If the family economy belongs to this category, it can really provide children with a better living environment and take care of the environment. Mothers want to take care of their children full-time and accompany them to grow up, which is completely worthy of recognition.
Full-time mothers in high-yield classes can enrich children and their lives.
The life of "high-yield full-time mothers" is completely different, because their families are well-off, they don't need to worry about making money, and they have the conditions to make themselves more comfortable. This category is basically a real "full-time wife".
For example, I know a "stay-at-home mom in a high-yield class". Before the children went to kindergarten, she basically took care of the children with peace of mind, accompanied them to early childhood classes with various interests, and took them to outdoor parks to play. After the children went to kindergarten, she had enough time, enrolled in jazz dance classes, painting classes and photography classes, and was financially able to cultivate her hobbies. She can also pick up and drop off the children on time, and she also has enough time to play with them at night or finish kindergarten courses.
In her words, it is to cultivate children and cultivate self-cultivation at the same time.
According to your situation, your child has already gone to kindergarten. If you are a full-time mother, you will have a lot of time and nothing to do during the day. After a long time, you will definitely feel particularly bored.
If you are really a full-time mother and your children are in kindergarten, I suggest you either find some part-time jobs yourself or find a job that can pick up your children from school early. This is a job that many stay-at-home mothers especially want after their children go to kindergarten, but it is really difficult to find the right time.
If the economy is really affluent, sign up for some interest classes and learn more skills.
I'm a full-time wife. I'm too tired, too tired, much more tired than going out to work.
Whether you want to be a full-time mother without financial pressure depends on your personal choice. Whether you are a working woman or a stay-at-home mother, you have your own advantages and disadvantages.
Benefits of being a stay-at-home mom:
First, we can raise children wholeheartedly and let them develop better. Some people say that parenting can be left to grandparents, but I don't agree. To know that the next generation is the closest, 90% of grandparents will love their grandchildren infinitely, and sometimes even to the point of doting. You know, this dangerous love will make children do whatever they want, be arrogant, and take me as the king, which will ruin their lives. The mother's parenting, because it is a young person, has a more advanced and rational parenting concept, which can maximize the development of children's intelligence and training ability and prepare for their good development in the future.
Second, it can give children a sense of security, make children have love in their hearts, be healthier and more confident psychologically. Mothers bring up older children, because they have always been accompanied by their mothers, so they can feel more parents' love. Children who grow up in an atmosphere full of love will be more lively and confident, and it is easier to establish good and harmonious relationships with people around them. Children who leave their parents often feel abandoned. If psychological counseling is not carried out in time, this feeling will affect her life. When I grow up, I may have a great distrust of the people around me, be afraid of my family, and be uncertain about love, which will affect my feelings and life.
So what are the disadvantages of being a full-time mother?
First, there will be a sense of distance from society.
Every day at home, I care about the daily necessities and the growth of my children. After a long time, you will be out of touch with society and feel that you are a failure. This requires self-adjustment and self-improvement. Being a full-time housewife at home doesn't mean you can give up everything around you. You can also attend classes online, learn some network skills, learn some financial knowledge and so on. In short, don't take being a full-time housewife as an excuse to stand still or regress. Accompanying children and growing up together is the most qualified mother.
Second, I lost my intimacy with my husband.
People always say that my husband and I have been estranged since I gave birth to a child. So why alienate? In addition to some men being irresponsible and irresponsible, mothers should also review themselves. Have you ever paid attention to your children and neglected your husband? You have to understand that everyone has emotional needs. How does it feel when you suddenly transfer all your emotions from your husband to your child? I'm not saying that I don't love children, but at the same time, you should let your husband know that he is also your favorite, and you still need him the most, and you are still the closest. You know, dad loves mom, and mom loves dad, which is the best emotional education for children. Children who grow up in this family environment can find their other half more smoothly, run their own small families better and be happier when they grow up.
Therefore, whether you choose to be a full-time housewife or not, you must remember that you will have a wonderful life by keeping up with the society, enriching yourself, improving yourself and dressing yourself up.
If there is no financial pressure, do you want to be a full-time mother?
It's up to you.
The specific answer is the following video, thank you.
If the child is very young, it is best to be a full-time mother before the age of three, but after the child goes to kindergarten, it is recommended to work. Women should be self-reliant and self-reliant, or they should keep in touch with the outside world and not be divorced from society. Husbands need not only domestic helpers, but also spiritual partners.
There are two aspects to deciding whether to take full-time care of the baby. Apart from economic reasons and our own personality, most mothers have no conditions to choose according to their own temperament.
Under the pressure of life, economic pressure, or mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I have taken various roads. First of all, I envy you, at least I don't have to consider too many economic reasons. This gives you your own reasons. Do you prefer to be with children or work independently? In fact, many times we adults are used to cost calculation, and we can understand your feeling of not giving up halfway at this time. In fact, on the other hand, when children grow up, they only get a little better in life, but it is more difficult in thought. A child's different upbringing has created an unreasonable temperament. Every time we walk into the hearts of children, it is particularly important. They entered kindergarten for the first time and made new friends. There are too many changes in their hearts, which need the correct guidance of our adults. If you are too busy to take care of so many children, the mental gap brought to children is far more difficult than work. However, it makes no difference if a mother really likes her job and doesn't love her children. Because children delay going out to work, it will affect their mood and take care of their babies. Actually, any road will do. If the mother is at ease, the child will be more at ease and get better love.
First of all, the whole society is aware of a problem: being a full-time mother is a very hard and great career, which has made great contributions to society and family! Don't be ashamed of being a full-time mother. Our society should be proud that more outstanding women are willing to be full-time mothers!
As for the personal career choice of "whether to be a full-time mother", you need to ask yourself a few questions first:
1. Do I like being with my children and family? Do you like staying at home? Do you love ordinary and trivial life?
Are you depressed and autistic if you don't go out for a week and see your friends?
2. Do I have my own hobbies? Am I a self-disciplined person? Can you arrange your life splendidly when you are alone? Do you like being alone?
3. The most important point: Do I have income? Whether it's investment, freelancing or previous savings, will my husband and I have enough income to support my life and hobbies after sharing the share of family expenses?
All three conditions must be met, otherwise, in the current social environment, being a full-time mother is a career with extremely low input-output ratio and high risk!
May all women make choices rationally, prudently and with respect for their own hearts!
If there is no financial pressure, then I want to congratulate you. You have more choices than the average mother, and at the same time, you can enjoy being a mother or a woman more.
As an independent individual, it is your choice whether to be a full-time mother or not. Some people like being a full-time mother, while others don't. Some people can adapt to being a full-time mother, while others can't. Therefore, only you know whether shoes are suitable or not, such as people drinking water and knowing the change of temperature. No one can make a decision for you, and there is no room for you to choose.
However, as a mother, you must devote more time and energy to your children. While pursuing personal freedom, don't forget your responsibilities as a mother. After all, you were born and raised, the future of your child lies with you, and the responsibility of your child lies with you. Therefore, we must not give up some rights and obligations as mothers because of the pursuit of personal freedom.
Is it necessary to be a mother for the sake of being a mother, and to tie her life with her children and family? Of course, we can't go to extremes. I suggest that when your child is zero to three years old, you should think hard and be a good mother, which will have an impact on your child's development. Even before the children go to primary school, I don't advise you to do jobs that are too busy to take care of.
As a semi-full-time mother and an experienced person, I tell you that there are many kinds of full-time mothers, and there are also full-time mothers. Some people can cultivate excellent children, while others are caught in an anxious life.
I have answered questions about stay-at-home mothers before. You can come and have a look if you are interested. Being a good mother is not as simple as it seems. If you don't think hard, you won't know how good your children can be.