Nowadays, in many urban families, grandma has become the main force to take care of children, because many children's mothers feel afraid to tell their mother-in-law what they think, for fear of causing family conflicts, but if they are their own mothers, they can say it casually. However, this makes many grandmothers feel uncomfortable, not because they are too tired to take care of their children, but because they are prone to conflicts with their daughters. Recently, Aunt Wang often told her old sisters not to help her daughter with her children. It turned out that Aunt Wang's helping her grandson led to the contradiction between herself and her daughter-in-law.

Last year, Aunt Wang's daughter gave birth to a baby girl, but because her mother-in-law was not very satisfied with the baby girl, she didn't want to take care of the child. At this time, my daughter turned to Aunt Wang for help. At first, Aunt Wang felt nothing, but once she missed breastfeeding because she didn't wake the sleepy child. As a result, my daughter and son-in-law scolded for a long time. After this incident, Aunt Wang was a little sad. She felt that she had no obligation to help with the children, and only because she was distressed by her daughter would she agree to this request. I didn't expect her daughter and son-in-law to be ungrateful at all. Since then, Aunt Wang has often talked about this with her old sisters and suggested that they try not to help with the children.

In fact, Aunt Wang also said angry words. Afterwards, her daughter-in-law also apologized for her bad attitude. However, there are indeed many families that are not suitable for grandma to help with the children. First of all, daughters and sons-in-law of some families don't know how to be grateful. This kind of family is not suitable for grandma or grandma to help with the children, because the contribution of the elderly may be scolded and accused. Anyway, if you do it yourself, you will be accused. If you don't do it, you will be rejected. You might as well live a little easier. This is not selfishness, but thinking more about yourself.

The other is that the husband's family completely ignores the children's family. Sometimes it is understandable that a child's grandparents can't help to look after the child. They may be in poor health, or they may be in different places. These are understandable reasons, but children are not the responsibility of a family. Since they are their grandchildren, that is the responsibility of the two families. If the husband's family doesn't bother at all, the burden of the child will all fall on grandma. Therefore, it is best to discuss how to take care of children before marriage, otherwise there may be many disputes in the future.

In other families, grandma is in poor health, so there is no need for the elderly to drag their sick bodies to help take care of the children. Parents want their children to live a relaxed life before helping them, so children should also think of their parents. If both parents are in poor health, then you can consider hiring a nanny or sending your child to an early education institution. Although this is also an expense, it can also solve the problem of children's care and avoid many contradictions.

I often hear old people complain about the hard work of helping their children with their children, which is not only physical fatigue, but also psychological pain. Since young parents are parents themselves, they should understand how hard it will be to take care of their children. Old people don't know any trendy educational ideas, and often teach their children according to their own experience. If everyone thinks this is wrong, they should tell the old people well, not lose their temper with them, but also be grateful and filial to them.